#00122 The Third Side

#00120 The Six Dimensions of Conflict Transformation

The concept I want to present today is the Six Dimensions of Conflict, which comes up in Chapters 2 and 3 of The Crossroads of Conflict by Ken Cloke.

Ken has a model where he breaks down conflict and how we approach it into six areas, and then looks at that sextet from 4 different angles:

- Orders of Resolution
- Math/Geometry
- Location in the body
- Mediation style

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#00122 The Third Side

In this episode I present what I learned from William Ury's The Third Side.

The basic idea is that our communities and societies are the most important element in developing an effective conflict management system, and that the essence of being effect is to exert peer pressure on resolving the conflict instead of taking the "side" of any of the parties.

Hence, the 3rd side...

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#00121 Civic Engineering V1 Plan (How to Prevent a Civil War)

For the last few months I've been reflecting on How to Prevent a Civil War.

Here's why I think we need to act:
- It is in the avowed interests of multiple powerful actors -- both inside and outside of the US -- to foment widespread discord, confusion, and animosity.
- The logical conclusion of widespread discord, confusion, and animosity is civil war.
- The people working on this have lots of resources and effective technology (ie AI chatbots) at their disposal.

Basically, in absence of our concerted actions, things are going to get worse.

The most effective tool I have come to so far is conversation.

Honest, deep, vulnerable, heart-opening conversation.

This podcast is V1 of a model I'm playing with that I'd like to try out.

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#00119 Three examples of slow dialogue

As part of my journey towards understanding what brings us together and what keeps us apart, today I want to share three examples of social dialogue I learned about in the past couple of weeks. I will resist the temptation to draw conclusions prematurely, but just let us all ruminate together with these three examples.

The first is from Nelson Mandela's autobiography -- Long Walk to Freedom (PDF) -- which I'm currently reading.

The second is a description of traditional dispute resolution in pre-partition Punjab from a recent interview I did with Somia Sadiq.

(From: http://10kh.show/00117-every-conflict-hides-a-story-with-somia-sadiq
28:30 - 31:30)

And the third is from a listener who called me yesterday and shared his experiences with a facilitator named Bob Chadwick. I'll share a little bit of what I learned in the call and then read a passage from Chadwick that I found online.

(From: Bob Chadwick, https://managingwholes.com/chadwick.htm/)

So, I don't know how you see yourself in this moment, but I see you as someone, like me, who is interested in and capable of preventing a civil war. Someone whose actions or inaction will have a lot of consequences where you live, not just this year or this election cycle, but for the next generation and the next phase in our social development.

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#00118 A Sober Roadmap to Nuclear Disarmament (with Ward Hayes Wilson)

As Lao Tzu used to say:

"Do the hard thing while it is still easy."

According to my guest, Ward Hayes Wilson, it's a pretty good time to work on nuclear disarmament.

This is precisely the opposite of all my reflections on the issues, which usually end in hopeless shrugging and attempts to resign myself towards guaranteed nuclear annihilation.

(Much harder when you have kids!)

Ward has a very different take, which is rooted in 30 years of obsessive study of the issue and the fundamental premise -- which he has confirmed will military leaders around the world -- that nuclear weapons are simply not useful for warfare.

Bonus: He's also smart, hilarious, and does great accents.

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