Collectively Podcast

We're back and we are asking, "What is happiness?"

We explore the social and familial pressures of happiness and how they can influence our lives. We discuss whether happiness is taught or intuitive, how wearing the mask of "Everything is fine" can have toxic side effects, and how to get happy on your own terms.

Share your questions and comments on our Instagram @collectivelypodcast, on Twitter @CollectivelyPod, and at [email protected]. Stay tuned for our next episode on Black Erasure in Rock.

Fatima & Alex dive into witchcraft! We discuss our pasts with growing up religious and explore our journeys to discovering our own beliefs. We explain history's erasure of the early contributions in medicine and health that women and witches gave to the world.We get into how we heal ourselves with our practices and describe our favorite tools. We also ask, "What is a familiar?"  We give our top 3 tools every witch should add to their craft and give advice to baby witches not yet out of the broom closet. Later on, we debate witch appropriation and why black-only spaces are needed. Stay tuned for Witchcraft part deux!

Say it loud! This episode, we discuss being pro black and interracial relationships. Is it pro black to support and fight for the black community while dating a non-person of color?  We share our experiences of growing up in Georgia and the hard lessons we learned in racism. We explain what an interracial relationship is and explore the troubles that may arise outside of the relationship, such as racist friends and family disapproval. We explain how a non-POC can make themselves an ally and "do the work" with their partner and themselves. We debate on whether the LGBTQ community is more accepting of race and interracial couples than the black community. Do you think you can be pro black and in an interracial relationship? Do you think it requires too much work? Let us know! Share your questions and comments on our Instagram @collectivelypodcast, on Twitter @CollectivelyPod, and at [email protected]. Stay tuned for the next episode on Women Loving Women! Background music provided by PurplePlanet.com

This episode we continue our discussion on the cultural changes of dating and relationships in the fast paced world of swipe culture. We debate on the differences between asking to "hang out" and asking someone on a date. We also ask, "who should really pay?" We share our favorite pre-date routines and how we like to be courted. We get into how to approach the exclusivity talk and what happens when you assume things. Spoiler: It makes an ass out of you, Ed Sheeran. We end the discussion on what non-exclusivity looks like and why we still cheat anyway. Stay tuned for our next episode on interracial dating & being pro black. How do you approach the exclusive talk? What is your experience with nonmonogamy? Share your questions and comments on our Instagram @collectivelypodcast, on Twitter @CollectivelyPod, and at [email protected]. Background music provided by PurplePlanet.com

In this episode we get into self care and self love! We start with the different types of personal care, from physical to spiritual. We dive into our favorite methods of implementing care, whether you're at home or work. We discuss the importance of routine and and sharing your boundaries. Listen to our weirdest self care practices followed by our answer to the question: Who Needs Self Care? We end things after discussing the Standard of Happiness and ask what it looks like to us. What does your standard of happiness look like? Share your questions and comments on our Instagram @collectivelypodcast, on Twitter @CollectivelyPod, and at [email protected]. Background music provided by PurplePlanet.com

This episode we get into the chaos that you find in the world of online dating, discuss whether trying IRL is even worth it anymore, and debate on which apps give you the best results. We explain the methods we use in communicating what we are looking for with our matches and each give our top three deal breakers that immediately make us swipe left. We end part one with our top 3 tips for swipes. Maybe they'll make you a swipe master, maybe they'll make your match smile. Either way, you're in. Just no 50 word copy pasta. They WILL know. Stay tuned for episode 5 on Self Care and check us out on Instagram @CollectivelyPodcast, Twitter @CollectivelyPod, and join our Patreon Collectively Podcast and stay tuned for bonus content coming soon! Introduction background music provided by PurplePlanet.com.

For part 2 of our Black & Kinky episode we dive into the BDSM community and ask, are people of color represented in the community today? We start this session with our stories of popping our kink cherries and local places we have explored. We give tips on discussing safe words and what to do when you cannot say those words. We share our ways of finding kink buddies and the importance of having platonic friends in the lifestyle. We end the episode with a discussion on ice breakers and sharing your limits and interests with new play partners. Listen to the patreon to hear our Top 5 Kinks & Accessories to bring to the scene! Share your questions and comments on our Instagram @collectivelypodcast, on Twitter @CollectivelyPod, and at [email protected]. Join our Patreon to hear our strangest kinky stories from last episode's bonus content! Background music provided by PurplePlanet.com

In this episode of Collectively we are definitely going to get a little dark...and sexy...wait, no..BLACK AND KINKY! We are going there. Everything from breaking the stereotypes of race and sex to our personal experiences. We discuss our first kinky experiences, how society fetishizes The Other, and why after care is important no matter which side of the whip you're on . We get into what kinks are considered too kinky for black people and The Movie that Shall Not Be Named that had everyone and their mamas going to grab a pair of fuzzy handcuffs. We share how porn has failed people of color and the trans community and how religion plays a role in our sex lives as adults. Stay tuned to the end of the episode for our advice on Coming Out Kinky. Share your questions and comments on our Instagram @collectivelypodcast, on Twitter @CollectivelyPod, and at [email protected]. Join our Patreon to hear our strangest kinky stories! Background music provided by PurplePlanet.com

This episode we explore Body Talk in the context of the female body. We discuss from the surface of the skin and beauty, how sex education in Georgia failed us, perm trauma, the struggles women face behind the bathroom door, and the weird questions we are too afraid to talk about. We applaud the recent strides towards representation that our society has seen while we tackle how to deal with the negative messages we receive daily in the media. Things get messy when we dive into The Blunder from Down Under and the gross things men never see and can never unhear! Stay in touch us on our Instagram @collectivelypodcast and on Twitter @CollectivelyPod