#20 - They Upset Me!
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Following on from yesterday’s episode, I want to talk about how shifting the blame when you get upset can help you deal with the negative people in your life.
“They Upset Me”. It’s something I hear all the time, especially from my own kids, but it’s a phrase that is so quick to blame the other party and put them at fault.
Now I want you to think of it, not as they upset YOU, but that “YOU were upset by something that they said”. Do you see the difference. One is someone else’s fault, and in the second example, you take responsibility for your own emotional reaction.
And taking responsibility for your own reactions can do wonders in giving you a thicker skin and helping you move past the insults of others, to become truly self improved and independent.
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