189. 5 ways to stop comparing yourself to others
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The Psychology of your 20s
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Social comparison is the thief of joy - it will make us question everything that we have, doubt our own abilities, steal our sense of gratitude and peace. It also sometimes feels impossible to escape, especially in our 20s when we look to others for confirmation that we are doing something right. In today's episode we break down the 5 rules you need to stop comparing yourself to others and embrace the benefits of healthy social comparison, this includes:
- Don't unfollow, don't suppress, recognise and expand
- Keep your judgements realistic
- Do things for YOU first
- Water your own grass
- Comparison as a motivator
Listen now to learn how you can control your urge to compare yourself to others!
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