Yaesha Bloom

Sometimes we must grow apart to grow together. I believe it is essential to refine yourself and the company you keep over time, naturally this already happens. Resistance to this creates worlds of chaos so many find themselves, typically emotional to start off. Like anything else involving conscious change, this step as one of many is not an easy one. Yet it can be a part of your anchor of strength in yourself when the tides of life churn. 

Just another reiteration of how I believe defining who you are as an individual is important. It's a beautiful life and it's a fast one we should know who we are and where we're going. Enjoy the journey but plan your steps knowing changes will take place as old identities fall away.

Sometimes the lack of drive to continue on our path can be a significant sign. Often I feel we ignore this sign in order to sustain things that are not meant for us. Return to what feels suitable for you and watch the resistance fade away.

Sometimes situations call for us to stand firm when expressing our feelings to others or to have healthy discussions. Once a people pleaser I found it hard to do this for fear of losing folks. Although uncomfortable at first you'll find liberation in doing so. The right people will always listen without getting super defensive.

Too many times I hear about folks having a lack of purpose. Know, you define that purpose. It may sound cheesy but take it from my life has always felt fuller when I do what I want within reason. We shouldn't spend a lifetime trying to remember what brought s joy as children. Life can and should still be purpose-inspiring when you really seek it.

This can go in many directions when applied but I feel in a min,d, body, and spirit aspect you must learn to follow your own counsel. After we've asked all the questions and overturned many stones we are still met with having to make our own choices. What better way to forge your path than by learning to cultivate your willpower, determination, grace, integrities, etc? We can learn from each other but at the end of the day we must make and live out our own choices.

I believe we all have the natural inclination for deep expression, especially in times of uncertainty. These types of emotional deep expressions depending on the listener can be mistaken as depression. I feel it is essential to recognize the difference not just for yourself but when some may just need a hug and a little emotional support. Too often we repress these emotional expressions and this in my opinion is the culprit for some forms of "depression". 

One of the major things I've noticed is not many folks prepare for getting older whether 30 or 60yrs old, we go along drifting. Expecting more from the lease amount of effort in no direction. To grow for me means planning for the unknown with a direction or goal in mind. This means fear will show itself in the face of uncomfortable change but we must learn to act anyway for the sake of our own growth. In these moments we learn new things about ourselves as we shed a younger mind and bloom renewed.

Many like to say it's easy to move forward and just cut old things away. But no one really speaks on the emotionally painful part of it, to me we have to remember the practical aspect of being emotional creatures that hardly understand ourselves at best. Growth isn't so black and white, what works for one may not work for another. With this in mind, I believe there is importance in being aware and gentle with harder aspects of growth as we mature.

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Growth isn't just something we gain overnight. From my experience so far in this life, it takes time, as much as I hated hearing that it's comforting for me now. The reality is any form of growth like tending a garden takes maintenance. We should learn to cultivate joy in the maintenance of the things we cherish. To gain isn't enough to call it growth to accomplish longevity is the real deal.