Saying No to Mom
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Hi Mom, Let's Talk!
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You've raised your daughter to respect their authority figures, especially you. But now that she's grown up, what do you do when you'd still like to ask something of her? What is the difference between respect and obey? We just went through this in our own lives last week. So we debriefed it on the pod to share our conversation with you. It's blunt but it's helpful. For us anyway, hopefully for you too! Ross Green book: Raising Human Beings https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Human-Beings-Collaborative-Partnership/dp/1476723761
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