Shot@Love

Unlock the transformative power of breakups with relationship scientist Dr. Gary Lewandowski, who joins us to offer a fresh perspective on the end of love affairs. Through the lens of his book "Stronger Than You Think" and the innovative tool StayGo, Dr. Lewandowski guides us through heartbreak's hidden opportunities, drawing on the Japanese art of kintsugi to illustrate finding strength in our fractures. The dialogue promises empowerment, emphasizing personal growth and liberation that often go unrecognized amidst the anguish of a split.

As we navigate the aftermath of a relationship, Dr. Lewandowski shares groundbreaking findings on how rediscovering oneself can be self-care. We discuss the study, revealing a surprising twist: the comfort found in re-engaging with pre-relationship interests outweighs that of new pursuits. This episode probes the complexities of identity and the intertwining that occurs within a partnership, highlighting the importance of a diversified self. We also tackle the weighty decisions that come with potentially ending a relationship, underscoring the gravity of such crossroads in life.

Turning the spotlight on the enigmatic dance of attraction and power within relationships, we scrutinize the halo effect and its deceptive sway. Dr. Lewandowski and I dissect the allure of physical beauty, its fleeting promise, and the stability found in more profound, more compatible matches. Finally, we dive into maintaining an equitable power balance and how authenticity and self-reflection can foster healthier, more balanced connections. This episode promises not just insights, but practical wisdom for those seeking to understand the heart's journey through love and loss.

Ever wondered how celestial events can shake up your love life? Prepare to be enlightened as we're joined by Jill Jardine, an esteemed astrologer and psychic healer, whose insights on recent eclipses and Pluto's monumental shift into Aquarius will leave you contemplating the cosmic forces at play in your personal relationships. Discover the secrets to navigating these transformative times and how to harness the power of astrology to clear past blockages and invite new beginnings, setting the stage for a period of deep personal growth that could redefine your connections with others.

As the planets dance through their retrogrades and transits, we're here to guide you through the cosmic quicksand. With Mercury throwing curveballs in communication and travel, we share firsthand experiences and practical tips for thriving during these phases. Anticipate a summer pulsing with love and social vibrancy, thanks to Venus glowing in Taurus and Mars charging into Aries. And if you're on the hunt for romance, we've got you covered as Jill is your celestial wingman. Jill's optimism is contagious, offering a glimpse into how the planets are aligning to spice up your social calendar as we approach the warmer months.

But it's not all about the stars; sometimes, the magic lies in the mundane. The Swedish concept of death cleaning might not sound like a love potion, but creating space in your home can open doors to new opportunities. We share how decluttering and aligning your space with feng shui can energetically invite potential partners into your life. Plus, we look at the holistic ties between physical movement, a spring-cleaned liver, and a decluttered mind. Join us as Jill Jardine imparts her wisdom and anecdotes, inspiring you to embrace change, step into a vibrant social scene, and find the love that aligns with the stars.

This episode is all about mastering deliberate attraction! Join us as we welcome Michael Losier, renowned author of the Law of Attraction, who has empowered millions worldwide with his wisdom. Discover how to swiftly navigate through resistance and fear on your journey to finding love. Learn Michael's 3-step process for deliberate attraction and how to banish doubt, allowing love to flow effortlessly into your life. Gain clarity on what you desire, and confidently place your order with the universe. Michael emphasizes the power of language, urging us to eliminate words like 'don't,' 'not,' and 'no,' and reset our vibrations to manifest incredible relationships and find the love we truly deserve.

Dive into practical tips with Michael Losier and Kerry Brett as they discuss:

• Becoming a deliberate attractor for your ideal partner.
• Embracing allowance as the antidote to doubt.
• Resetting your vibration to align with love.
• Eliminating limiting language patterns.
• Harnessing the potency of beliefs in attracting love.
• Affirming your intentions daily to magnetize your perfect match.
• The significance of keeping your dating experiences private, but when you talk about them, highlight what worked and what was positive.
• Look for proof to remove doubt; love is all around, and people find love every day.

To find more insights from Michael Losier, visit www.michaellosier.com and connect on Clubhouse (@Michael Losier) or Instagram (@michael_losier_loa). Don't miss out on his transformative book, "Law of Attraction," or book an appointment at www.ReleasingNegativeEmotions.com to assist you on your journey towards love and fulfillment.

Shot@Love host Kerry Brett interviews comedian Laurie Hurd Ferreira about the launch party they hosted last week – Shot@Love Live to bring singles together to make new connections and find love. The event was a success and Kerry and Laurie give you the play-by-play recap of the event and share what they learned about singles live events.

