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Today’s topic is a bit of a tough one, but it is something that is so important for anyone with older children as they start to experiment with alcohol and/or drugs. We will be discussing substance abuse and addiction with our guest, Richard Capriola, an expert on the subject. With over two decades of experience, Richard will be sharing how to identify the warning signs that your child is struggling and how to approach the conversation with them.

Listen in as we touch on the sensitive topic of eating disorders and self-harm, as well as what to do if you see these changes in your child. You'll learn the different substances that are more commonly used these days, how they differ from older generations, and how to ensure your child is feeling understood and listened to so that you can help them through their addictions or underlying issues.

6:02 - 8:40 - The letter of the day.

8:40 - 11:05 - How Richard got into the mental health industry with a specialty in addictions.

11:05 - 13:11 - The warning signs to be aware of that your child might be struggling with addiction.

13:11 - 16:52 - The different substances to be aware of.

16:52 - 22:15 - Why these substances are being used and abused.

24:03 - 28:30 - The difference between adult addiction and adolescent addiction.

28:30 - 34:03 - How to prevent your child from becoming addicted and help them if they are already suffering.

34:03 - 38:50 - How to support both your child and your family.

Takeaways:

• Warning signs that your child is abusing substances.
• How substances affect your child’s brain development.
• The importance of listening and understanding your children.
• How to discuss this topic with your children.
• Why addiction is so prevalent these days.

Quotes:

“You have to wonder why they are drinking alcohol or why they are using marijuana.” - Richard Capriola

“As parents, we’re always worried about something. There is just different worries at different stages.” Summer Mulder

“Most of the people that I was working with were using substances to medicate an underlying issue.” - Richard Capriola

3 Interesting Clips:

2:20 - 3:02 - The biggest eye-opener when having children.

12:00 - 13:11 - Warning signs to be aware of.

25:00 - 26:28 - How children are getting ahold of dangerous substances.

Links:

• Richard Capriola: Website
• The Addicted Child by Richard Capriola
• Text us: 760-389-3722
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What if I told you that you have the answers to the things that can solve your problems, determine good choices vs. bad choices, and ultimately make your life better? Many of us don’t know how to trust it, access it, or take full advantage of it, but today we are talking with Sunil Godse about the incredible gift that is our intuition.

Sunil is the CEO and Founder of Intuitionology, and he has has dedicated a lot of his life to unpacking and harnessing the benefits of our natural intuition. Listen in as he shares some incredible insight on how to recognize your intuition and the importance of learning to trust it. You will hear great tips on how to use this powerful tool when navigating frustrating, stressful, and complicated situations.

5:54 – 9:17 - An anonymous letter from a sister.

9:18 – 14:39 - Sunil’s background in intuition and why he decided to pursue the path he’s on.

14:40 – 17:13 - The science behind intuition and when it starts.

17:14 – 20:06 – How intuition works for people.

20:07 – 23:10 - Applying intuition to the challenges of a blended family.

23:11 – 31:09 – The four types of intuition.

31:10 – 41:31 – How to be more in-tune with your intuition.

 41:32 – 57:42 – How to pay attention to intuition over the noise of everyday life.

Takeaways:

• How to stop ignoring and discrediting your own intuition.
• The commonalities of successful people when it comes to intuition.
• How science explains the reality of intuition.
• Ways to recognize your intuition so you know what to pay attention to and what to ignore.

Quotes:

“I really needed to figure out this thing called intuition because now I’d lost time, money, effort, and now a good friend.” - Sunil Godse

“Intuition is all in the primitive area [of your brain], so all it knows is fight or flight. There’s no language associated with it. So no wonder I couldn’t find a definition. We all define it in our own way—we just have this feeling.” - Sunil Godse

“What intuition does really well is to make sure that people come back to their values of what they are and give you the signals to make sure those values are strong.” - Sunil Godse

3 Interesting Clips:

9:47 - 10:26 - What happens when you ignore intuition.

14:50 - 15:19 - Why intuition exists, according to neuroscience.

20:53 - 21:36 – The importance of trusting your intuition.

