Finding OK - Healing After Sexual Assault and Abuse
by HecateAn intersectional healing podcast for survivors of sexual assault and any/all abuse. When survivors share, they share strength. "Finding OK" helps people navigate this difficult healing process. The focus is on recovery, self-care, empowerment, and healing. You are not alone.
Copyright: © 2024 Finding OK - Healing After Sexual Assault and Abuse
Episodes
This Was Slightly Less On Fire When I Left...
1h 5m · PublishedWe're back! In this episode I'll be sharing what I've been up to on my break, what I have planned for this season of the podcast, and I'll be talking about a really rough day I had last week in the wake of Roe vs Wade being overturned.
Letters for the Fire is back in Season 4! This is a listener participation project. I am inviting survivors to write a letter to their r*pist or abuser and then send it to me. It's is my hope that this will help others with catharsis and closure. I want you to feel heard and to have control over the way that you're heard.
You can listen to the Letters for the Fire episode from Season 3 and check out this link to learn more about the project and how to participate:
https://www.finding-ok.com/blog/letters-for-the-fire/
I am currently fundraising to afford a transcript service in order to make Finding OK more accessible to the deaf, hearing impaired, and neurodivergent communities. This will also help immensely with podcast growth and visibility. Please consider helping out by becoming a Patreon member or by making a one time donation via PayPal.
https://www.finding-ok.com/support/
You can also donate live on Twitch if you want to see me smile! Follow me to join Finding OK Q&A livestreams and join me while I edit and record new episodes...I also play games, chat, do ASMR, read books, paint, and occasionally do tattoo!
https://www.twitch.tv/hecate_findingok
Shout out to my Patreon Members Sedonka, Kathleen, and Betty for their incredible support and for making this podcast possible! I love and appreciate you so much! <3
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Support the showGratitude and Updates
21m · PublishedThis is the last episode of Season 3! Today I'll be taking some time to thank everyone who made this season possible, updating you about my plans and exciting new content during my break, as well as letting you know about some changes moving forward with Season 4!
New episodes will resume 7/5/22. Just because there aren't new episodes doesn't mean there isn't new content! I'm taking the time during break to do lots of new and exciting things!
I'm a Twitch Affiliate and you can hang out with me there all the time! New Finding OK Q&A livestreams will be starting there soon as well! Ask me questions about your favorite episodes, suggest subjects for Season 4, and talk about the things that matter to you.
I'm a variety streamer that loves Sims, Indie games, ASMR, Art, Tattoo, and Among Us. I'll be very present on Twitch during my break and I hope to see you there!
https://www.twitch.tv/hecate_findingok
Visit my website to get a link to join my Discord server! Join watch parties, chat, read articles, share memes and pictures of your pets! It's whatever we want it to be!
Join my Patreon to gain early access to an episode that will be dropping over break, and also to the video episodes I'll be sharing as I teach myself how to edit video over break! Check it out here: https://www.patreon.com/HecateFindingOK
Letters for the Fire
46m · PublishedEarlier in Season 3 I invited listeners to participate in a project called Letters for the Fire. It was an invitation for communal catharsis and healing. I invited listeners to write a letter to their rapist or abuser, and I would read it in an episode, and then burn all of them in a ritual. Here are the letters I received from listeners. Thank you so much everyone who has made this powerful project possible!
A link to a video video of the letters burning will be shared here later on, check back later!
The video is delayed due to technical difficulties. Thank you for you patience.
Support:
https://www.rainn.org/
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Support the showThe Assault I Don't Discuss - A Personal Story
48m · PublishedIn this episode I share my experience of anal rape, discuss the dangerous myth that boys/men/AMAB people can't control themselves, discuss consent, and talk about some of the reasons why it was so difficult for me to identify this particular assault as valid and as a rape.
Sexual Assault can happen to anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Women and AFAB people experience anal rape too and it is not discussed enough. Because anal sex continues to be taboo in out culture there is an extra layer of shame and stigma that survivors of anal rape face on their path to healing. I hope that by sharing this story I can help others feel less alone.
The Episode Cover
The episode cover is an actual photo of me and my abuser that was taken the year this assault took place. It is run through a filter to protect identities. Without context the photo looks innocent enough, but within the context of an abusive relationship the image changes. I was standing tall and confident and he is seen pulling at my arm to spin me around, or pull me to him. It was a moment I know must have appeared charming or romantic to outsiders.
Episode Notes:
Resource for Survivors
https://www.rainn.org/
The Myths
http://www.consented.ca/myths/perpetrators-cant-help-themselves/
TW: This article contains graphic details of sexual assault
https://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2014/07/01/my-own-rape-shows-how-badly-we-stereotype-perps-and-victims/
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Support the showHealing After Military Sexual Assault
2h 25m · PublishedVanessa is a veteran and a survivor of sexual assault within the military. Vanessa shares her story of trauma, her feelings of shame and lack of self-worth, and her spiral into depression which nearly ended in suicide. She found strength and she has moved into a place of growth, empowerment, self-love, and healing. Vanessa is sharing her story in the hope that it will help others find their own strength and feel less alone.
