Learn2Love Podcast

We’re stuck. We want to be good to our partners, but sometimes we just snap at them and don’t know why. We want to feel good, but we’re dissatisfied. The relationship is boring sometimes. Is this all there is in life! More of this, every day, week after week, year after year! Habits are like a double-edged sword. The more we do them, the more bored we get from doing them, and the more they stick. In this episode, we’ll learn how to discover cues that lead to our habitual responses, and how to change our responses by modifying the cues. We’ll learn the biggest cues of negative feelings and interactions with our partners, and how to establish an environment that encourages the most positive ones to thrive. This way, we'll prevent most fights, and learn to feel much better too. Feeling good is hard, but it doesn't have to be! See more at: https://LearnLove.ca

Think of yourself like a tree. When first sprouting out the ground, the branches are delicate and can be easily snapped with our fingers. If we continue to let them grow, they get thicker and heavier. Soon, we need a chainsaw and some trucks to take them down! By setting limits, we can stop branches forming early before they get too big. In this episode, we'll get further into our understanding of habits and how they affect our relationships. By building up an emotional bank account, we set the habit of coming together when times are good to stick when times are bad. Plus, we'll discover the power of habits that stick and how to change them (people kept smoking for 20 years even after they knew it was bad! Now we know why). See more at https://LearnLove.ca

Okay Dory, you taught me all these great things I can do to deal with anger and mitigate conflict. But now what! I've tried implementing them, but I'm not successful. When I get angry, my body just takes over in conflict and the things you taught don't come to mind. Does this sound like you? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, we apply the skills that stroke patients use to walk again, children learn to talk, and adults use to drive (and crash). The way to build great habits is deep in your DNA and kept humans alive until today. The good news is, you can use these tools to help you learn to optimize the way you deal with anger. Neurons that fire together - wire together - and vice versa. Conflict is hard, but it doesn't have to be! See more at https://LearnLove.ca

Okay Dory, you taught me all these great things I can do to deal with anger and mitigate conflict. But now what! I've tried implementing them, but I'm not successful. When I get angry, my body just takes over in conflict and the things you taught don't come to mind. Does this sound like you? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, we apply the skills that stroke patients use to walk again, children learn to talk, and adults use to drive (and crash). The way to build great habits is deep in your DNA and kept humans alive until today. The good news is, you can use these tools to help you learn to optimize the way you deal with anger. Neurons that fire together - wire together - and vice versa. Conflict is hard, but it doesn't have to be! See more at https://LearnLove.ca

In this episode, we delve deep into conversations we started on the last one about the 4 Horsemen of Argumentation. We'll work hard to set ground rules on what is absolutely not okay in our household. We'll discover signs of abuse and what to do about it. Next, we'll delve into the world of scapegoating and how it might be affecting you or someone close to you. Finally, we'll talk about unmet dreams, boredom, and how that may be leading to issues in our relationship. Plus many examples, stories, and analogies! Check out more at learnlove.ca.

Conflict is hard. But it doesn't have to be! In this content-filled episode, we talk about the four biggest things that arise from conflict and lead to the destruction of a relationship and how to prevent them. We'll discuss the 3 main styles of conflict dynamics and how we can recognize ours, then how to overcome it. We'll talk all about the stress response, how it's affected by exercise, and how it affects our relationship. And we'll discover how we absolutely need to take care of ourselves before taking care of others. Plus tons of fun-filled analogies, stories, and examples! This is a heavy content-filled episode that will completely change the way you perceive and deal with conflict. I hope it will help you stay together! See more at learnlove.ca

Conflict is hard. But it doesn't have to be. In this third episode on our series on conflict resolution, we 8 new tools to our conflict resolution toolbox. We'll talk all about managing our urge to defend, deny, counterattack and withdraw. We'll learn about agreeing with part of the statement, agreeing our partner has an opinion, using humour, and more. We'll discuss why some problems gridlock due to unrealized dreams and how to manage them. We'll discuss how physical sensations lead to emotional ones and vice versa, and how we can leverage this to our advantage. Finally, we'll visit a short story to put everything together. Check out more at learnlove.ca! Thank you for taking the journey to build healthier relationships and stronger families.

In this series, we're learning all about how to prevent most conflict and deal with the few that get through successfully. In this episode, we build on the topics of the last one by discovering more of the drivers of anger and how to address them. We are presented with an analogy to understand the role of different parts of our brain during conflict and the order we need to deal with them to calm the situation down most effectively. Anger and conflict is hard, but it doesn't have to be. What do you think is running the show for you, your thoughts or your emotions? I hope these practical tips and real life experiences will help you understand your partner more and make both of your lives easier. See more at learnlove.ca! Thank you for taking this journey with us to build healthier relationships and stronger families.

Anger and fights are hard. But they don't have to be. In this episode, we discuss the three main reasons that anger and fighting occurs. By learning to address them, we can prevent the significant majority of fights and deal with the ones that pass through effectively. We don't have to go in blind and make the same mistakes as those around us. By learning to understand this emotion, we can make our lives easier, our relationships stronger, and feel better. Plus some bonus neuroscience too! Learn about how to recognize anger, that it usually means fear, modelling the behaviour we want to see using mirror neurons, and facilitating connection. By setting limits and regularly checking in, we can catch warning signs early before they explode two weeks later. Relationships can be easy and a lot of fun! I hope these tips will help to strengthen yours. You can apply this to other aspects of your life too!

Dating is hard. But it doesn't have to be. In this episode, we use the limits we learned about in the last episode and apply them immediately to dating through an in-depth analogy discovered through brainstorming sessions with our team. We'll take you through exercises where you learn to place the things that are important to you around your house and learn to carefully give the right people access. We'll learn how to screen that the right people get access to our most fragile parts, why we seek the wrong people access them, and what we can do to protect them. Finally, we'll learn how to renovate the outside of our house so that the right people come knocking, and learn how to greet them in an effective way. We don't have to love harder, just smarter for better results! See more at learnlove.ca