What she craves

 the things I've learned the hard way about
- gaslighting
- red flags
- walking on eggshells
- blame & justification
- the way the victim tries to rescue
- the delusion that loving them will heal them
and why you don't help them by trying to appease them

(this was a triggering topic for me to speak about - sorry that i struggled and rambled)

lighthouse technique 

Bottling up pain never ends well - for your body, or your relationships
And often we assume others have the same values as us - and get angry when they don't
But..... underneath the anger.. it is usually pain - or a painful belief
#LoveLanguages #narcissism #boundaries 

brain integration and muscle testing techniques as an alternative to chemically restore harmonious levels of dopamine and serotonin

Rich Roll & AJ podcast - https://www.richroll.com/podcast/chef-aj-363/
fen phen wiki page - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fenfluramine/phentermine
#fenphen #dopamine #gluten #foodaddiction 

how can we unlearn the pattern of rescuer and why it starts - 

what happens when the earth energy is intense - we have to adjust - some people go into resilience and try to push through it
some go into shutdown and overwhelm - and can spiral into addiction
Whenever a loved one feels that something is "too hard" to deal with - it means that it has to be dealt with another way or by another person
eg - if they deal with their anger by shoving it down with cigarettes and whiskey - it will come out in disease
if you deal with your financial problems by ignoring them - then your partner or your bank will have to deal with it

This is also a time of shift in awareness for those who have played "rescuer"
Just like the old paradigm of the "abuser" is no longer infallible - the "rescuer" is no longer viable.. either

sorry - the volume is super loud - def turn it down
all of our stories are bullshit at their core - esp if they hurt us - reflect and reframe
and it will change and heal old triggers

Steven's mission to empower, not enable - and teach others to save themselves

some people have a problem for every solution - and, other than avoid them completely - can you use them to create arguments and resolve your own issue as you defend yourself from their negativity?!?

how we react to the meanings we create and attach to our memories