Speak The Truth

Episode Notes:
In this episode, host Mike Van Dyke is joined by author, pastor, biblical counselor, special guest Chris Moles. Chris shares his genesis of entering into domestic abuse work as a pastor and how The LORD used it to develop the ministry of peaceworks and the men of peace self-paced course work. The Men of Peace Self-Paced Course is the compilation of all of Chris Moles’ past Men of Peace coaching content plus brand-new material. This course will walk men through the three-fold Men of Peace process of Information, Transformation, and Reformation, educating and guiding men who are ready to take ownership of their abusive behaviors and surrender themselves fully to the Lord in true and lasting repentance. Please be aware this course DOES NOT include a direct coaching component with Chris Moles. Instead, the Men of Peace Self-Paced Course is designed to be used within the context of an already established biblical counseling or coaching relationship, with the abusive man enlisting the discipleship and accountability support of a local counselor, pastor, or mentor. Once purchased, each course participant will have permanent access to all course materials.

Episode Resources:
chrismoles.org
Peaceworks Podcast
Men of Peace Self-Paced Course

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In this episode host, Mike Van Dyke is joined with special guest, author, and counselor, Greg Wilson to discuss his new book, "When Home Hurts: A Biblical Guide For Responding Wisely To Domestic Abuse for Your Church". Greg shares his heart for writing this book, his passion for the local church to be equipped from the pastoral level to the neighbor level. This book is intended to equip pastors, church leaders, and church members to respond with the heart of God to situations of domestic abuse that occur in their local church. Prioritizing the safety of the victim at all times, Jeremy Pierre and Greg Wilson seek to help you be the kind of church leader, church member, friend, parent, sibling, or neighbor who responds wisely. We want the church to be a new normal for those grown accustomed to abuse. A home that doesn’t hurt those inside, but instead welcomes them into the tender care of the Lord.

Split into three sections, When Home Hurts begins with an overview to provide a framework for understanding abuse and the people caught up in it, before moving on to advice on how to help in the short and long terms.

This very practical, pastoral book acknowledges the reality and the horror of domestic abuse, but also the reality and power of God to heal. It will be a helpful guide to anyone who suspects abuse within their church family but is unsure how to help without making things worse.

The five appendices at the end of the book offer helpful answers to difficult questions as well as additional resources.

Section 1 – How to Understand Abuse

Understanding Your Role as Agent of God’s Love

Understanding Abuse Dynamics

Discerning Abuse Dynamics

Section 2 – How to Help in the Short Term

Caring for the Victim

Confronting the Abuser

Considering Collateral Damage

Section 3 – How to Help in the Long Term

Helping the Move from Victim to Overcomer

Helping the Move from Abuser to Servant

Leading Your Church to Respond with Wisdom and Compassion

Appendix A – FAQs in the Initial Stages

Appendix B – FAQs on Separation, Divorce, and Reunification After Abuse

Appendix C – The Authority of Scripture and Abuse Research

Appendix D – Resources

Appendix E – Care Advocate Role Description

Episode Resources:
When Home Hurts

In this episode, host Mike Van Dyke is joined with special guest, author and counselor, Darby Strickland to discuss her new book, "Is It Abuse?" A biblical guide to identifying domestic abuse and helping victims. Darby shares why she wrote the book and then discusses the robust nature in which "Is It Abuse" was written with Mike. The book was written in thirds; what is abuse and its dynamics, the different types of abuse and their distinctive's, and upholding the oppressed.     

Episode Resources:
Darby's book: Is It Abuse?
Christian Counseling Education Foundation

Episode Summary:
In this episode, host Mike Van Dyke is joined by special guests Beth Broom and Eliza Huie to talk about their new venture, The Christian Trauma Healing Network(CTHN), which serves mental health professionals, pastors, and lay ministry leaders to advance Christ-centered trauma healing in the church and society. They also discuss their new podcast: Counsel For Life - engaging conversations about mental health and the Christian life.

Episode Resources:
Beth Broom's Website
Eliza Huie's Website
Christian Trauma Healing Network
Counsel For Life Podcast. 

