Bad At Love Podcast

There's an expectation here in Minnesota and I’m sure in other states, that when you are leaving a social gathering, that the first "goodbye" is not the last. Usually, it takes about 20 additional minutes to get out of the door. This phenomenon is called "The Minnesota Goodbye". It's akin to, "no, you hang up".  It is with that notion in mind that Tamu & Mallory have decided to say "goodbye" to Bad at Love Podcast. 

In this final episode, they talk about the cost of being single with the help of Anne Helen Petersen’s Vox article, “The Escalating Cost of Being Single in America”. Tamu gets verklempt talking about the Sex and the City reboot, And Just Like That. Finally, they determine if they are still Bad at Love. The answer? Probably.

Moral to the Story: TTFN! (Ta Ta For Now) We are so very grateful for the friends we have made along the way and thankful to all of those who have listened to our snorts and rants these past three years.

If you need a Mallory and/or Tamu Fix:

Follow Mallory on Twitch. Play a game and say, “hey!”.

Listen to When the Bill Comes Due podcast. Tamu and her friend Aaron come to terms with midlife during a pandemic and social reckoning.

Rewind Bad at Love Podcast from the beginning for a bit of nostalgia.

Stay safe. Stay healthy.

We’re baaaaaaccccccckkk!

If anything could bring us out of the grimness that is 2021 and back to the mics, it has to be Netflix’s new “dating show”, “Sexy Beasts.” We watch all six episodes so you NEVER have to.

Moral to the Story: This is a Sophie's Choice of dating for thin, fit, hot people. You may have chosen the hot Beaver, but what if the hot Manatee was even hotter?!

Besides trying to survive this hell scape, what have we been up to since September?

• Mallory is becoming a gaming diva on Twitch. Help grow her community! Like, subscribe, watch, and share with your friends.
• Tamu has a new podcast called, "When the Bill Comes Due" with her friend Aaron. Give it a listen! After you've listened to this episode!

Let's face it, it has been a pretty crap week for women. Mallory and Tamu talk about the travesty that was the indictment of the police officer who shot through Breonna Taylor's walls, but not for shooting her. They also touch on a little tiny news story about women on the verge of losing all of their reproductive rights with the new conservative Supreme Court. No biggie, right?!

Moral to the Story: *sigh* History is repeating itself people, we have to come together and fight as one.

Mallory and Tamu were joined by Hannah and SooJin of the Antiracist Parenting Podcast in the first of what we can hope are many conversations about what Antiracism is, how to related to individuals who might not be "there" and how it is possible for us all to move about the world as Antiracist humans.

Moral to the Story: The meaning of Sankofa - "You must reach back to reclaim that which is lost in order to move forward."

So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed

• History is important.
• If you do nothing, you are being passively racist.
• What about white folks? Racism dehumanizes white folks, once they realizing they are losing their humanity, they will stop dehumanizing BIPOC.
• On cancel culture: some things need to be cancelled. Itis a step forward towards accountability.
• How to deal with loved ones who might see things differently: live life where your values align. To be in relation with people whose values don't align can be done up to a point.
• Being intentional and deliberate in what you are doing is the key to managing through complex relationships.

Learn More...

• LISTEN: Antiracist Parenting Podcast.
• READ: Soojin's book - From Orphan to Adoptee: U.S. Empires and Genealogies of Korean Adoption
• WRITE: Ode to George - This anthology seeks to collect the individual experiences that people have had at George Perry Floyd’s Memorial Site in order to memorialize the collective grieving and mourning experienced by this space. This book of collected essays, poems, and visual art seeks to preserve not only our collective grief but also our collective healing together as a community. 

This week, well, really two weeks ago, Tamu and Mallory discussed Black America's unrequited love affair with the rest of America. Mallory was also having a tough time dealing with the world that week; Jacob Blake's shooting left her feeling hopeless. While Tamu was dismayed and truly disgusted by the naturalization stunt the RNC decided to portray on TV, hope was on the horizon because Doc Rivers made her dad decide register to vote for the first time in his life.

Moral to the Story: If Tamu's dad is pissed off enough to vote, we all should be pissed off enough to vote!

So Tired of Having this be a Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

• Katy Perry & Orlando Bloom's new baby, Daisy Dove.
• The shooting of Jacob Blake.
• White Supremacy's newest teen murderer.
• Mistaken suicide rioting in Minneapolis.
• All Hail Sports: WNBA, NBA, MLB, NHL and Naomi Osaka boycotting for Black Lives Matter.
• Tone deaf Jared.
• Blacks and their unrequited love of America: As Doc Rivers eloquently stated, " It's amazing why we keep loving this country and this country does not love us back."
• The unmitigated gall of Daniel Cameron, Kentucky's Attorney General, preening for the cameras at the RNC and using Breonna's name as a talking point instead of bringing justice to Breonna.