· The episode promises insights into their recent Shot@Love Live event, filled with love, laughter, and unexpected twists.

· The event aimed to bring those serious about finding love. Kerry also discusses Laurie's inspiring journey from sobriety to the spotlight.

· Kerry and Laurie discussed the highs, lows, and everything in between of their electrifying in-person experience.

Event Successes: Sold-out Event: The event was a success, with a packed room and five couples finding love.

Positive Feedback: Over 80 women attended and had a fantastic time, enjoying food, drinks, and laughter.

Building Community: Attendees made new friends and connections, fostering a supportive community.

Comedy Highlight: The comedy segment was a hit, showcasing the healing power of laughter.

Pushing Comfort Zones: Attendees stepped out of their comfort zones, leading to personal growth and new experiences.

Positive Experience for Men: Despite the low turnout of men, those who attended had a great time and landed dates.

Challenges and Lessons Learned: Despite extensive promotional efforts, Kerry and Laurie faced challenges in attracting male attendees.

Only a few men showed up despite initial commitments.

Kerry and Laurie learned about the difficulties of finding men organically and post-COVID challenges.

Despite setbacks, they are determined to make adjustments and continue their mission.

Promotional Efforts: Kerry Brett's press efforts included articles and interviews on Newsbreak and Kiss 108 radio.

Despite transparent promotions and comped tickets, attracting male attendees remained challenging.

Future Plans: Kerry and Laurie plan to organize a brainstorming session with attendees to find solutions.

remain committed to fostering connections and creating meaningful events.

Pros and Cons of Singles Events: Pros include free food and drinks, meeting new people, trying new experiences, and supporting local businesses.

Cons include the possibility of not finding love, but attending events offers entertainment and socialization opportunities.

Conclusion: Attendees had a chance to win prizes and support local businesses while mingling with other singles.

Attending singles events offers opportunities for personal growth and potentially finding love.

Kerry and Laurie encourage listeners to stay tuned for future events and continue supporting Shot@Love's mission of bringing people together in pursuit of love.

Shot@Love Episode Show Notes: "Setting The Stage For Love & Laughter"

Introduction
Host: Kerry Brett celebrates Valentine's Day and Shot@Love’s four-year anniversary.

Exciting guest: Laurie Hurd Ferreira discussing her journey from businesswoman to standup comedian and revitalizing the local performing arts scene.

Laurie's Story
Laurie shares her journey, starting with modeling, marriage, and motherhood.
The challenges of divorce and the impact on her life.
Struggling with alcoholism, reaching a breaking point, and deciding to seek help.
The power of sobriety: Laurie's transformation and the positive impact on her life and family.
Sobriety is a daily commitment; one day at a time.
Laurie emphasizes the importance of wanting sobriety and putting in the work.
Sobriety as a gift: improved relationships and a better life.

Overcoming Fear
Laurie's advice for those afraid to make a change: Fear is often behind our decisions.
Taking the first step, breaking stereotypes, and embracing change.

Comedy and Transformation
Laurie's journey into comedy as a result of overcoming challenges.
Comedy as a platform for sharing relatable stories and connecting with others.
The gift of finding one's purpose and joy.

The Live Event: Shot@Love Live
Announcement of a new live event for Shot@Love community on March 7th at Tosca in Hingham.
An evening of laughter, connections, networking, and surprises.
A unique opportunity for singles to meet in person, enjoy comedy, and build new relationships.

Welcome to a brand-new episode of Shot@Love! New Year, New Goals, New You! I'm thrilled to start this year with an extraordinary guest, Jill Jardine, a host of Cosmic Scene and a renowned Psychic Healer. Jill sets the stage for the new year to come and shares with us the upcoming astrology, lucky days to date, and Pluto's influential power, urging us to gear up for a warp-speed year ahead. Welcome to the cosmic party that 2024 ushers in.

As we transition from holiday festivities to a Mars-driven focus on work, Jill guides us through the energies shifting from Sagittarius to the practicality of Capricorn.

January presents pivotal lunar events—the new moon on 1.11 and a significant full moon in Leo on January 25th, promising opportunities for fruitful beginnings and expansive love.

Brace for the sun's move into Aquarius, heralding the Age of Aquarius, but remember, self-care takes precedence before embracing the accelerating Aquarian energies.

