Learning to Love Ourselves

Triumph through Health Struggles

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Learning to Love Ourselves

Mindful Monday: Practicing the Nonjudgmental Stance

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Mindfulness is the awareness of the present experience without judgment and it can shift our experiences! One of the key elements of Mindfulness is practicing the non-judgmental stance. Judgments are often difficult for us to notice and sometimes even more difficult for us to shake. They are not always bad - they can be useful! For example,  they allow us to have quick descriptions by creating simple categories and they offer fast, shorthand ways of describing preferences and consequences. At times we do need to make judgments veryquickly in order to act. 

Sometimes, though, judgments get in the way of us really acting in ways that serve our best interests. Judgments have a tendency to distract us from what's actually happening so they might replace facts. When we are judging, we stop observing or becoming aware and noticing what's going on for us. Also, judgments often feed negative emotions like a guilt or shame. 

I offer some tips on how to let go of judgment so that you can free yourself up for greater clarity, improved relationships, and lessened pain!

Life After Divorce

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Dalila Jusic-LaBerge, LMFT is the owner of Be Here & Now Counseling and specializes in working with accomplished women yearning for a loving romantic relationship following a divorce so that they can heal and develop deeper emotional connections with the people they love.

Dalila shares her wisdom about the numerous issues that arise during a divorce. Divorce is one of the most difficult transitions in a human life. It's rated as number 2 stressor just after the death of a spouse. This separation brings up old issues that you may have, such as abandonment, low self-esteem, feeling inadequate, etc.

If you analyze it, it's understandable why it's so difficult. There are so many complex issues that reemerge at this time. Our relationship with a romantic partner is a reflection of all the stuff we went through when we were children with our parents. As mammals, we are naturally created to attach. When this is broken, it's naturally very upsetting. Getting married, going through life, focusing on career,  or raising children makes us feel things are patched up. They may be to an extent. Losing this connection with your partner,  can trigger some old wounds and bring up old issues that we are struggling with.

Some of the issues that emerge: 

+Loss of status, identity, and family and societal roles

+Loss of financial stability

+Questions about life purpose and meaning

+Anxiety

+Depression

+Anger

Therapy can be very helpful. At the beginning of divorce recovery therapy process, if you are freshly divorced or going through the divorce, the goal is to help you stabilize and continue with daily activities. Therapy can help you manage difficult feelings and learn to cope with the future struggles that life may bring. At this time in therapy, the abovementioned symptoms will be addressed in order to help you manage your life easier.  In addition, a big part of therapy work is addressing this trauma that causes you to make wrong choices in partners, avoid taking care of yourself, that causes you to feel inadequate, etc. In addition to this, I’m a big proponent of helping my clients find this meaning in life by figuring out who they are, what they want from life, and what the next steps in life are.  What matters is to find a therapist that’s a good match for you in terms of personality, what your specific issues are,  and in terms of the way in which they work.

Dalila suggests making sure that, as we navigate life after divorce: 

+We don't do it alone

+Focus on self-care

+Re-examine what you want in your life

+Remember that happiness is a skill and will require some practice

Resources Mentioned:

http://www.drsallynazari.com 

http://www.behereandnow.com/

I would love to hear your experiences getting yourself back on track after a divorce so that you can better celebrate your life! Be sure to share with us in our social media communities listed below so we can celebrate with you!

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Building Unshakeable Connections

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Rebecca Wong is a relationship therapist, consultant, and cohost of the Practice Of Being Seen podcast. She's also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvelous and all that’s messy.

Rebecca has discovered that the meaning we make of our life’s story is where it all comes together. But staying engaged in the process of discovering that meaning –  that is often our greatest challenge. So she invites her clients to get curious about what works and what doesn't to make space for compassion, intimacy and the ability to slow down and capture the littlest moments. 

Rebecca believes that when you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world - and that invites everyone around you to do the same. And she dreams that we can collectively learn, grow and lean into the possibility of leaving behind a more resilient and compassionate planet then we were born into.

Rebecca practices as an LCSW-R in NY's Hudson Valley where she also resides with her husband, their spunky children and a handful of four legged furry mischief makers. 

To help us build and nurture those unshakeable connections that enhance our lives, Rebecca gave us four steps: 

1. Practice NOTICING what you're feeling and what you need

2. Practice NAMING those feelings and needs

3. Practice AWARENESS so that you can see what to do differently 

4. Practice KINDNESS to yourself and each other

Resources Mentioned:

http://www.drsallynazari.com 

I would love to hear what experiences you have about nurturing those unshakeable connections so that you can better celebrate your life! Be sure to share with us in our social media communities listed below so we can celebrate with you!

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