Lolly's Secrets Podcast: Grow and develop into your best self

Have you ever wondered why the people nearest and dearest to your heart are just not as supportive of your business venture as you hoped they would be?

Well... in this episode, we go deep and look at it from all sorts of angles.

Try not to get too far into your feelings! I know I struggled!

Also! Here's the book that has helped with keeping my perspective in check. It is small but mighty! 

The Four Agreements: Practical Guide to Personal Freedom: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (Toltec Wisdom)

by Don Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills 

I hope you enjoy the episode as much as I did recording it.

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Ciao!

Lolly.

Hi and Welcome back to Lolly's Secrets Podcast!

Today we are breaking down why it is so important to unpack our emotional baggage before we go into a new relationship.

We also look at the process of actually unpacking the baggage, what to do after we have unpacked it, the typical types to look out for and future outlook.

Stick around till the end for some key nuggets.

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Until the next Episode!

Ciao

Love

Lolly

Hi and Welcome Back to Lolly's Secrets!

Sope Opayemi Takes us through her journey of becoming an interior designer and drops some key nuggets that we will note below.

1. If you are pivoting from an existing career to move into interior design or are already in the middle of studying another course, you can always research schools that can take your grades and convert some of your scores into a master's program, the way Sope did.

Tip 1 - Work experience is very useful for dipping your feet into the pool to see if you're really interested or if it is just a phase. You get to see what a full day looks like and understand if it is really for you.

2. Relationships are important - jobs are based on the relationships between you and your client. Building on and maintaining those relationships is key to your success.

3. Your team -  having the right team is essential to any interior designers success because your team can make or break your projects

Source the through referrals, pick them by skill level, test their skills, work ethic, and willingness to earn. Incentivizing your team is important

 Tip 2 - Management skills are fundamental to any interior designer. You must have people skills and be able to get the job done regardless of the situation

4. Networking - Join your associations to meet other interior designers as well as others in the industry so that you can get chances at collaborations. However, caution is advised as some collaborations may come with their own problems.

5. Monetization - payment is normally a percentage of the budget or the project and varies from project to project.

Further monetization can be gained by using specific vendors to earn a commission depending on the partnership you have with them.

6. Involvement of a Client in the Project - a commercial project is usually 50% and residential 80%

7. How do you decide on a client? - a) budget, b) size of the project. c) client's commitment to the project, d) creative license, e) the rate at which the client pays you, f) vibe.

Some unethical practices in the industry:

A. clients holding on to your balance when you have completed the work to their specification

B. sexual harassment from clients

C. Pressure to gain clients in unethical ways

Tip 3 - Design Home App is a game on IOS and Android phones that lets you be an interior designer in the game. try it!

8. Diversify - real estate is a nice way to diversify. You can buy a property, redo the interior and flip it. Alternatively, you can build a purpose building like a resort

Tip 4 - The difference between a decorator and an interior designer is that a decorator cant effect changes to the built form. They can only make the space look aesthetically beautiful. An interior designer makes indoor spaces functional by determining space requirements and selecting essential and more decorative items such as colours, lighting, and materials. they must be able to draw, read and edit blueprints. you do not need a degree to be a decorator but you definitely need a degree to be a designer.

9. Residential pet projects can be a saviour in building your portfolio

10. No project is too small. It is all about building your portfolio.

Thank You so much for listening to the show! Don't forget to Rate and Subscribe for more content.

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For more details on our guest, please see her contact details below.

Contact details for Sope Opayemi: Instagram: @niffydesignstudio, website: www.niffydesign.com

Until the next Episode... Ciao!

Love

Lolly

Hi and welcome back to Lolly's Secrets!

Here are 5 things to note When working on your support system:

1. Reassess who you lean on for support on the different areas of your life (financial, emotional, spiritual, etc)

2. Make sure that the people in your support system are supposed to be raised to the importance level of "support system" - not everyone is cut out for such an important role.

3. Check to see if everyone is doing what they are meant to be doing in the role they are supposed to play in your support system. e.g your financial support supporting you financially? your mentor advising you and leading you right?

4. Time to set boundaries- Unacceptable behaviour is no longer tolerated. The level can only be determined by you.cut off, partial, etc

5. Find new people who will complete your support system in the right way e.g. meet up groups. church, therapist, activity-based clubs, etc

Bonus tip!

Be aware that what goes around, comes right back around. Learn to be your first critic. self-awareness is critical. Assess yourself! make sure you are also there for your loved ones and checking to be sure you are doing your part in their support system before you get cut off too!

Continuous assessment is key!

I hope this helps keep you sane in a not so sane world.

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Ciao!

Lolly

Lolly's Secrets

Hi and welcome back to Lolly's Secrets! The mission is to stay sane. The battle is Grace under Fire how do you do it?  easy! by setting boundaries in creative ways that don't offend but get your message across! remember.. dont lose your peace in the process!!! here are my top tips! and follow me on instagram for more up to date content. Keep your visiting dates short and sweet Stay in a hotel or air b & b if you can afford it If you are are staying with family, be a gracious house guest Always take a nice token gift to give host (tea, chocolate, scented candles, etc) Be prepared for uninvited question about your life from family who mean well Schedule time for you e.g take naps, long walks Prepare for unsolicited advice to tackle life’s challenges Careful with your words- once said, can't unsay them - pick your battles Distractions are great to diffuse tension - games e.g board games, cards, PS4, etc Always have a wing person at events with secret signs for danger and good to go Graciously thank the host for all their hard work. For more content, check out my website www.lollysecrets.com  Until the next one, Happy holidays! Luv Lolly

Hi and welcome back to lolly's Secrets podcast!

On this episode, I interview Oyinkan Braithwaite who is a published author that has won many awards for her book "My Sister The Serial Killer".

Some of the key takeaways from the show on being a successful writer are as follows:

1. Once you have an idea, just start writing
2. Dialogue helps with setting the tone for the mood in each scene
3. When starting a story, start with a short story or a novella instead of a novel
4. Try prompts when brainstorming. They help to trigger inspiration
5. Every author needs a good agent. make sure to get one that is in sync with your genre

If you want to know more about Oyinkan Braithwaite and connect with her, please see her website and social media below:

Website: oyinkanbraithwaite.com

Instagram: @OyinBraithwaite

Facebook: facebook.com/oyinbraithwaite

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