CoachMe Podcast

Our guest this week is certified Virtual Coach for Conscious Leaders Tiffany Elsener, CPCC.

I’m excited to share my conversation and interview with Tiffany Elsener with you today.

She coaches awesome ambitious remote workers (both employed or entrepreneurs), so instead of feeling isolated or stuck, they can excel while feeling supported and no longer alone. She really helps them by focusing on stuff that matters and move more quickly through challenges of leadership in this modern world so they can build a wildly thriving career and values-driven life.

Gleaning from education and learning through institutions including McGill University, Cornell University, and Graduate Institute for Transformative Learning, Tiffany has shared her approach of inspirational leadership over the last decade of working in operational management roles in events, luxury hospitality and tourism. Tiffany has mastered her coaching craft through becoming a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC).

She has touched 7 continents, experienced 30+ countries, worked abroad in 5 countries and learned lessons that come from continually pushing herself outside of her comfort zones.

Today, Tiffany takes us on to a journey of Integral Leadership and being the change you wish to see.

Key Takeaway Summary from Season 3, Episode 03:

We learn about Integral Leadership and discover what role physical intelligence, emotional intelligence, mental, and spiritual intelligence play.

We find out how you might apply aspects of Integral Leadership already and how to enhance this type of forward-thinking leadership style for best possible results for you and your team

We also cover self-care and self-awareness areas of being a leader, including the importance of simply taking time to ‘be’ instead of constantly having the ‘doing-mode’ on

Resources mentioned during the podcast:

Commonly misattributed quote “Be the change you wish to see in the world”:

A quick Google search shows oodles of images of the quote in question. This is a paraphrase from Gandhi's 98 volumes of writings. In Vol. 13, Ch. 153, page 241, published in 1913, the actual text reads: "We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. […] We need not wait to see what others do.”

Dissertation by Tiffany’s Professor, Anne Adams: Education: From Conception To Graduation A Systemic, Integral Approach

Integral Theory & Spiral Dynamics: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Integral_theory_(Ken_Wilber)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiral_Dynamics

Tiffany recommends this book because “What is more integral than active listening and inviting the rich and nuanced perspectives of others?”: Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope to the Future by Margaret Wheatley

Wheatley: “I know with all my heart that the only way the world will change is if many more of us step forward, let go of our judgments, become curious about each other, and take the risk to begin a conversation.”

Book a free initial coaching session with Tiffany Elsener now at CoachMe.global/book

Quote: “There's this mix of science, and facts... and takes in the complexity of what it's like to be a human.”

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Our guest this week is certified Executive & Business Coach Karen Flynn, ACC.

Thank you for tuning in as I welcome Executive & Business Coach Karen Flynn, who is a high impact coach for expat career professionals from diverse cultural backgrounds, entrepreneurs, and startups.

After a successful career in communications for over 20 years in Asia, Karen trained as a coach with CTI in the UK. Following her transition from agency owner to executive coach and her journey from Asia to the UK to Vancouver, Canada, she now works with clients globally to expand their perspectives and to be their confidential sounding board.

Karen’s expertise is with reluctant and unfulfilled leaders who she helps to see how powerful their specializations, experience, and efficiency transforms the workplace and businesses, so they adopt a strong narrative in representing themselves and their ambitions.

She encourages them to take a meta view of their opportunities and to be brave.

Key Takeaway Summary from Season 3, Episode 02:

We will find out why some mature employees feel threatened in the workplace and how Covid has amplified this

We cover some coaching questions to help us unearth what’s really causing fear

And learn tips to embrace our many years of experience and lead us towards brave action

Oh, and we get to hear about Karen’s book ‘Go Beyond Resilience: Find Your Grit”

Resources mentioned during the podcast:

Book: Go Beyond Resilience: Find Your Grit by Coach K

Book: Forget the Pecking Order at Work by Margaret Heffernan

Book a free initial coaching session with Karen Flynn now at CoachMe.global/book

Quote: “Businesses wouldn't be able to run without experienced people… It's really easy to forget just how much value we bring to the workplace.”

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Our guest this week is certified Mindset & Leadership Coach Chris Ho, COC.

It’s wonderful to have you with us as I welcome Mindset and Leadership Coach Chris Ho, who is deeply passionate about helping and supporting others when they feel stuck and need a new mindset or outlook shift in life.

