Influence because you care

This podcast was something special for all parents. We started out talking about how to raise responsible children who can make sound decisions when they grow up.

To change the perspective of us saving them, telling them what to do, and solving their problems toward letting them to solve their own problems. By letting them struggle up the slide when they are young, or asking "Well what are you going to do?" "How will you solve this?" Before we jump directly into action. Even if they won't get the best answer themselves, we show them, that we believe they are capable of solving their own problems. If they don´t see yourself as a consultant who helps them solve their issue so that in the future they can solve their matters more and more. 

We went on to talk about what to do when Children lie to us. I did a pre-post on that one because it was so good. In one sentence: Let consequences do the teaching, not the lecturing. 

If that weren´t enough, we went on to how to build up a good self-concept (self-confidence), and what to do if praise backfires. "You were wonderful" "No, I wasn't". 

And last but not least, with a lot of sugar in between, what to do when emotions get high with our children. 

Love and Logic has so many valuable tools we can use to help guide our children and ourselves, to children with great confidence, responsibility and decisionmaking capabilities. Thank you, Jedd Hafer, for so much wonderful information and How-Tos. For more information: www.LoveandLogic.com 

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How funny and amazing would your family life (or work) go if, every time one gets out of temper, angry for example, he or she does 50 squats, runs up and down staircases 3x :)  

Learned one hell of a word: psychoneuroimmunoendocrinology ( is the study of the interaction between the psyche, neural function, endocrine function and immune responses) 

Quote at 21.50: " Hopelessness (...) If you are stuck in that mindset for typically one year, you will have changes in your body. The mindset is literally toxic for your body. 

IOR DOESNT AFFECT SOMEBODY ELSE - you actually affect people in 3 to 4 degrees. Meaning you influence people you don't even know - the friend of a friend of a friend !! How crazy is that?  

I could keep on going- another point to change behavior is looking at the environment. 20sec rules. If you binge buy - freeze your creditcard until iit is defrosted you will have time to think if you really want to buy it HAHAHA :D   

https://habitsatwork.com/ 

 http://bratlab.com/ 

The bestelling author, educator and amazing person Jeanie Cisco-Meth gives amazing Insights into how to build a confident child, in other words. 

 https://tribewithin.co.uk/ 

Listen to Leanne Townsend (https://leannetownsend.ca/).

Her motto is mindful divorce since when you do something mindful you do it intelligently!

Now don´t get sidetracked thinking mindful is weak, we did talk about having friends who are able to just listen, and without judgment be there for you. To be able to be "real" and not always "positively positive", as divorce is a stressful phase in one´s life.

And her guide through when faced with fears like "How much money will I have after the divorce?" "How will that work out with the kids?" is knowledge is power.

1. Get the knowledge
2. Formulate the plan
3. Go into action with the plan
4. Reflect on the plan

If you reach for that chocolate or extra food that you don´t need. Dr. Linda Hodges question to ask:
Why am I reaching for it?

That insight has transformed my eating habits since then. Being honest with myself, a lot of the times I would eat in between the meals would be because I was stressing myself and it was a "thing" I just did to make me feel better.

I asked this question every single time since the podcast, and 95% of the time I don´t eat these "things" in between. Even if I go to the bakery with my daughter, I don´t need to buy something for me, if I am not hungry.

Her answer to the question: What are your clients really after? Weightloss, or what is their deep desire? Her answer:

"I think what they are searching for is knowing that within themselves they can do it. They are searching for control."

(...)

"Most people don't realize how much power they have when it comes to this, because we feel so powerless with food for whatever reason."

I find that to be true in the sense since I don´t need these foods in between to feel good- I feel more in control of my mind and self.

Her Homepage https://exceptionalweightloss.com/ is worth the look.

What would be the best way to start an Influence podcast than with Paul Cherry, who wrote 3 books on Questions.

It was so hard to choose between all of the questions and frameworks Paul gives in the Interview.

Here are some:

The biggest flaw most people make: Asking "How was your day?"

What he asked his teenage daughter in the midst of exams when she broke up with her boyfriend to stay focused.

How Managers can coach their people to solve their problems themselves - a manager who has used this, saved 18h in a week!

How to build empathy and connection with another person. And so much more.

I am humbled to talk with such great people.  

His Homepage: https://pbresults.com