432: The Essential Questions to Ask to Understand Your Partner Better
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Our latest installment in our school of love, introduces listeners to the essential questions to ask your partner to understand their attachment relationships. EFT therapists conduct an attachment history during their early sessions to better understand the protections of each partner and why they may use pursuing or withdrawing strategies when experiencing relationship distress. Join us today to hear the questions George and Laurie ask during their couples sessions and give us their answers and personal insights. When we can get more depth and understanding, there is a new ability to create lasting change. Even though the past hurtful event remains the same, the new information creates new opportunities. Make sure to take some notes during today's love lesson and work with your partner to find answers to attachment based questions such as: What did you learn from your family about emotions? Was there safety to express vulnerability or insecurities? Who comforted you in times of need? We hope this exercise helps you and your partner with the emotional assessment most relationships are missing. This week we're asking you to 'Keep it Sweet' because we all need a little more safety. Check out our sponsors: Factormeals.com/foreplay50 -- Factor Meals are easy to make and are delicious! Use the coupon code 'foreplay50' Uberlube.com -- Laurie has recommended Uberlube as a lubricant for years. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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