How I F*ck

Taylor Ellis doesn’t want to be remembered as just the “blind girl.” Her love of sex and her desire to break taboos motivated her to have sex at a young age despite her family and classmates’ judgment. Having slept with both blind and sighted people, Taylor talks to us about what she wishes sighted men would stop asking her during sex, and what an active movement against sexual assault in the blind community is teaching her about her own experiences.

How I F*ck season 2 is coming your way, January, 27! Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts. 

From erotic fan-fiction to her sexual intercourse comment card, Amy Gravino has always had a unique view of romance and sex. Amy, who is on the autism spectrum, is a public speaker and autism sexuality advocate who allowed herself to feel sexual pleasure and love when the rest of the world told her not to. 

Now Amy is educating other people on the spectrum on why it’s important for autistic people to talk openly about sex, and how they too can find pleasure.

Mark S. King was living out his dream in 1980 when he moved from Louisiana to West Hollywood to pursue acting. Openly gay, Mark indulged in the West Hollywood scene where gay sexual expression was celebrated. 

Fast forward to five years later and Mark and most of his social circle are diagnosed with HIV. Understandably scared for his life and the lives of his friends, Mark still refused to let HIV stop him from having a sex life. Here’s how Mark managed to still have pleasurable sex during the AIDS pandemic while HIV-positive.

Adult performer April Flores was in her early twenties when she unexpectedly became a muse to photographer and director Carlos Batts. Together they made it their mission to change the porn industry by proving to the world that yes, fat girls like April do have sex… good sex. Now, a porn legend in her own right, April talks to HIF about what it’s like navigating the porn industry as a fat woman who would “rather be f*cking.”

Sean Saifa Wall was only a teenager when he was tricked into having a surgery he didn’t need. Born with intersex traits, doctors assigned Saifa female at birth even though his sexual anatomy didn’t match that of what is considered traditionally female. Still, his genitalia hasn’t stopped him from having some of the best sex of his life, nor has it prevented him from being an activist working to end intersex surgery once and for all.

Yasmin Benoit is used to making heads turn with her lingerie modeling and her asexual and aromantic activism. While Yasmin's modeling career and her lack of sexual and romantic desire for other people might be hard for some people to comprehend, Yasmin assures us that these details are actually the least "weird" things about her. Get to know Yasmin and learn about asexuality in our special "How I Don't F*ck" episode.

Mistress Maia McQueen was in her late twenties when she first started training to be a professional dominatrix. Before discovering her kinky side, Maia was a "bossy" young woman looking to be empowered after coming out of an abusive relationship. Now a pro domme with years of experience and a clientele, Maia describes the many different types of kinks she and her partner enjoy and the type of services her clients request. 

Ashley Manta is a sex and relationship coach known to many as the Cannasexual. While Ashley combines sex and cannabis to enhance intimacy, she first started using cannabis to help her cope with the multiple sexual assaults she experienced throughout her life. But before discovering cannabis's effects on her, Ashley had to figure out on her own how to navigate sex as someone who felt pain during penetrative intercourse and who experienced PTSD as a result of her assaults.

Non-black people across the U.S. are responding to the recent Black Lives Matter protests by taking time to reflect on their own internalized prejudices. But what about dating and sex? Should we also be taking time to reflect on our dating and sex habits, whether that be porn or our dating bios?

In this episode of How I F*ck, we speak with Ekelle, a black pansexual woman who's experienced othering and discrimination on dating apps and in real life. Ekelle also describes to us why sexual liberation is especially important for black women and how seeing black people killed frequently on the news affects her dating life.