Episode Notes
https://www.rainn.org/
For Veterans:
https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/
https://www.mentalhealth.va.gov/index.asp?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=search-va&utm_content=mental-health&utm_term=veterans%20affairs%20suicide&gclid=Cj0KCQiAnuGNBhCPARIsACbnLzraUHWNq6E6eCF_zXPFw6ioOy9ZbM6Ecyjj9ZZuiEDoTEow237hYH8aAr2HEALw_wcB
More About Military Sexual Assault
https://www.rand.org/pubs/research_reports/RRA1318-1.html#:~:text=One%20in%2016%20women%20and,and%20one%20in%2016%20men.
https://www.rand.org/news/press/2021/07/19.html
TW for this article
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/03/magazine/military-sexual-assault.html
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Support the showCult Recovery - Healing After NXIVM
1h 10m · PublishedKelly Thiel exited the notorious NXIVM cult and shares her journey with healing and deprogramming in the aftermath of indoctrination. She has taken her power back and is helping others to do the same.
Kelly is an accomplished voice actress, author, speaker, consultant, and the driving force behind her new platform, Be Glorious. Kelly was a member of the NXIVM cult and after exiting she appeared in the critically acclaimed documentary “Seduced”. She is set to release her first book in January 2022, “Unapologetically Glorious”.
Kelly's Website
https://www.kellythiel.com/
Remember to keep an eye out for Kelly's book in January 2022!
Resources for Cult Recovery and Education
https://seduceddocumentary.com/cult-resources/
Take Back Your Life
https://bookshop.org/books/taking-back-your-life-recovering-from-cults-and-abusive-relationships/9780972002158
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001RNPD9M/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Headspace - Kelly's Meditation app recommendation
https://www.headspace.com/
I Got Out
https://www.instagram.com/igotout_org/
Seduced - documentary
https://seduceddocumentary.com/
The Vow - documentary
https://www.hbo.com/the-vow
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Support the showThriving After Sexual Abuse
1h 50m · PublishedDenise Bossarte is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and now she is helping others heal. Join us for a conversation about Denise's healing journey as well as her beautiful book, "Thriving After Sexual Abuse: Break Your Bondage to the Past and Live a Life You Love".
Denise Bossarte is an award-winning writer, poet, photographer, and artist. Denise is a certified meditation facilitator and contemplative arts teacher. She is an IT professional working for a large urban school district. Denise holds a BA in chemistry, an MS in computer science, and a PhD in developmental neuroscience. Denise lives in Texas with her husband, Randy, and literary cat, Sapphira.
GIVEAWAY!
Post about Finding OK on the social media platform of your choice to enter! It can be a link to your favorite episode, the link to the podcast website, or a heartfelt post - tag Hecate or send in a screenshot to enter. The winner will be chosen at random and receive a signed, personalized copy of Denise's incredible book! Winner will be announced in the next episode on 12/22!
Episode Notes:
Denise's Website
https://thrivingaftersexualabusebook.com/
Buy the Book!
https://www.amazon.com/Thriving-After-Sexual-Abuse-Bondage-ebook/dp/B0937GR5MR/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8
Join Hecate's Patreon!
https://www.patreon.com/HecateFindingOK
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Support the showDeconstructing Religious Abuse
2h 5m · Published Anna grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family as part of the Quiverfull movement. She and her six siblings were not allowed to attend school and were very isolated from the outside world. Everything about her childhood was strictly controlled, from the clothes she wore to the media she had access to. She was expected to teach herself from primarily religious texts as well as teaching and caring for the younger children. Her future was laid out for her as a submissive wife and mother to many children.
She left at 19 with help from family, starting life in a very unfamiliar world with little education was daunting but also thrilling. Seven years later she's still sifting through memories. She makes videos on TikTok recounting her experiences, and has found that many other folks grew up in similar circumstances. Many kids are undoubtedly still in that situation and Anna hopes she can raise awareness and play a part in helping others.
Coalition for Responsible Home Education - recommended resource
https://responsiblehomeschooling.org/
TikToks
Homeschooling
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7025738255169604870?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/6991106244157132038?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070
Growing Up in a Cult
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/6985522389207567622?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7003110109895347461?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070
https://www.tiktok.com/@spookypatootie/video/7010967459436023045?lang=en&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6969742314420504070
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Support the showDeath and Rebirth Cycles - Shedding Your Skin
10m · PublishedWe all experience Death/Rebirth Cycles in our lives, periods of profound transformation and growth. These cycles are often painful and difficult. In this episode I share something that has helped me to better keep my balance and move more gracefully through these times in my own life.
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Coercion Isn't Consent - A Personal Story
59m · PublishedThis is a personal and raw episode where I share the story of one of my assaults. Coercion isn't consent. Two Hundred "No's" and one "Yes" is still "No". If you have a similar story, you are not alone and it wasn't your fault. It was rape. Your trauma is valid.
Episode Notes:
Consent:
https://www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent
Guest Interview with BardicSway on Twitch for RAINN Fundraiser - LIMITED TIME ONLY
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Part 1
https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1124490772?filter=archives&sort=time
Part 2
https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1124542439?filter=archives&sort=time
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Support the showFinding OK - Healing After Sexual Assault and Abuse has 85 episodes in total of non- explicit content. Total playtime is 93:25:59. The language of the podcast is English. This podcast has been added on November 27th 2022. It might contain more episodes than the ones shown here. It was last updated on May 8th, 2024 18:40.
