Am I Happy Yet?

Sex is taboo. 

Most of what I grew up to think healthy sex was was defined by sitcoms like Friends or How I met your Mother. 

The writers of those shows have a disproportionate influence on dialogues we have around sex, more so than sex therapists and other actual experts in this field. 

I think this can lead to outcomes where we don't actually know how to have sex that we'll enjoy - we're just imitating what we think we are meant to do, rather than actually creating experience we want. It would be like only cooking food we thought we were meant to eat, rather than cooking food we actually want to eat. 

So I'm delighted to have Sachin Hoyle who is CEO of Blueheart and one of my closest friends to talk about myths and misnomers around sex which lead to unfulfilling sex. 

Alex Hughes is my best friend and housemate. Last year his mother died and, shortly after, his brother, who lived with us, killed himself.  

Alex is now as determined, funny and kind as he was before that happened. Most of all, he is happy. In this blog I summarise a conversation I had with him for my podcast 'Am I happy yet?' to explain how that could be possible.  

Alex's brother was a kind soul and fantastic writer. He had an absent mindedness which reminded me a lot of myself. We talked about his dream to visit India one day. Seeing how Alex dealt with his death, so soon after his mother passed away, is the most inspirational thing I have ever witnessed.  

I sincerely hope someone reading this can improve their understanding of how to 'survive death' and be happy again in the way that Alex has for me.