Introversion and arguments

Team events and introverts

In this week’s show

• Sweden’s PM has been tweeting the wrong Liz Truss.
• Swan on train tracks holds up rush hour commuters for an hour
• One of my favourite lines from Dale Carnegie is still getting quoted. “Show interest in others, and others will show interest in you”. I’m going to add a caveat to it though.
• A discussion with Lindsay Barnett: Lindsay provides flexible and independent HR support and advice to busy HR teams and businesses. Contact Lindsey at  https://lindsaybarnetthr.com
• Question of the week: Why should we treat introverts more softly than everybody else, there’s only one of two of them in the team.

My takeaways from the discussion were:

• It’s easy to disengage a large part of the team when trying to engage the team
• Ask, in different ways, what people want.
• Consider socialising ideas which involve talking about the specific event, not general chat.
• Get to know and understand your own preferences, so you don’t always impose them on others

Team events and introverts

In this week’s show

• Sweden’s PM has been tweeting the wrong Liz Truss.
• Swan on train tracks holds up rush hour commuters for an hour
• One of my favourite lines from Dale Carnegie is still getting quoted. “Show interest in others, and others will show interest in you”. I’m going to add a caveat to it though.
• A discussion with Lindsay Barnett: Lindsay provides flexible and independent HR support and advice to busy HR teams and businesses. Contact Lindsey at  https://lindsaybarnetthr.com
• Question of the week: Why should we treat introverts more softly than everybody else, there’s only one of two of them in the team.

My takeaways from the discussion were:

• It’s easy to disengage a large part of the team when trying to engage the team
• Ask, in different ways, what people want.
• Consider socialising ideas which involve talking about the specific event, not general chat.
• Get to know and understand your own preferences, so you don’t always impose them on others

Introversion, Morris dancing and uncertainty

In this week’s show

• Introversial news: Dating apps, Morris dancers, labels and the world gravy wrestling championships:
• A discussion with Hadi Haboobi. Hadi is a peak performance mindset strategist who helps leaders step into their most focused states in less time   Contact Hadi at https://mindremastered.com
• Question of the week: Why do people find small talk so hard? For your guide to better small talk, click here

My takeaways from the discussion were:

• Overthinking can mean you attach too much to the problem. Detailed thinking is good, but try not to overthink.
• Some introverts limit their abilities due to the introvert label. Don’t live down to a label, live up to your full skills.
• Embracing uncertainty is an important leadership skill. Having more certainty about yourself is a good starting point.
• We all act from generalisations we’ve made from our past. Be aware of making news ones!
• To download Habi's booklet on embracing uncertainty, click here.
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Introversion and self talk

In this week’s show

• Ambiverts – a new type of person?
• You know what I mean? Actually, no I don’t and nor do you.
• Exercising your opposite personality muscles. Is convenience damaging us?
• A discussion with Tom Cleary: Tom is a wellbeing & Mental Health Consultant who specialising in Mindfulness in Education & Business.  Contact Tom at https://tom-cleary.co.uk/
• Question of the week: What’s the difference between ambivert and omnivert?

My takeaways from the discussion were:

• The importance of self-compassion, at least treat yourself as well as you’d treat your friends.
• Be more aware of how you talk to yourself, especially common phrases you use on yourself.
• Constructive feedback needs to build confidence, use facts not emotions and help the other person to create their answers rather than just giving them yours.
• Receiving feedback: Consider the context and look for patterns, rather than just accepting all feedback a damaging truth.

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Introversion and shortcuts

In this week’s show

• The Edinburgh fringe got me thinking.
• Southend football club
• The NHS covid app
• A discussion with Jonathan Bowring: Jonathan is a Leadership and organisational coach who helps unlocking potential and helping people think.  Contact Jonathan at https://www.riversight.uk/
• Question of the week: Should I promote an introvert, or an extrovert to team leader?

My takeaways from the discussion were:

• We try to save energy in our brains and simplify. That’s where shortcuts come from, we are all really lazy
• Shortcuts are based on our experience, but as we now meet more people of different sorts, quick rules less effective. Answer – we need more patterns. We can’t stop using them, it’s hardwired

What were yours? Add to a discussion on the Facebook page Activate Your Introvert

What question would you like answered about introversion? Visit ActivateYourIntrovert.co.uk  and let me know. I’ll answer your question on the show, and you'd be welcome to join me on the show, if you like.