Links:

• Sunil Godse: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter
• Fail Fast, Succeed Faster by Sunil Godse
• Text us: 760-389-3722
• Send us an anonymous letter

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Today’s topic is super real and important, as we’ve seen a lot of people struggle with this during and after divorce. Parental alienation is something that today's guest, Susan Shofer, specializes in. Susan is a certified divorce coach who will be giving us insight on the extreme vs. mild cases of this problematic situation, the damage it has on children, how to handle it, and much more.

Listen in as Susan shares key insights from the many cases she has dealt with over the years and sheds light on how to cope with situations like this in a productive and healing way. You will hear about some of the lesser-known effects and trauma that occur as a result of parental alienation, as well as how to properly identify it and deal with it. If you or someone you love is dealing with (or even causing) parental alienation issues, this is a very important episode to listen to and share.

6:26 – 8:23 - A letter about parental alienation.

8:24 – 16:29 - Susan’s journey with divorce and how she helps people with parental alienation and more.

16:30 – 19:49 - How alienation starts and what to do to head it off or make sure it doesn’t get worse.

19:50 – 30:00 – Understanding when alienation is actually happening and when it’s not.

30:01 – 42:52 - Why parents cause alienation, the rationalization they use, and how the child is an actor in their play.

42:53 – 56:05 – Whether parent alienators ever stop alienating and how children see it when they get older.

56:06 – 1:03:20 - What to do if you are the parent being alienated.

Takeaways:

• The importance of having an attorney who understands parental alienation.
• What an alienated parent can do to make the situation better.
• The mental illness and narrative behind alienation.
• How children realize what happened and the common outcomes of alienation.

Quotes:

“When you’re dealing with alienation, just about everything that we do that seems reasonable—is not.” - Susan Shofer

“It is not about the he said, she said—and most judges see it that way. It’s worse after the divorce. Once the watchful eye of the attorneys, parent coordinators, mediators, and judges are no longer in view, the alienator has a grand old time and it’s hard to fight it.” - Susan Shofer

“The alienator breaks down the trust and they create fear, and that’s what keeps the children from wanting to see the other parent.” - Susan Shofer

3 Interesting Clips:

13:31 - 14:13 - The unreasonable instincts that occur when dealing with parental alienation.

15:38 - 16:20 - The importance of writing the divorce decree with parental alienation in mind.

32:00 - 33:51 – The signs of truly abused children and how they protect the abuser.

Links:

• Susan Shofer: Website | LinkedIn | Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | Instagram | Pinterest
• Parental Alienation – Susan Shofer TEDx Talk  
• Parental Alienation Study Group
• Text us: 760-389-3722
• Send us an anonymous letter

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Going through the teenage stage with your children is a stressful time for everyone, but what if your teen was also a famous TikToker? Today’s guest is Kyle Kaplanis, a step-dad to four and father to a social media star. In this episode, he shares his amazing insight into using social media within the family and how to approach the needed open conversations around sex, alcohol, and everything else.

Listen in as Kyle shares his experience joining a family of four children without having any children of his own and the dynamic with his partner and her ex-spouse. You will learn why it is important to make your children feel safe and supported, the responsibility that comes with being a celebrity/influencer, and how to respond to “haters.”

2:25 - 5:05 - What Kyle’s family dynamic is like.

5:05 - 7:37 - What it was like joining a family of four children.

7:37 - 10:00 - Why Kyle let the kids come to him instead of trying to force the relationship.

10:00 - 20:20 - How Kyle and his family supported his step-daughter when she started gaining traction on TikTok.

20:20 - 27:40 - The importance of allowing for open conversations around tough subjects with your kids.

27:40 - 43:03 - The negative effects of being an influencer.

Takeaways:

• How Kyle entered into a family without any drama involved.
• Why he supported his step-daughter in her social media endeavors.
• How to approach the conversation of social media with your children.
• The importance of making your children feel like they can talk to you about anything.
• The responsibility that comes with being an influencer.
  

Quotes:

“I went into my relationship with the kids not trying to replace anybody.” - Kyle Kaplanis

“We have to remember that these kids grew up in the era of technology, so to tell them they can’t [join social media] is like saying they can’t play at the park with their friends.” - Kyle Kaplanis

“You have to remember for those who are looking for fame, it comes with a ton of responsibility.” - Kyle Kaplanis

3 Interesting Clips:

8:00 - 9:35 - Why Kyle found it so easy to join another family—without any drama.

