Ep 105: Unpacking the Concept of Safe Space
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“This is a safe space.” It’s a common refrain, but what does it mean to be and to create safe spaces? And who gets to decide what is safe? Too often, declaring a space “safe” means being resistant to the discomfort of being challenged or held accountable. We’re digging into safe spaces, how the term has been defanged in popular discourse, and creating spaces that honor everyone’s humanity, while remaining open to challenging conversations, transparency, and accountability. Listen to the full episode to hear: -Why our spaces need to acknowledge and honor the humanity of everyone present -Why safe spaces need to leave room for challenges and accountability -Defining a safe space as a container for a exploration, practice, and transformation happening in community -How the popularization of the term has taken it from safe to soft -Why safe spaces require co-creation, reciprocity, and community agreements -Why consuming someone’s content doesn’t make them responsible for your safety -How aversion to conflict stalls social movements -Why Brene Brown’s definition of a safe space falls so short Support the show on Patreon: -patreon.com/nothowthatworks Links and Resources: -Shawn Ginwright -Ep 29: When Glennon Doyle's Attempt at Allyship Went Wrong -Mellody Hobson: Color blind or color brave? | TED Talk -Ep. 94: So You Wanna Talk About Accountability Learn more about Trudi Lebron: ⁃ Website: www.trudilebron.com/ ⁃ Instagram: www.instagram.com/trudilebron/ Learn more about Louzia "Weeze" Doran: ⁃ Website: www.accordingtoweeze.com/ ⁃ Instagram: www.instagram.com/accordingtoweeze/
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