Working Change

Marla and Nate discuss what internalizing and externalizing are. They also talk about related psychiatric disorders and how to find more balance when we do too much of one or the other.

Marla and Nate talk about codependency and how it can show up in relationships.

Marla and Nate discuss anger. The reasons we feel it and how we can manage it.

Marla and Nate discuss the Sam Harris book "Lying". Additionally, they talk about some reasons people lie and what reasons that may encourage people to be honest.

Marla and Nate discuss why people often seek out therapy. They look at different types of clinicians and how coaching compares to therapy. They discuss some of the limitations of therapy and the general practice of how it works.

Marla and Nate discuss the human need to trust. Why are people wired to trust and can we improve our ability to trust. They also discuss the components of trust and how we can improve our own trustworthiness so that people close to us will feel more trust towards us.

Marla and Nate discuss the difficulties surrounding human suffering. They talk about the possibility of eliminating some suffering from our lives and how to endure suffering we can't control.

Marla and Nate discuss recent trends in the U.S. for people to have fewer close friends. One study showed 10% of women and 15% of men have zero close friends. They discuss the benefits of close friendships and offer suggestions on how to refill our dwindling friend supply.

Marla and Nate discuss vulnerability in relationships and how to use it to improve our connections with others. Marla and Nate offer a definition of vulnerability, a step by step way to improve vulnerability, and the reasons why it can help us develop the skill of receiving love.

Marla and Nate discuss the symptoms and how to overcome challenges associated with social anxiety disorder. Marla owns the pain of being picked last in high school PE and Nate talks about how first grade experiences led him to question himself to the point he struggled to make friends and believe in himself.