Becoming a Good Sexual Citizen w/ Ellen Friedrichs

49m · The Laverne Cox Show · 12 Oct 07:02

Content Warning: this important episode contains talk about sexual situations, assault and rape. Resources for survivors are below.

It may not be anyone’s favorite topic, but taking care of business is empowering and this is the business, educating ourselves and, importantly, our kids and younger generations on how to be safe and considerate with our bodies.

It seems obvious that in order to clarify the lines of intimacy, words should be involved. But it’s probably true that many people don’t know what those words are or how or when to say them. That’s where Ellen comes in. Words are helpful always, but especially in even trickier situations of cross-cultural communications or neurodiversity.

Please share this episode with anyone and everyone you know who has sex or would like to one day.

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Resources for survivors of sexual violence:

Rainn

Anti-Violence Project

National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC)

Links of Interest:

Ellen Friedrichs Website: www.sexEdvice.com

Racial & Sexual Violence Pyramid | Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape (PCAR)

Understanding the Manosphere and Andrew Tate (The Conversation)

Andrew Tate Suspected Pyramid Scheme (Vice)

Restorative Justice: Impact/Justice Project

CDC Youth Risk Behavior Survey

GLSEN Research and Reports

The Body Keeps the Score (Book)

Ellen's Recommended Comedians:

Sashi Perera

Steph Tolev

Irene Tu

Ellen’s Recommended Reading:

The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Dr. Betty Martin, with Robyn Dalzen

Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change the World by Jessica Valenti (Editor), Jaclyn Friedman (Editor)

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity by Peggy Orenstein

Had it Coming: What’s Fair in the Age of #MeToo by Robin Doolittle

Redefining Rape: Sexual Violence in the Era of Suffrage and Segregation by Estelle B. Freedman

Episodes Mentioned or Relevant:

Reclaiming MeToo w/ Tarana Burke

The Truth & Consequences of Dating as a Trans Woman w/ Jen Richards

Ending Violence Toward Trans People w/ Dr. Karen Franklin

CREDITS:

Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins

Producer & Editor: Brooke Peterson-Bell

Associate Producer: Akiya McKnight

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