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Escalation - a rapid rise, increase.
    an increase in the intensity of something, an intensification.

Escalation comes in many forms.
    Drugs.
    Depression
    Mental.
    Sin.

Hosea 13:2

A degradation of any one thing will entice the inclination of another.
Think about those pathways.

Ezekiel 16:47
2 Timothy 3:13

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Why?  Tolerance
Spousal competition and degradation of spouse mental health.

First experience?  Do you remember?

Progression.

Knowing its wrong, being unable to stop or forego.

How does it hurt a marriage?

Most of us who deal with pornography have a fear of letting someone know.  
hidden sin.

You can't heal what you hide.

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Philippians 3:12  I'm not perfect.

Forgetting can be good or bad.

The people of Israel had a knack for forgetting.
Brought out of Egypt.  They forgot.
Given manna and water in the desert.  They forgot.
Forgot their judges and wanted Kings.
The kings forgot who gave them power.  
They all forgot God.
Turned to idols.

Hanukkah story, Power of remembering.

Philippians 3:13-15  Paul exhorting.
2 Corinthians 5:17  I'm a new creature.
James 1:22-25

How does the Word create pathways?
Prayer
Tithes/Offerings
Christian Fellowship

What does forgetting do for us?  Got forgets.
Isaiah 43:25  Blots out sins.
Isaiah 43:18-19  The wilderness and God is there.

Where do new paths form?  Places you've never been.

Micah 7:19  The sea of forgetfulness.
Hebrews 8:12.

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• Raised on a Diet of Internet Porn
  
  • Grew up with internet in the home
    
  • Access to internet porn from an early age
    
• 2002 ED rates were 2% in men under 40
  
• 2015 ED rates were 30% in men under 40
  
• 2006 - YouTube style porn sites started to go live
  
  • Pornhub
    
  • Youporn
    
  • RedTube
    
  • Videos
    
• Symptoms and Conditions that come from regular porn use
  
  • Chronic ED
    
  • Anorgasmia, delayed ejaculation
    
  • Brain fog, concentration problems
    
  • Lethargy, lack of motivation
    
  • Social anxiety, lack of confidence
    
  • Depression, emotional numbness
    
  • Declining interest in real partners
    
  • Escalation to porn that doesn’t match original tastes or sexual orientation.
    
• Why does all this happen?
  
  • Neuroplasticity
    
  • The reward circuit
    
    • Mood
      
    • Emotions
      
    • Desires
      
    • Drives
      
    • Love/bonding
      
    • Addiction
      
    • Because of this circuit:
      
      • Compelled towards good feelings
        
      • Away from pain or bad feelings
        
  • Novelty
    
  • Dopamine
    
    • Craving chemical
      
    • “I've gotta have it, whatever IT is”
      
    • Not associated with pleasure or satisfaction
      
      • But rather with wanting, seeking, craving
        
      • Released in anticipation
        
    • Opioids - satisfaction
      
    • Dopamine is stronger than satisfaction
      
    • Food and desert
      
  • The rat and self-stimulation
    
  • Block dopamine - no stimulation, no motivation
    
  • Sexual cues produce the highest amount
    
  • Edging
    
• The Coolidge effect
  
  • The perfect video
    
  • Compilations
    
  • How many potential partners did our ancestors have?
    
  • Porn is a supernatural/supernormal stimulus stimulus
    
    • Fast food
      
    • Junk food
      
    • Gambling machines
      
    • Video games
      
    • Animals are vulnerable to this
      

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1. Anxiety results in heaviness of heart and provides no relief to the situation.
   
   1. “What good is worrying?”
      
   2. Proverbs 12:25
      
   3. Job 6:2-3
      
   4. I’m not implying that Job’s situation isn’t painful, just simply that the anxiety that he is feeling provided no relief.  There is no relief in anxiety.  We must find another way.
      
2. We must live by faith and not by sight.  Anxiety pulls us down when we focus on what MIGHT BE rather than what IS.
   
   1. Alot of times throughout life we will find ourselves describing the world around us, to ourselves. We end up speaking all the negative things around us and therefore digging them deeper into our psyche.
      
   2. Psalm 73:1-3
      
   3. Psalm 142:4-5
      
   4. Job 23:8-10
      
   5. Philippians 4:8 finally brethren...
      
   6. 2 Timothy 1:7 ...spirit of fear…
      
3. Anxiety is real.  What Is the proper response?
   
   1. Give the problem to God and ask for His help.
      
   2. 1 Peter 5:7
      
   3. Philippians 4:6
      
   4. Isaiah 41:10-13
      
4. Generally, anxiety is linked to envy and jealousy.
   
   1. Proverbs 24:19-20
      
   2. Isaiah 41:10-13
      
5. God’s sufficiency is more than enough for our every concern and need.
   
   1. 2 Corinthians 12:9
      
   2. Ephesians 1:3
      
   3. Philippians 4:13-19
      
   4. Romans 8:32
      
6. Trusting God’s sovereignty replaces anxiety with peace.  He does have our best interest at heart, we just have to submit to His will.
   
   1. Isaiah 26:3-4
      
   2. Psalm 139:16  no
      
   3. Isaiah 45:5-7 ...he makes peace…
      
7. Knowing this...God has your life laid out.  It's all been done, just follow Him and allow his peace to replace that anxiety.
   
   1. Jeremiah 29:11-13
      
   2. Matthew 6:33-34
      
   3. John 14:1-3
      
   4. James 4:15
      
8. God can and will use any situation for good, even those that trouble us.
   
   1. Romans 8:28
      

• Hannah, anxious because she was childless, 1 Samuel 1
  
• Jeremiah, concerned about committing to God’s plan to purchase property, Jeremiah 32:24-27
  
• David, realizing he must focus on God and not his enemies, Psalm 13
  

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1. Biblically based for Christian men
   
2. Basing this podcast from a worldview
   
   1. holding that that bible is true and correct in all that it says.
      
3. In the church, we tend to not want to talk about it.
   

1 Corinthians 10:12-13

[12] Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.

[13] There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man:  but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

2 Timothy 2:15

[15] Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needed not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20

[18] Flee fornication.  Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

[19] What?  Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

[20] For ye are bought with a price:  Therefore glorify God in your body, and in you spirit, which are God’s.

Matthew 5:28

[28] But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

• TESTIMONY
  
• YOU ARE NOT ALONE
  
  • Child molestatioN
    
  • Rape
    
  • Abuse
    
• YOU ARE NOT HOMOSEXUAL
  
  • Experimentation with a friend
    
  • Sleepovers
    
  • Not defined by past experiences
    
  • “God has an attitude about you”
    
• ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
  
• MARRIAGE PROBLEMS
  
• SPOUSAL ABUSE
  
• Men are so visual, we don’t need porn, a porn scene can be held completely within the mind.
  

James 5:16

[16] Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed.  The  effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

1 John 1:9

[9] If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

• In the next episode we will be talking about statistics and the science of addiction.
  

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