13:19 - 14:05 - How getting involved together on social media brought Kyle’s family closer together.

20:20 - 22:00 - The importance of having open conversations with your children.

Links:

• Kyle Kaplanis: Instagram | LinkedIn |TikTok
• JaydeCanDance
• Text us: 760-389-3722
• Send us an anonymous letter

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Are you recently divorced or separated and wondering what life is going to look like in the dating arena now that you’re no longer married or with the person you were with? If you have questions about returning to dating—whether it's after divorce, with kids, in a pandemic, or after a pandemic—this episode is for you. My guest today is Coach T. Anthony, and he helps people with online dating, including how to set up a profile, what to say, who to look for, and much more.

Getting back into the game, or learning how to date again after being out of that world for so long, is something a lot of people struggle with. So Coach T. will share some really helpful advice that will allow you to successfully date online and get rid of a lot of the fear, dread, or uncertainty around learning to date again in such an online world.

3:54 – 6:32 - How Coach T. got into the online dating world.

6:33 – 11:02 - Where to start when jumping into online dating.

11:03 – 12:45 - How to maneuver in the dating world during a pandemic.

12:46 – 21:09 - Red flags and how to not waste your time when online dating.

21:10 – 30:39 - What to put (or not put) on your dating profile.

30:40 – 44:35 - Mindset shifts, tips, and “rules” when moving back into dating.

Takeaways:

• The issues that come up when going back to online dating after not dating for years.
• How the pandemic has affected people in dating and what Coach T. has helped them with.
• Advice on how to not waste your time while online dating.
• Important mindset moves that you need to make.
• The dos and don’ts of dating profile setup.

Quotes:

“They don’t want to go through the frustrations and the horror stories that they’ve heard about online dating—and that’s where I come in.” – Coach T. Anthony

“Once you get on two or three different apps, then you get too overwhelmed and just stop doing it altogether. I would suggest sticking with just one app for now.” – Coach T. Anthony

“I help men and women maneuver through the jungle of online dating.” – Coach T. Anthony

3 Interesting Clips:

17:17- 8:03 - Not wanting to make the first move.

9:03 – 9:36 - Avoid app overwhelm and keep it simple.

16:01 – 17:58 - “Should I put single or divorced on my profile?”

Links:

• Coach T. Anthony: Website | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter
• Bumble
• Hinge
• Match.com
• Text us: 760-389-3722
• Send us an anonymous letter

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As a blended family ourselves, we understand the ups and downs that come with co-parenting and divorce. We have experienced and learned from our own mistakes, taking every day as it comes and facing every challenge head-on. So today, I will be addressing high-conflict parenting and how to push your ego aside to ensure the safety and happiness of your children.

Listen in as I discuss why you are not alone in experiencing high-conflict parenting and why it’s not the divorce itself, but the way you handle the divorce that can make the biggest difference. You will learn the importance of making your children the focus, why we must acknowledge that everyone shows their love in different ways, and why you must keep your opinions to yourself. If you are a divorced co-parent, this is the episode for you.  

1:30 - 4:45 - The everyday challenges of co-parenting.
4:45 - 11:45 - Why the way you are handling the divorce is the real issue.
11:45 - 21:15 - Why you must keep your opinions and your judgments to yourself.
21:15 - 30:55 - How to avoid drama in co-parenting.
30:55 - 40:00 - Why it’s never too late to make changes.

Takeaways:

• How to remove your ego from situations.
• The importance of making your children the focus, not the other parent.
• The ups and downs of co-parenting.
• How to address high-conflict parenting.
• Why we should never bring our children into our co-parenting fights.
  
  

Quotes:

“It’s really hard to put your ego aside and maintain the priority of the children.” – Summer

“It’s the conflict that you have as co-parents and the way that you show it in front of the kids—that’s the damaging part.” – Summer

“It’s not the divorce that’s the issue, it’s the way that you’re handling your divorce.” – Summer

3 Interesting Clips:

2:45 - 4:45 - Why you are not alone if you are experiencing high-conflict parenting.

6:30 - 11:18 - Why it isn’t the divorce that’s the issue—it’s the way that you’re handling the divorce.

28:30 - 30:55 - How to allow your children to have a relationship with the other parent without stepping in.