This week Tamu and Mallory discuss the aftermath of Mallory's Saturday night "The Postman" live Tweet event and her bringing this terrible, yet timely film back to life. Tamu wrestles with work microaggressions and coming to terms with not making excuses for feeling how she feels about racism. In Kentucky, the cops who murdered Breonna Taylor probably had a BBQ instead of prison food--AGAIN!

Moral to the Story: Believe Black women. Support Black women. Protect Black Women.

Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

• Megan Thee Stallion protecting the man who shot her while he throws her under the bus.
• Iowa's land hurricane, a.k.a., derecho and the time Tamu and Mallory think they were caught in one.
• Bidets: get one for COVID Wave 2
• Bad at Love has a theory: Racism would still exist if your wiped everyone's memory like Men in Black.

Special Shout-outs:

• New Podcast - Antiracist Parenting Podcast: Our dear friend and social justice book club creator, Hannah, who was our guest on Episode 32: Justice Flowers with a Side of Ranch now has her very own podcast. Please listen to Antiracist Parenting Podcast. Hannah and her co-host SooJin are parents who are deeply committed to raising antiracist children and want to build a community that will help parents gain confidence in raising a generation of antiracist kids by talking with kids about race, racism, white supremacy, and what it means to be an antiracist. Want more information? Check out their website.
• Congratulations to Tiffany from Abroad In Education: Tiffany, creator and host of the podcast, (A)broad in Education and special guest on our series of travel episodes (Episodes 30 & 31) is doing big things with her doctoral thesis and just won a game-changing fellowship!
• Glad you are still with us, Kelli!: Fan of the show Kelli, survived a near-death experience on Lake Michigan. So glad you and your daughter are okay.

In a week of taking the good with the bad, the bad sort of won out for Tamu & Mallory. With the Congress taking a vacation in the middle of the pandemic and leaving millions questioning whether they can keep a roof over their heads and feed themselves and families, the crushing battle for the vote landing in the lap of the US Postal Service and the rebirth of birtherism; it is a wonder they made it to Friday with some semblance of sanity. At least they share a theme song with Kamala Harris and QVC.

Moral to the Story: Your vote means something! Let's do what needs to be done and get to voting early.

Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

• Good Humor stops having racism bring the kids to the trucks. They teamed up with Rza of Wu Tang Clan for a reboot of the Good Humor ice cream truck jingle.
• Mallory is becoming the Bob Ross of watercolors.
• Mallory goes down a rabbit hole with the 1997 Kevin Costner film, The Postman. 
• Tamu reads a poem.

This week, Tamu & Mallory are joined by special guest, Aaron (gusband of Tamu) to discuss WTF is going on in the world and how we are coping with it.

Moral to the Story: You know what is not ok? Traumatizing children!

Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

• The soundtrack to Tamu's 20s, Mary J. Blige's My Life is 25
• WAP
• Forever First Lady is sad just like us: Michelle Obama's depression confession
• Party like it's your last, cause it might be: Underground Covid parties

This week, Tamu and Mallory continue to be confounded by life as we know it. Tamu learns that it is okay to allow herself space and permission to grieve, be angry, be joyful, be sad during this time of dramatic shifts in culture. Mallory, who is reeling from making her leg 13mm longer, really wants to be Scottish. Also, enjoy the 5 minutes of laughter that hearkens back to a simpler time in 2019.

Moral to the Story: Sometimes, take a moment and turn your underwear around.

Never-ending Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other fun Topics Discussed:

• Red-headed gene
• Black-fisted gene
• The doctor who hasn't used soap in five years.
• Jim Crow of the North: Yes, folks, Minnesota is racist as hell.
• Ambergris: the scent of a woman
• Bidets
• Mallory's "cheeky" underwear that really wasn't a reverse thong.

This week, the healing continues! Tamu and Mallory discuss the insanity that is the world we live in and try to figure out what's wrong with kids (and grown-ass adults) these days. Mallory also explains what HIPAA is so folks can stop using it incorrectly when defending their "right" not to wear a mask.

Moral to the Story: In less than 100 days, you have a choice to make, go out and make the right one. VOTE!

Second Moral to the Story: Wear a G-damn mask!

Very Special Moral to the Story: Arrest the police officers who murdered Breonna Taylor!

Other Fun Topics Discussed:

• The younger set (and older set) and their desire for pleasure over health and empathy for others.
• Autocratic police states are the new norm.
• Person. Woman. Man. Camera. TV.
• Yes, Kanye is problematic, but let's be mindful about mental health.
• The new Netflix show: Indian Matchmaking
• AOC is not here for the bullshit.