But it's not just about the stars; Jill shares how these cosmic movements will impact relationships, offering insights into zodiac signs poised for significant changes and highlighting auspicious periods for new and existing relationships.

We discuss celestial events influencing romantic energies, how to align with astrological forces to enhance dating experiences, and the essential aspects of navigating relationships, ensuring harmonious communication and understanding.

Join Jill as she decodes the cosmic party that 2024 brings, unveiling how the Leo full moon on January 25th invites us to let our love light shine while also preparing for surprises ahead. Jill shares insights on the impact of these cosmic currents on long-term commitments and offers practices and advice for singles seeking love amidst these celestial shifts.

Additionally, she sheds light on utilizing personal astrological charts effectively in the dating scene of early 2024, setting the stage for an accelerated, transformative year where it's time for each of us to shine brightly.

Join dating aficionado, renowned podcaster, videographer Brian Alves, and host Kerry Brett as they share their journey through the maze of modern romance. With Brian's unmatched expertise in the world of love and a reach of 250,000 listeners weekly on the DV Show – Video Production Just Got Easier Podcast, this episode promises a whirlwind of wisdom and wittiness.

Episode Highlights
It's all about first impressions: Explore the profound impact of initial encounters and unearth top-notch tips for leaving an indelible first impression.
Communication: Effective communication strategies emphasize the importance of active listening and genuine engagement on those pivotal first dates.
Navigating conversational terrain: Brian shares his go-to conversation topics and how he maneuvers through potentially sensitive subjects, ensuring smooth sailing through any dialogue.
Body language decoded: From door-holding debates to the silent language of attraction, discover the significance of body language in forging connections without words.
The texting artistry: Brian's secrets behind becoming a master texter, infusing personality and humor into messages while fostering genuine connections.
The bill-paying conundrum: We share a timeless debate of splitting or covering the bill. Gain insights and etiquette pointers on this hotly contested topic.
Honoring boundaries: Recognize cues and signals, ensuring respect and engagement
while sidestepping the pitfalls of distracted interactions.
Punctuality and planning precision: From differing perspectives on planning efforts to the significance of punctuality, Brian and Kerry provide invaluable advice on this contentious subject.
Post-date feedback: Ghosting or honest communication? Explore the dos and don'ts of
follow-up interactions after a date, navigating the delicate post-date landscape.
Embracing awkwardness: Laugh off the awkward with Brian's anecdotes, showcasing graceful navigation through uncomfortable situations, turning them into opportunities.

Key Takeaways:
Patience pays off: Understanding someone might need time, perhaps three dates, to open up.
Embrace authenticity:
Be flexible, vulnerable, and resilient; authenticity triumphs over missteps.
Be present and caring: Show genuine interest, put away distractions, and cultivate kindness; it's the cornerstone of a successful first date.

So grab your favorite seltzer and buckle up for Shot@Love's whirlwind ride, where Brian Alves brings unparalleled expertise, humor, and authenticity to unravel the enigma of modern dating!

Get ready to be swept off your feet for this dynamic duo: The Golden Dating Doctors, Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers! These two aren’t just experts but are proof that love knows no age limits. They share their secrets to senior dating in their new book, Open to Love. Picture this: psychologists and seniors who stumbled upon each other’s hearts on Silver Singles after enduring personal losses. Their love story isn’t just inspiring; it’s a testament to the endless possibilities of love, even when it seems out of reach. They share the highs and lows of dating, shining the pathway to success in finding love at any stage of life. This episode is for those seeking love and anyone who’s ever doubted that their best days are behind them and why you should never stop believing!

Kerry Brett, Dr. Gloria Horsley, and Dr. Frank Power cover much ground around dating. Topics include;

• Meet the Golden Dating Doctors, Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers, who exemplify love beyond age limits.
• Living Proof of Love: Their personal story reflects the limitless potential of love, as they found each other after personal losses through Silver Singles.
• Their Mission: Sharing insights on senior dating and addressing the loneliness and challenges faced in later stages of life.
• Gloria’s Transition: Following her partner's passing, she embraced grief groups and ventured into dating, encountering lessons that fueled the idea for their book.
• Finding Frank: Their meeting on Silver Singles sparked an immediate connection, leading to two years of shared love.
• Shared Loss: Both experienced personal tragedies that brought them closer together, understanding the depths of grief and healing.
• Dating Insights: Their shared experiences revealed crucial aspects often overlooked in dating, especially in the later stages of life.
• Overcoming Setbacks: Emphasizing reframing setbacks as learning experiences rather than failures.
• Compatibility: Stressing the significance of shared values, backgrounds, and companionship over superficial attractions in older relationships.
• Finding a Best Friend: Highlighting the value of finding a partner who becomes a best friend, fostering acceptance and understanding.
• Make a list of what you like and don't like regarding relationships because it will save you a lot of time.
• Why you need to get a dating buddy: Having a dating buddy will help your chances of success.
• Getting clear about what you're looking for in a partner.

Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Power's book Open to Love will be available on Valentine's Day in 2024. Listen to their podcast Open to Hope for more inspiring stories of finding love. Follow on Instagram @opentohopefoundation.

Today, we're joined by the trailblazer himself, Evan Marc Katz. Back in 2003, Evan made history as the world’s first dating coach, specializing in helping smart and successful women find lasting love. With four published books and a Love U podcast with over 2 million downloads, Evan's impact and expertise haven’t gone unnoticed. He’s been featured in hundreds of media outlets, from Today to the New York Times and The Wall Street Journal. CNN once called him a serial dater, but Evan’s journey would serve a higher purpose–to decipher the male mind, decode their actions, and uncover what they truly want. His mission? To empower women to raise their standards and never settle for anything less. This episode is for the incredible women who’ve got it all–except love.

Throughout our conversation, we'll discuss Evan's coaching philosophy and learn how to break free from the cycle of attracting the wrong men. It's all about finding not just anyone but the right one for a fulfilling, long-term relationship. Evan's community-building efforts have seen over 13,000 women graduate from Love U, and today, he'll share how to become the CEO of your love life. And put us on the path to finding high-quality, commitment-oriented partners.

Kerry Brett and Evan Marc Katz cover a lot of ground. Topics include;

· Evan's journey into coaching stemmed from his dating failures; necessity is the mother of invention. His passion for finding love turned into decoding male actions and helping women understand what men truly want.
· Empowering Women: The mission is to elevate women’s standards and help them avoid settling for less in relationships.
· Challenges for Smart, Successful Women: The Smartness Factor: Discussing if being highly intelligent creates relationship challenges.
· Tripped Up by Intelligence: How intelligent women might face difficulties in dating.
· Diverse Backgrounds: Addressing successful women's challenges in various fields such as science, business, and academia.
· Balancing Success: Exploring the downsides of dating someone equally successful.
· Money and Happiness: Delving into advice for women dating someone who earns less.
· Expectations and Emotional Availability: Understanding men’s responses and emotional availability in relationships
· Dead-End Relationships: Avoid investing time in unfulfilling or ambiguous situations ships.
· Identifying Red Flags Early: Recognizing and gracefully exiting unsuitable relationships without guilt or pressure.
· Breaking Negative Patterns: Actionable steps to break the cycle of attracting the wrong partners.
· Chemistry's Role: Exploring the significance of chemistry beyond common interests.
· Why chemistry alone doesn’t sustain a relationship in the long run.
· Balancing Act: Distinguishing between settling and compromising in relationships.
· Identifying Long-Term Compatibility: Understanding signs that indicate a partner is suitable for the long term.
· Advice for individuals who've struggled despite trying various methods.
· Addressing the complexities of modern dating and simplifying approaches.
· Identifying common limiting beliefs and encouraging women to leave their comfort zones.
· Practical methods for women to boost self-worth and confidence in their dating journey.

To find out more about Evan Marc Katz, go to www.evankatz.com. To find out the Seven Mistakes You're Making In Dating, go to evankatz.com/kerry

Dr. Christie Kederian is a nationally renowned relationship expert specializing in helping clients create the lives they want and find the love they deserve. With an extensive career as a professional matchmaker and relationship expert for eHarmony and Match.com, Christie has helped hundreds of people find love and improve relationships. She is a "Triple Trojan," receiving her Bachelor's, Master's & doctoral degree at the University of Southern California in Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy. Christie has been a featured expert in ABC, NBC, KTLA, The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, and many more. She is also a professional speaker and provides training with the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Kerry Brett and Dr. Christie Kederian cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
How to navigate dating during the holidays.
How relationships impact who we are as people.
Dr. Christie's online and offline dating strategies for dating during the holidays.
What Dr. Christie's learned about compatibility from working at eHarmony.
How to avoid falling into the scarcity mindset.
How to reset when you get discouraged with the online dating process.
Dr. Christie's Criteria Sandwich and why you should clarify your core values.
Dr. Christie's Silver Bullet Swipe and why you should focus on the main thing you want in another person.