Toxic Masculinity - Behind The Mask

Simon is a philosophy & applied ethics lecturer, creator of academic online courses and passionate about all topics exploring modern man and masculinity in today’s society. Simon writes blogs on positive masculinity which can be found on medium.com. In this episode we discussed why the traditional role of men is dead and how patriarchy has had a devastating effect on men. Men can no longer rely on relationships to get their need to be strong and needed validated as women have their own well-paid jobs and can provide for themselves. So what do men need to do? Listen now to find out. Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/shari-lewison-frisch1/message

Cass is a coach who has helped thousands of men save their marriages which were on the brink of collapse due to constant fighting, lack of sex, adultery etc.

Cass had been in an abusive marriage for years and openly admits that he abused his wife emotionally, physical and sexually. He had a restraining order against him and a 12-month probationary order and his wife had left him 7 times!

So how was Cass able to turn his own abusive marriage around and convince his wife that the relationship was savable and that he had the power to change?

Normally, being verbally and physically abusive to your partner would signal the end of the relationship which most people would struggle to come back from.

It was a great conversation, so listen here to find out how Cass was able to turn his life around and help so many other men and women do the same.

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Rachel is a child psychotherapist working in schools and in this episode she talks to me about the significant rise in the number of boys and young men who are coming to see her.

Rachel has a wealth of experience in school settings supporting students with their mental health. She advises schools on their mental health strategies and setting up counselling provisions in schools.

Rachel supports young people with issues such as anxiety, eating disorders, depression and trauma.

We spoke about the difference between how boys approach mental health and respond to therapy compared with girls. Although the issues aren’t that different, the language we use needs to be quite different, and learning how to interact with them to unlock what is really going on beneath the anger, rage, despondency or moodiness.

Rachel gives us some valuable insights and tips on how to talk about mental health with men.

I hope you enjoy the episode

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In this episode Gavin talks about the toxicity within the gym culture and the over-whelming need to look good and impress others. We spoke about the growing use of steroids amongst young men and boys to bulk up their muscle mass instead of working with the body as it is. We also talked about the collective, generational trauma in the south-Asian community and why they don’t want to talk about mental health issues for fear of shame or blame. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/shari-lewison-frisch1/message

In this episode, I spoke to Anthony about what it is that men want in a relationship. What qualities do they value and part active part are they willing to take in supporting their partner with cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids? Or is it the woman’s role as the nurturer despite maybe working a full-time job? It’s time to challenge those age-old perspectives and ask ourselves is there a different way men can show up and still remain masculine? Have a listen now. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/shari-lewison-frisch1/message

In this episode, I spoke to Sean about the mindset change that led him to go dry for the month of January in 2021. He then decided to continue for another 11 months, after which, Sean made this a lifestyle choice, dropped 100 pounds in weight, started listening to podcasts and has even written a book about his journey called "Going Dry".

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Chazz Scott is an author, speaker, mindset and resilience coach. He works with under-privileged young people, running workshops on mental health and helping to equip them with the tools for the demands of everyday life. Chazz also coaches executives.

We spoke about the importance of developing a morning routine by setting aside a few minutes each day, how our thoughts create our future, and how a negative mindset can affect our beliefs. Chazz also talked about overcoming depression and how applying the principles that are now in his book "Success Starts Within" got him back on track.

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I had a great time talking to Mac about his early introduction into the world of martial arts which lasted over 30 years. We talked about the positive teachings and role models, and how that helped to shape and form his ideals. We also talked about his book "Positive Masculinity Now" and how patriarchy and toxic masculinity limits and hurts us all. Mac is a well-known activist and speaks on gender and sexuality issues.

You can find out more about Mac and his work at: positivemasculinitynow.org 

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In this episode, Jeff shares with me his story of overcoming his addiction to alcohol and pornography, recusing his marriage from failure and what being a positive role model to his two sons means to him.

Jeff is a high-performance coach and sought after public speaker, and he has written a best-selling book "Rise, Fight, Love, Repeat - Ignite Your Morning Fire" which sets out the steps you need to take, just a few minutes every day, to become more successful in every aspect of your life.

You can find out more about Jeff and the work he does at www.themorningfire.com and connect with him on his social media platforms.

Want to be a guest on my podcast? Then drop me a line at [email protected] . Let me know your thoughts and subscribe if you've enjoyed this podcast. Until the next episode.

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In this episode, Joe shares with me his story of bringing up three boys aged 11, 15 and 17 one of whom has Asperger's, another has ADHD and the other son suffered with depression. It's a tough call for most parents and we talked about the importance of setting firm boundaries and expectations centred in love. Joe has also written a booked "Everyday Excellence" which is a daily reflection on where you are, what you need and how you are going to master your day.

You can find out more about Joe at www.everyday-excellence.com.

Drop me a line if you would like to share your story with me [email protected].

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