From Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder to Post-Traumatic Growth: A Lifelong Journey
1h 21m
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Science of the Soul
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Princess R. Lakshman is an inspiring and impressive personality. Princess is a qualified in traditional medicine, remedial masseuse, life coach, clinical nutritionist, and counsellor. She is also a writer, a poet, and is still continuing her post-graduate education in mental health. Her latest book, The Soul Speaks, is available on: Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Xlibris Publishers.
However, her extensive list of qualifications are simply a reflection of her desire to help and heal. Her remarkably holistic approaches further underscores her passion. Princess shares with us on how her journey of challenges and illnesses shaped her to who she is today. She tells us about her abusive marriage, her problematic family history and how she was disowned for religious reasons, and her encounter with a brain tumour. It is not surprising that she suffered from PTSD.
However, this podcast is not about PTSD- instead it is about how Princess battled her wars and transcended them. This podcast is about Post-Traumatic Growth: PTG. Princess shares with us on how she turned her life around, and achieved growth through: a daily practice of self-awareness, mindfulness, changing her victim mentality, and narrative therapy. She approaches PTG through being aware of, accepting, and navigating through her 'darkness'. She talks about how she works with her own shame and guilt in order to transcend the darkness instead of rejecting it. She is also a spiritually-informed practitioner, therefore approaches challenges with an existential appreciation.
A key highlight of the conversation is when Princess and I unpacked the difference between responding and reacting. She calls this "a gift of solitude." This particular insight of hers has permanently reframed my understanding of 'respond VS react' in a profound way. Thank you Princess, for sparing your time and sharing your knowledge with us.
You can connect with Princess R. Lakshman through:
https://mindbodyhealinghub.com/
https://www.instagram.com/mindbodyhealinghub/
https://www.instagram.com/muslimahmindmatters/
https://www.facebook.com/princessrlakshman/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/princess-r-lakshman-46697616/
Her new book, The Soul Speaks, which I absolutely love, is available on:
AMAZON
BARNES & NOBLE
XLIBRIS PUBLISHERS
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