Links:

• Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together by
  Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond
• Text us: 760-389-3722
• Send us an anonymous letter

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Today I’m excited to welcome Melissa Wilson onto the show to talk about bonding with bonus kids and how to navigate bringing an “us” baby into the family. A certified fitness trainer who is passionate about health and nutrition, Melissa is also a step-parent with a lot of insight on creating a strong and transparent relationship with a stepchild.

Listen in as we discuss how to handle having different rules in different homes, as well as what to do when you are bringing a new child into the mix. Melissa has some really great wisdom to share when it comes to open and honest communication with children that I think will be super helpful for those times you may feel alone, frustrated, or guilty about feelings you have toward stepchildren and your “us” baby.

5:03 – 9:34 – The story of Melissa’s blended family and what it’s like to meet an older step-child.

9:35 – 12:52 – How she and her wife started their relationship with boundaries and setting roles.

12:53 – 14:20 – The co-parenting situation and what they make a priority.

14:21 – 24:26 – The process of bringing a new child into the picture together and how that affected the family dynamic.

26:19 – 44:39 – How Melissa's relationship with her wife has been stretched and grown since blending families.

44:40 – 49:37 – Her coaching work and what projects she’s working on.

Takeaways:

• How to navigate finding your role as a new step-parent.
• The importance of open dialogue between the step-parent and stepchild.
• The different feelings with an “us” child and dealing with guilty feelings as a step-parent.
• How to prepare for not knowing everything that comes with blending families.
• Why it's crucial to continue learning throughout the process.
• The value of having hard rules in your relationship.

Quotes:

“The big piece of what we intentionally did was that I opened up a really open dialogue and communication with my step-son from the get-go. We do talk about the things that are working or not working.” – Melissa Wilson

“It’s just about having the same shared goal. We work different—we have two very different households with four very different parents, but at the end of the day, we all share the same dream of having a blended family that works for Jaden.” – Melissa Wilson

“There are complicated feelings that come with a blended family because there are so many different types of relationships that are involved and different types of love that are happening.” – Summer

3 Interesting Clips:

7:30 – 8:00 – The hardest part of Melissa's relationship with her older step-child.

11:56 – 12:51 -  Creating an open dialogue between step-parent and stepchild from the start.

22:49 – 24:26 - The importance of resolving the big feelings and building a positive relationship.

Links:

• Melissa Wilson: Instagram | Podcast | Website
• Text us: 760-389-3722
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Today’s podcast is pretty serious because we're talking about something that is really important. We will be going through all the things your kids need to know before they turn 18. This is the perfect time to reflect on what you have (or have not) been teaching your kids and make a plan to prepare them for the world.

There are 18 specific things that will be highlighted as necessary for a kid to know in order to be prepared for the real world. Listen in as we go over them and discuss how you can help teach these concepts—even if you don’t feel very knowledgeable in some of these areas. If you’re hoping to give your children the best chance of thriving in their adult lives, this episode is for you!

2:55 – 6:10 – An anonymous letter to no one in particular.

6:11 – 11:11 – The importance of evaluating what kids need in order to be prepared for the real world and how that applies to step-parents.

11:12 – 18:20 – Communication, responsibility, and problem-solving skills.

18:21 – 26:48 – Household skills, time management, and money management.

26:49 – 29:31 – Transportations skills, car maintenance, paying bills, and scheduling appointments.

29:30 – 36:33 – Job-related skills, cleaning skills, and emergency situational skills.

Takeaways:

• The critical value of social and communication skills in the real world.
• Why taking responsibility is important in order to develop other skills.
• How money management and bills can make or break your child’s success.
• Valuable home skills and emergency knowledge could save lives.
• How taking the time to steadily teach a variety of skills will allow your child to get valuable experience and soak in important knowledge well before turning 18.

Quotes:

“Do you feel confident that your child, when they graduate high school, will be ready for the real world?” – Summer

“It’s important, as an adult, to not just spiral out of control. A really good skill to have as an adult is to argue effectively.” – Summer

“Take responsibility for things you do, and apologize when you’re wrong.” – Mike

3 Interesting Clips:

8:55 – 9:50 – The common issue when kids leave the nest unprepared.

12:20– 13:05 -  The downfall of poor social skills.

