Unpacking Myself

I recently had an ah-ha moment where I realized that it isn’t one thing such as religion, politics, race, socio-economic status that divides humanity, its something deeper within us. As crazy as it may sound, there is a “feel good” feeling we get from the division but what if I told you of another “feel good” feeling that you really should be striving for instead - the cherry on top is that it creates less division. We are drawn to people who are confident and determined in their beliefs but I think the secret to more non-judgment and acceptance lies somewhere in the middle. Listen in for a unique perspective on why it seems we are so divided and what we should be gravitating towards individually to make actual change.

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Feeling bad for others on the surface may seem like a natural, human emotion. We usually associate it with something you feel when you love and care about someone but when we love someone what we really want is the best for them, and “feeling bad” alone actually may not be what is best for them. You might be thinking “say what?!” but there is a subtle difference that is so important to be aware of if we want to truly help those that we feel bad for. In this episode, I unpack this topic and how “feeling bad” can actually do more harm to someone if we don’t move past that feeling to something that is more positive and uplifting for the other person. It’s simple and something you can implement into your life right away.

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In this episode, I dive into the often overlooked but game-changing factor in leadership and success: character. Drawing on something Adam Grant mentioned in a talk, I explore why, despite a flood of books on corporate culture, we still struggle to find great leaders. The key takeaway? Character matters more than we think. I talk about athletes who were underestimated but propelled to greatness because of, yep, their character. My hope is that this episode makes us pause and notice our obsession with external skills, when character really is the underlying X factor that matters most. How do we change our focus on the flashy, measurable things to include heart - character.

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Let’s be honest, it's annoying when people misinterpret your intentions and don’t understand you on a deeper level. We all have those people in our life who just don't get you. I share my recent experience of someone turning my words into a misunderstanding that left me scratching my head. Being misunderstood is an energy drain and getting caught up in trying to prove yourself is frustrating. So what do you do? How do you protect your sense of self and your energy? Listen in as I share what has worked for me.

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In this episode, I reflect on the misconceptions surrounding the Westernized, highly marketed idea of "meaning and purpose," drawing insights from a thought-provoking interview with Sadhguru. He challenges the modern narrative that suggests a lifelong purpose and encourages us to embrace the simplicity of living life as is. Exploring the pitfalls of glamorizing purpose and the danger of losing meaning in daily routines, I share a profound realization about finding fulfillment in the ordinary. Sadhguru's wisdom prompts us to reconsider whether the issue lies in lacking meaning or in losing the ability to see the profound meaning in our everyday lives.

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In this episode, I explore the dynamics of engaging in debates and arguments, particularly the fine line between expressing intellectual perspectives and fueling our egos. I discuss the tendency to withhold opinions to avoid confrontation and the gendered aspect of sensitivity in discussions. Sharing personal experiences, I emphasize the importance of remaining mindful of emotional shifts during a debate and recognizing when it becomes more about defending one's ego than exchanging ideas. Additionally, I uncover the unexpected impact of speaking up, shedding light on the power of influencing perspectives and inspiring others to find their voices in discussions.

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In this episode, I talk about challenging family relationships and the pressure we often feel to achieve the ideal. I share my personal realization that not every family bond fits the conventional mold, and that's perfectly okay. Instead of measuring success by a picture-perfect relationship, I explore a more personalized definition of success that is realistic. It's about how much power we allow others to have over our self-worth and the importance of setting realistic goals, even if it means simply reaching a point where they no longer negatively impact us. Join me in navigating the complexities of family dynamics and redefining our notions of success in these relationships.

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In this episode, I delve into how we judge people when we first meet them. We all have our criteria, whether we're aware of it or not. Do we like them because of how they make us feel in the moment, or can we see their true character beyond our own feelings? I discuss the pros and cons of both approaches, and how our perception of people often depends on the emotional lens we view them through. One approach causes more turbulence and instability whereas the other ensures a stronger foundation in your relationships. Join me as we explore the dynamics of human judgment, the quest for authenticity in our relationships, and the importance of seeing people for who they truly are.

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In this episode, I dive into the complex realm of human relationships, those unspoken truths and feelings that often lurk beneath the surface. We've all been there – feeling a pang of insecurity when someone close to us appears to be connecting with others in a way that triggers jealousy. It's relatable, whether it's your child's friendships, your partner's closeness with their family, or even within your own circle of friends. The key is to recognize these insecurities, look within ourselves, and focus on building deeper connections and genuine joy for others. I share insights on managing these emotions and achieving contentment in our relationships, highlighting the importance of frequency, shared experiences, and vulnerability in nurturing strong connections.

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In this episode, I delve into the subtle yet crucial difference between positively influencing people's behavior and resorting to manipulation. Manipulation often stems from fear and ego. However, when we positively shape others' actions without resorting to manipulative tactics, we achieve a desired, long-term result that leaves everyone feeling better about themselves. I discuss how to distinguish behavior driven by manipulation from a genuine desire to positively influence someone or a situation. I also share a personal lifelong learning moment where someone chose positive influence over ego and manipulation. Learn to discern the difference so you can positively influence others as well!

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