One Conversation Podcast

In this episode, Colin and Briana chat with author Delia Franklin about her book, Domestic and Intimate Partner Violence: A Holistic Perspective, and get her download on the state of DV, IPV< and SA, as well as some of historical and sociological learnings on how we address abuse, violence and assault on a national and global scale. Shop Delia's Book here : https://www.amazon.com/Domestic-Intimate-Partner-Violence-Perspective/dp/1793571597 Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)

In this episode, Lisa shares some common signs that indicate it might be time to re-evaluate, or end your relationship.

Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444

International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788

One Love “How do I Know When It’s Time to Breakup?”: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-break-up/

Time Magazine “How to Know When It’s Time to Let go of Someone You Love”: https://time.com/5373451/break-up-someone-love/

-Other Informational Episodes:

-The 5 Types of DV Abuse

-What Gaslighting Sounds Like

-Should I Stay or Should I go? A Common Question in DV Relationships

-Teen Dating Violence-One Sided Relationships

-Trauma Bonds

-The Cycle of Violence

-Red & Green Flags in Relationships

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***Disclaimer- In this episode Lisa discusses abuse that occurs in reactive abuse dynamics, and also shares a personal story that involves physical abuse. Listener discretion is advised***

In this episode Lisa discusses reactive abuse. She starts by giving an overview and definition of reactive abuse before talking about warning signs, why reactive abuse is helpful for the abuser, and even shares her own personal experience.

Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444

International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788

Other Episodes Mentioned:

-Post Separation Abuse & How to Stay or Leave Safely

-Safety Plans- What They Are & When You Should Make One

-The 4 F’s of Trauma

-What Gaslighting Sounds Like

Emerald Aisle Health & Recovery “Reactive Abuse”: https://emeraldislehealthandrecovery.com/reactive-abuse/

Break The Cycle “Reactive Abuse, What it is And Why Abusers Rely on it”: https://breakthesilencedv.org/reactive-abuse-what-it-is-and-why-abusers-rely-on-it/

National Legal Service “What is Reactive Abuse”: https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/Choosing Therapy “Reactive Abuse”: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/reactive-abuse/

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In this episode we chat with Maddie Bishop, who is a psychotherapist that specializes in the neurobiology of trauma and chronic stress. Maddie has a private practice in South Lake Tahoe, and utilizes several unique methods to approaching trauma therapy. We chat about her approach, how to choose the right therapist, and debunk a lot of common misconceptions surrounding therapy.

Maddie’s Website: https://www.maddiebishoptherapy.com/

Info on “Building Balance, Kickboxing For Mind & Body” Group: https://www.maddiebishoptherapy.com/groups

Maddie’s Instagram: @therapymaddiebishop

Peter Levine’s Book: Waking the Tiger: https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X

Bella Bishop Artwork Mentioned In Episode: @bellabishopstudio

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In this episode, Lisa talks about the all too common- ghosting. She starts by discussing some reasons why people choose to ghost others, and shares some of the consequences it has on the person who's been ghosted. She then shares some tips and phrases that can be used in some common dating situations to close the door on a relationship in an easy and honest way.

One Love- How to Let Someone Down Without Ghosting Them:

https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/healthy-conflict-how-to-let-someone-down-without-ghosting-them/

Scientific Article “Gone With The Wind: Exploring Mobile Dater’s Ghosting Experiences”: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0265407520970287

Good Men Project “Don’t Ghost People, Pick One of These Excuses Instead”: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/dont-ghost-people-pick-one-of-these-excuses-instead/

Previous Episodes Mentioned:

-Dealing With Breakups: Episode 5

-Post Relationship Abuse & How to Stay or Leave Safely: Episode 69

-Stalking: Episode 10

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In this episode Briana is joined by Brian Howard. Brian is a father, a podcaster, and a passionate volunteer for local causes. Brian vulnerably shares many of his life experiences and discusses how they have created an impact on who he is today. He also shares some of the most eye opening moments from his podcast, and advice for anyone who wants to start their own passion project.

Unfiltered Discussions Page: https://www.unfiltereddiscussionspodcast.com/

Brian’s Social Media: @unfiltereddis

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In this episode, Lisa shares out tips for how to navigate post-conflict situations. She shares some helpful questions and phrases that can be used to drive healthy conversations that come to a resolution, and can help repair damaged or hurt feelings.

National University “7 Conflict Resolution Tips for Couples”: https://www.nu.edu/blog/seven-conflict-resolution-tips-for-couples/

One Love “7 Tips for Handling Conflict in Your Relationship”: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/handling_conflict/

Psychology Today “How to Heal After Upsets”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201501/how-heal-after-upsets-safe-4-step-route-recovery

The Gottman Institute “How we Used the Aftermath of a Fight to Repair our Relationships”: https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-we-used-the-aftermath-of-a-fight-to-repair-our-relationship/

MayoClinic “Forgiveness: Letting go of Grudges & Bitterness”: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692

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In this episode we begin our "Our Stories" series. In these episodes, the One Conversation hosts are going to be vulnerably telling our personal stories of who we are, where we come from, and how we got into the field of violence prevention work. Our host Colin starts us off and shares background of his upbringing, moving from the east coast to the west coast, working for the Kardashians, and what led him to work at Live Violence Free in Tahoe.

June is Pride Month. In this episode we chat with Claire McCully. Claire is an English professor, LGBTQIA activist, speaker, writer, a parent of 6, and a proud trans woman. Claire is also a TedX speaker, and has written an opinion article that was published on CNN. In this episode Claire not only shares her vulnerable story of transitioning, but we also chat about activism, having transformative conversations, and how important it is to share stories like hers in our current political climate. Lastly, she shares her wisdom for anyone out there who's in the closet, questioning, or transitioning.

Claire’s TedX Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/claire_mccully_the_low_road_or_the_high_road

Claire’s CNN Response Article: https://www.cnn.com/2022/03/15/opinions/dont-say-gay-bill-florida-texas-trans-discrimination-mccully/index.html

Oriented to Love: https://christiansforsocialaction.org

Book “Walking The Bridgeless Canyon”: https://www.amazon.com/Walking-Bridgeless-Canyon-Repairing-Community/dp/1619200287

Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

GLAAD Resource List: https://glaad.org/resourcelist/

International LGBTQIA+ Resource List: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-international-lgbtq-youth/

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May is Mental Health Awareness Month. In this episode we have special guest Dawn Riddle, who is a certified guided meditation facilitator, to discuss some fascinating benefits of mindfulness and meditation. We chat about the several different types of mindfulness, some surprising health benefits achieved through consistent practice, and how to easily incorporate it into our everyday lives.

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction: https://palousemindfulness.com/

Mayo Clinic “Meditation, A Simple Fast Way To Reduce Stress”: https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858

NIH Meditation & Mindfulness: https://www.nccih.nih.gov/health/meditation-and-mindfulness-what-you-need-to-know

Tara Brach Guided Meditation Library: https://www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/

UCLA Health Guided Meditation Library: https://www.uclahealth.org/programs/marc/free-guided-meditations/guided-meditations

Neuro “Does Meditation Help With Brain Fog?”: https://getneuro.com/blogs/thinktank/can-meditation-help-with-brain-fogCan

Meditation Help Your Immune System?; https://ranchcreekrecovery.com/blog/meditation-for-the-immune-system/#:~:text=What%20are%20the%20Benefits%20of,pressure%20and%20enhanced%20cognitive%20function.

The Recovery Village “Meditation For Addiction”: https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/drug-addiction/meditation/

New York Time’s List “The 3 Best Meditation Apps”: https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-meditation-apps/

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