From Conflict to Connection with James "Fish" Gill (@james_fish_gill)
1h 10m
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On Attachment
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In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by James "Fish" Gill to talk all things conflict and conscious communication. Fish is a coach, teacher and facilitator whose work offers a compassionate paradigm for relating to and transforming moments of conflict in all of our relationships.
We cover:
- why we so easily end up in conflict and opposition with people we love
- how we unconsciously escalate conflict
- using compassion and curiosity to understand someone else's perspective
- holding both positive intention and unintended impact as true
- reframing defensiveness, withdrawal and other assumed ill-intent...
...and so much more!
Learn more about Fish's work:
- On Instagram: @james_fish_gill
- Visit his website: leadbyheart.com
Further Links & Resources
- Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment ⭐️
- Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
- Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
- Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
- Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
- Visit my website
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