30:31 – 31:21 - Why it’s so important to have cleaning skills.

Links:

• Text us: 760-389-3722
• Send us an anonymous letter

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Susan Guthrie is one of the top family law and mediation attorneys in the country. That's why I'm so excited to have her on the show today to discuss how you can avoid spending tons of money going to court as a divorced couple and do the right thing for your kids. For over 30 years, Susan has helped families and individuals navigate divorce, separation, co-parenting, and everything that comes along with divorce involving children.

Listen in to hear some of the incredible insight that she has gained over her years working with people going through divorce. You'll get really important tips and advice on going through this process in a way that is not only less expensive, but also less divisive and costly (in an emotional sense) for your children.

5:18 – 9:20 – An anonymous letter to a Facebook friend.

9:21 14:13 – Introducing Susan and how she got into her line of work.

14:14 – 18:06 – The biggest problems that come up in the early phase of a divorce.

18:07 – 23:27– The importance of what you model to your children.

23:28 – 31:09 -  Dealing with a high-conflict ex.

31:10 – 57:50 - How to avoid court through mediation and have a better life post-divorce.

Takeaways:

• Why the choices you make at the beginning of a divorce are so important.
• How to manage a high-conflict ex.
• Why having a respectful divorce is so important for your children.
• The dangers of trying to hide divorce conflict from children.
• How to stay out of court and include your ex in that decision.

Quotes:

“I found that the adversarial and litigation approach didn’t work for me. My personal life very much colored my professional life, and I never looked back. I switched over to a mediation approach to divorce, and now I train other mediators.” – Susan Guthrie

“It is not the divorce itself that causes difficulty for children. It is the level of conflict between their parents.” – Susan Guthrie

“It is harder once you're caught up in the litigation cycle to move out of it, but you always can. You always can choose to go to mediation or go to a different process to try to work things through.” – Susan Guthrie

3 Interesting Clips:

14:53 – 16:36 – The importance of the way you start your divorce.

17:17 – 17:50 -  What really causes difficulty for your children in a divorce.

20:25 – 21:10 - Why you need to be aware of what you’re modeling to your children.

Links:

• Susan Guthrie: Website | Facebook |Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube
• Divorce and Beyond Podcast
• Split film
• Our Happy Divorce
• Everything Always Episode 69: How to Have a Happy Divorce with Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond
• Text us: 760-389-3722
• Send us an anonymous letter

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Victim mentality is a trap that is really hard to get yourself out of. This past year has—understandably—been part of the reason why many of us have fallen into this toxic way of thinking. So in this episode, we’ll be discussing what it might look like to be in that mentality and how to get out of it.

If you’re going through something difficult or dealing with someone difficult, it can be way too easy to fall into a victim mentality. You’ll hear about the sabotage, the root cause, and more that play a part in this way of thinking. Listen in to learn how you might get caught in this and the mindset you need in order to recognize where you are and pull yourself out.

3:05 – 5:21 – Why it’s so important to address victim mentality this year.

5:22 - 10:47 – An open letter to all bio moms who keep their kids from their fathers.

10:48 – 13:19 – What it looks like to have a victim mentality.

13:20 – 16:25– Why we get stuck in negativity and who is really in control.

16:26 – 28:30 -  What happens when you fall into victim mentality and what you’re really seeking.

28:31 – 35:15 - How to move forward from your difficulties.

Takeaways:

• Key signs that you fall into victim mentality.
• You are in control of yourself and nobody else.
• The importance of playing the long game.
• Why we fall into victim mentality.
• The mindset you need to be in so you can beat victim mentality.

Quotes:

“Sometimes, in order to get out of the thing you’re in that feels so negative, you don’t get to snap your fingers and be like, 'I’m out of here!' You have to play the long game sometimes.” – Mike

“A big thing about victim mentality is that when you complain about something with a friend or somebody and they give you advice, but you always have an excuse.” – Summer

“Negative strength is the least efficient fuel you can run on, but a lot of people get by and move forward on negativity.” – Mike

3 Interesting Clips:

12:30 – 13:42 - A key warning sign of victim mentality.

14:50 – 15:35 -  How to get out of a bad situation and move forward.

17:22 – 18:47 - How victim mentality sabotages you.

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