Embracing Adulting: Insights from Julie Lythcott-Haims
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The Self-Driven Child
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In today’s episode, I dig into the art of adulting with the phenomenal Julie Lythcott-Haims. Julie is not just a former Stanford Dean and a New York Times bestselling author; she's a beacon of wisdom for the youth and an advocate for the exhilarating journey of self-reliance. Tune in as we unravel the complexities of adult life, discuss the power of human connection, and explore the intricacies of finding your 'why'. deliciousness of adulting!
Timeline Summary:
[00:00] - Julie opens up about the terror and exhilaration of stepping into adulthood and the deliciousness of being in charge of your own life.
[02:46] - A warm welcome to Julie, as she joins the podcast, bringing her insights on the challenges of adulting in today’s world.
[03:10] - Julie discusses her motivations for writing her latest book and reflects on her role as a guiding dean to the younger generation.
[05:59] - The struggle and triumph of finding a voice that resonates with young adults.
[10:27] - Unpacking the concept of adulting.
[17:23] - The necessity of stepping out of your comfort zone to truly engage with life and develop resilience.
[20:13] - The courage to be transparent and the power of sharing vulnerabilities.
[30:46] - Julie's discussion with Irshad Manji about the moral courage in conversations and the power of listening.
[37:47] - The deliberate inclusion of diverse voices and experiences to reflect the vast tapestry of human life.
[43:36] - The significance of mentors and the impact of one caring adult in a young person's life.
Links & Resources:
- Julie Lythcott-Haims' TED Talk: ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting
- Books:
- "How to Raise an Adult"
- "Real American"
- "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult"
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