Episode Notes
What does it look like for a Christian to live a balanced life that honors God? This book offers practical guidance for renewing body and soul so that readers will be energized to engage life with fresh enthusiasm and vigor for service to God. Focusing on six key areas, including your spiritual life, physical life, community life, your work, your purpose, and how your rest, Christians gain strategies to experience transformation in how they care for themselves and others.

Episode Resources:
Book - The Whole Life: 52 Weeks of Biblical Self-Care
More about - Eliza Huie

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In this episode host, Mike is joined with seasoned pastor and counselor, Garrett Higbee to discuss transforming the discipleship culture from unhealthy discipling to healthy mutual care discipling beginning with small group members and leaders(levels 1&2) to equipping coaches, pastors, and counselors.

Episode Notes:

Garrett's focus over the last few years of ministry - leader care and developing resources both in preventive care, intensive care, and disciple-making care, and leader care with pastors and elders. Helping get the leaders healthy.

Discipling continuum - intentional to intensive,

break down the equipping into the context that people live in, helping contextually and relationally.

• level 1 - mutual ministry
• level 2 - becoming a transforming leader, not a conforming leader
• level 3 - coaches, pastors, elders 

Church 360 assessment

• how are we doing as a church in discipling and caring for our church?
  • Leadership health assessment
• providing a coaching review - key indicators 
  • abiding in christ - spiritual development
  • Self-care, watching your life and doctrine closely.
  • How's your EQ (emotional intelligence)

2 ways subordinate pastoral staff can engage lead pastor or executive-level staff. 

• Prayer
• Testimony

Episode Resources:

soulcareconsulting.com

freedom groups - 13-week recovery ministry

In this episode, host, Mike Van Dyke is joined with special guest, Jonathan Holmes to discuss his new book, "Rescue Skills: Restoring The Sexually Broken". Jonathan shares his heart in co-authoring this book; writing a book that helps the friend who's got a friend who is struggling in their sexual brokenness, helping them develop a rescue plan by being the friend who can listen well, ask the right questions, and help to execute a plan that's full of the gospel, real repentance, and killing or replacing bad desires.

Mentioned Resources: 

• Rescue Skills: Restoring The Sexually Broken
• Rescue Plan: Charting a Course to Restore Prisoners of Pornography
• Counseling Couples: A Biblical and Practical Guide for Marriage Counseling
• Counseling Through The Psalms
• Counseling Through Bible Narratives

THE GOSPEL IS FOR ... 

◼ Counselees who feel that the Christian life is too hard 

◼ Counselees who worry they need to do more to have the assurance of salvation 
◼ Counselees who don’t want to forgive 

◼ Counselees who need to be reminded that they don’t have to earn God’s favor 
◼ Counselees who are depressed about their lack of spiritual maturity 
◼ Counselees who are suffering from the sin of others or a broken world 
◼ Counselees who are losing hope 

◼ Counselees who continue to make the same mistakes 

◼ Counselees who feel worthless or hated 

◼ Counselees who are putting too much emphasis on this life 
◼ Counselees who want to continue sinning

Episode Notes: 
In this episode, Mike is joined by special guest, Peter Escue to discuss the reality and implications of the gospel in the counseling room. In this episode, they discuss what is the gospel, its corollaries, and the reality of gospel drift in those seeking counseling, and how the gospel can begin to be applied to specific issues within our counselees.  

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“Post-traumatic stress disorder, a profoundly intense response to profoundly dangerous experiences, manifests itself in fear, terrifying vulnerability, and lack of a sense of control. While these responses are often involuntary, Jeremy Lelek reminds us that they are still responses . . . and, thus, different responses are possible. Here he relates the narrative of creation, fall, and redemption to the experiences of PTSD, reminding us that the gospel speaks to our experiences with danger as part of its redemptive message. He points to the wisdom of God in our suffering and reminds us of the saving grace offered by Jesus, guiding readers to the peace and contentment found in seeking God’s glory.

Episode Resources:
PTSD: Recovering Hope Booklet
Solomon Soulcare Services