Episode 66: Wisdom from Folklore with Felicia Russell, Part 2

Episode 71: Turning 30

Your intrepid host is no longer a twenty-something trying to figure stuff out--as of this past July, I'm now a thirty-something trying to figure stuff out!

To mark the occasion, this past summer I asked previous Perennials guests to share some wisdom about the third decade of life. They delivered reflections on what they let go of when leaving their twenties, what they wish they could tell their 30 year old self, things they are enjoying or did enjoy about their thirties, and advice on what to hold close during this decade.

Their responses are so comforting, kind, and thoughtful that they brought me to tears. I'll continue to cherish these messages for years to come, and I am so happy to share them with you.

I also included some of my own brief reflections on this transition, and on what I'm learning about and growing into lately around what it means to create a home for myself. 

Many, many thanks (in order of appearance) to the following good, kind, wise friends:

• Ona Gritz (Episode 15: Broken Things Can Shine)
• Danica Browne (Episode 68: Exploring the Midnight Library)
• Mallory Mortillaro (Episode 29: The Mystery of the Missing Statue)
• Catherine Gilmartin (Episode 21: Dog's Best Friend)
• Melissa Adamo (Episode 12: Growing Up Gilmore and Episode 64: Spring Cleaning)
• Zoe Gillis (Episode 43: Holding Space)
• Andy Feldman (Episode 18: Music & Creativity)
• Jessica Gaeta (Episode 27: And How Does That Make You Feel? and Episode 64: Spring Cleaning)
• Alex Baron (Episode 30: Not Babysitting)
• Lauren Roberts (Episode 23: Spirals of Healing and Episode 36: Grown Ups Vote)
• Sarah Koestner (Episode 39: True Love)
• Maya Sanyal (Episode 50: How You Matter, Part 1 and Episode 51: How You Matter, Part 2)
• Karen Florance (Episode 38: Spiritual Direction for Christmas)
• Meghan deBoer (Episode 56: Money Matters)
• Heather Tynan (Episode 11: Living in the Light Today)
• Lily Percy (Episode 40: Stories that Change Us)

Episode 70: Exploring the Enneagram with Maria Bowler

In today's episode, I'm talking to Maria Bowler, a contemplative artist, spiritual director, and enneagram guide. We discuss the mysterious roots of the enneagram, and Maria shares her unique way of differentiating the nine different types, as well as ways to think about identifying our own type. I ask Maria some of my most burning questions about spiritual seeking and growth in general. Is it ever too early to get on a spiritual path? How do we find ourselves while also trying to learn to surrender and let go? How do we get in right relationship with our will and desire while connecting to something bigger than ourselves?

So, we got into the deep end pretty quickly, and I loved every minute of it! I know you'll love exploring Maria's poetic, compassionate and wise perspective, too. 

References: 

• The Enneagram Institute
• The Wisdom of the Enneagram
• The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective 

Episode 69: Couples Therapy with Dr. Nadia Nieves

Today, I'm talking about couples therapy with Dr. Nadia Nieves, PhD, a limited license therapist in New York City. Nadia works with couples using an integrated approach of relational psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) interventions. She prioritizes supporting her clients in learning how to understand each other, navigating life transitions and conflict, and facilitating adaptive communication skills.

I was so excited to pick Nadia's brain about many things that make couples tick: expectations and agreements (or lack thereof), communication styles, family dynamics and history, and how our attachment styles and sense of self worth factor into the health of our relationship. In our conversation, we dispel some myths about couples therapy and who it's for, and discuss common issues that couples bring into sessions. Nadia is so smart, warm and compassionate in her approach to helping people learn how to better love each other and themselves. 

Episode 68: Exploring The Midnight Library with Danica Browne

In today's episode, my friend Danica Browne and I are unpacking themes from the novel The Midnight Library by Matt Haig. This is a book about unlived lives, regret, possibility, and hope. In this episode, Danica and I are talking about how these themes play out in our own lives. We discuss living vicariously through fictional characters, the subtleties of familial expectations, regrets and wonderings we have in the realms of career and relationships, and dreams that we suspect would not be as idyllic in real life as they are in our heads.

As always, if you have thoughts about today's episode, feel free to let me know! Email me at [email protected] or message me on Instagram @perennialspodcast. 

Episode 67: On Disappointment and Patience

In today's shorter, solo episode, I'm talking about wanting something, trying and striving for something, sitting with uncertainty, anxiety and excitement, entertaining romantic ideas and fantasies about greener grass, and ultimately, being disappointed.

It's so common in early adulthood, with so much uncertainty coming from all angles, to feel restless, impatient, desperate to prove ourselves and try to make everything okay. And yet, the nature of life is change. Trying for things and feeling feelings means we are alive, and means sometimes we will struggle and be disappointed.

Today, I'm talking about riding all sorts of feelings without pushing them away or labelling them as bad, and about what I've been learning about patience and keeping my seat.