Connexions

Truth is rare to find in our world. It’s even more rare to find someone who actually chooses to live inside the Truth. To find a person who is honest, responsible and humble is difficult. Why is that? Why are there so few people who choose to live inside values and principles?

Today’s podcast talks of a young woman who finds herself in an environment where few to no people are choosing Truth. Though she knows she wants to live inside Truth, she is sad that so few people desire it as well.

Listen to her journey. Hopefully, you will be inspired to choose and live in Truth yourself.

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When I choose not to be honest, responsible and humble, I will choose to be irresponsible, dishonest and prideful.

These irresponsible behaviors are what we use to control the discomfort of reality. Each person has their own flavor of control. Some examples of controlling behaviors include, picking skin and biting fingernails, staying up all night playing video games, smoking, scrolling on social media, over-eating. The controlling behavior I’m focusing on today is the refusal to eat.

I answer a mother’s question about her daughter’s lying to cover up a developing eating disorder. Controlling behaviors are always accompanied with manipulation, lying and hiding. The manipulation, lying and hiding create a “protective” barrier for the controlling behavior, which is “protecting” discomfort and pain. This young woman is creating a layered cocoon of control. She is building walls and doesn’t want her mother to tap into what is really going on.

Listen to how confused this mother becomes as she chases her daughter’s lies instead of going straight to the heart of the issue.

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What does it mean to "want to dress like a girl?" What would a girl dress like?

Well, some people would say, "wear a dress," "wear pastels," "wear heels," "curl your hair," "put on makeup," etc.

The Truth is there is no Truth to that. I, for example, am a girl and I dress very differently than those descriptors above. What you place on your body has zero to do with you genetically being a girl or a boy.

So what's going on?

Why are men and women demanding and inserting that they are in the wrong bodies? Come listen to how people are being invited into this confusion all from a place of looking for connection, listen to how they are being lied to and why it is so easily believed.

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Parents, are you waking up to the reality that we are living in a world where we as moms and dads in Truth

are not being supported?

Can you feel the war being waged against raising children in Truth? It’s real! Distortion is constantly and deliberately battling Truth. And what better way for distortion to gather allies, than to flatter children with promises that they can have what they want?

Standing for Truth, making necessary sacrifices and telling children “no," as village support is nowhere to be found, is almost unbearable . . . almost.

Parents, we brought children into this world and we need to stand by them as we guide them in principles of honesty, responsibility and humility. Allowing teachers, counselors, coaches, church leaders or any other person take higher authority in our children’s lives is neglecting the

sacred role of parent.

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Many people very intentionally decide to have children and some of us very intentionally decide not to have Children.

And yet there are some of us who engage in sexual activity and then act shocked that they are going to be a parent! Regardless of whether a child is planned for and desired or whether a child is unexpected and catches you off guard, you are going to be a parent and parents are required to be responsible. You may ask what in the world am I responsible for in parenting a child?

Your primary responsibility is to teach your child about principles-about how to be honest, responsible and humble.

Today we will learn how to teach honesty, responsibility and humility when your child decides he/she doesn't want to go to church any longer.

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In every decision that I make, I am responsible to understand my motive.

Why am I doing this? Who am I doing this for? What did I expect?

Knowing my motive is critical if I am to live inside truth. When I am unaware of my motive, I will default into living a life of distortion.

Join me in answering this mother's question about her daughter's motives. Why is this daughter showing up irresponsibly and lying? And how will this mother approach the daughter and help this daughter to see that her motives are in distortion?

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Are you someone who believes that a one or two year old cannot understand principles? At what age do you think they're able to understand? 

What if you enable them to live in distortion . . . which means you're not honest with them, you don't encourage them to be responsible, you don't hold boundaries with them, you lie to them about people and about their environment because you want to be comfortable . . . and then when they turn five, you want to teach them the Truth?

Do you think they will then be interested in changing? My experience tells me, no. Distortion is a space where a person or a child appears to get what they want and

then they're not interested in getting what they actually need, which is the Truth.

Come learn how a parent of a little child is trying to change their perception from distortion back into the Truth and how difficult it is because they did not start when they were younger.

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How do I connect with a loved one when the loved one only takes?

Is it possible to wallow in a pigpen and not get muddy? These questions pull at the heartstrings of parents and grandparents all over the world.

Selfish entitlement cannot demand a relationship.

Relationships are carefully built, one Truthful choice at a time. Just as a home cannot stand without a solid foundation, neither can a relationship be demanded or coerced.

Honesty, responsibility and humility are foundational to any loving connected relationship.

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Teenagers who want to date? When is that experience appropriate for your teen? Is there a certain age when kids are ready to date?

I would say no, there's not an age, but I would say that there's a baseline that you don't even consider that your child begins to go one on one with the opposite sex until they are 16 years old. And then just because they're 16, doesn't mean that they are mature in such a way to be alone with the opposite sex.

Kids are ready to date when they can give you evidence over the course of months and years that they know how to use their choices to be honest, responsible and humble. So you as the parent need to know and need to live in Truth as well so that you'll be able to see whether they're being honest, responsible and humble or not. If you are not living that way, you are only going to reflect the bar to the degree that you live.

So you have a child, your job is to model and to hold boundaries and to reflect their responsibility of their thoughts, their feelings and their behaviors, no matter what age they are. So when they start hitting their teenage years, they are ready and mature and confident about themselves. So when they start spending time one on one with the opposite sex, they are not a shell, they have self esteem and they don't feel any need to take from the other person.

Come learn what honest, responsible and humble look like and make sure that your teenager gives you years of evidence that they know how to make honest, responsible and humble choices.

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This life affords each human three guarantees. One is the opportunity to experience a physical body of flesh and blood. Two, the freedom to exercise agency to choose. And three, the realization of death. Each of us will experience the ending of life. We are all mortal.

Just as our bodies differ in function, health and strength, so do our bodies differ in when and how death comes.

Have you experienced the death of a loved one? Did you accept or deny the reality? Grieving, sadness, shock, anger, resentment and even destructive behaviors are all responses you may have chosen. 

Come listen for Truth and distortion inside a young man's experience losing a loved one.

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