Motivated by his own experiences, Chris’ mission is to help inspire, connect and support people with their life's passion and goals.

His life experiences have taught him that true happiness and connection happens when people realize their fortunate present moments while focusing on making a positive change for the future.

Chris is a Certified Organizational Coach (COC) from the University of British Columbia, and brings 15 + years of experience as a leader, across 4 organizations, to support those looking to navigate a change in their lives. With a background in technology, media and leadership development, his knowledge can shape a variety of conversations.

His typical clients include professionals, aspiring leaders, individuals going through a life challenge, and those looking to improve their self-development, outlook, and attitude in life through inner work.

Key Takeaway Summary from Season 3, Episode 01:

We will find out why you need to lead yourself first before leading others 

We’ll learn about Authentic Leadership – what it is, what impact it has, what it looks like in real life

We also cover why we’d want to be an authentic leader and how do be one, especially during the current pandemic

Resources mentioned during the podcast:

Book: The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way Your Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier

Book: The Obstacle is the Way: The Ancient Art of Turning Adversity to Advantage by Ryan Holiday

Book a free initial coaching session with Chris Ho now at CoachMeVancouver.com/book

Quote: “Being an authentic leader is scary but also freeing and rewarding.”

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Hello and welcome to the CoachMe Podcast!

My name is Nadine Stille, Founder of CoachMe, and your podcast host!

I can’t quite believe that it’s Season 3 already and yet – here we are.

I’m excited to bring you interviews with our CoachMe Featured coaches that will leave you inspired, challenged, entertained, and supported – wherever you are around the world.

And before I tell you what you can expect from this season and why we’d love to have you tune in, I’d like to fill you in on a few changes.

The pandemic has, of course, had it’s impact on us too. There are three things that I’d like to mention here:

1. For one, we are no longer recording our podcast in a recording studio in person but virtually from our respective homes or locations. This is why you may hear some unusual background noises that you wouldn’t have heard on season 1 and 2.

2. As we’re no longer recording in a studio, we are at times also recording our interviews via video. So, if you’re more of a visual person, you’ll be able to check out our recordings on the CoachMe YouTube channel.

3. The third point here is something you may already know or have picked up on. We’ve rebranded from CoachMe Vancouver to CoachMe, and gone global. We’ve realized that my current location does not impact where you want to be coached, where you tune in from, or where our coaches are located. We are global and can support you wherever you’re at.

With this in mind, here are 3 reasons why I think you’ll love tuning in:

1. There will be passionate, qualified, experienced, and supportive coaches who are sharing their knowledge and insights so you can thrive in career and life.

2. As usual, there will also be plenty to learn on career, leadership, wellbeing, goal achievement, entrepreneurial topics – to name just few - to help you drive your personal and professional development.

3. And of course, we have Coaching Moments for you to identify what works best in your particular situation.

Every second Tuesday you can expect a new CoachMe podcast episode that you can listen to via

- your preferred podcast host, such as Spotify, Apple Podcast, and Stitcher and many more,

- CoachMe on YouTube,

- or our website at www.CoachMe.global

To not miss out on any of the action and get regular updates and insight, please join our CoachMe Newsletter Community at CoachMe.global/newsletter

Can’t wait to bring these podcast interviews to you.

Sending you warm, virtual hugs – it’s 2020 after all.

Stay curious! Nadine

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Our guest this week is certified Life, Career & Executive Coach Laks Kutty (CEC).

Laks is an empathetic coach who gives her coachees the time and permission to talk, not about others but about themselves to discover answers to questions like:

What is it that is holding you back?

What do you need to move forward?

How can you do that?

Laks wants her coachees

to be Seen, Heard, and Understood,

to feel the courage to break down barriers, and

to be empowered to move forward and realize their potential.

It’s all about having real conversations for Laks.

And, with this in mind, this week’s podcast episode we’ll be talking about “Are you investing your energy in the right relationships?”

Key Takeaway Summary from Season 2, Episode 10

We learn about taking charge of relationships that may no longer work for you and what role your mindset plays in this.

Laks introduces us to the Community Wheel to assess relationships and talks us through several ways to evaluate if we are indeed investing our energy in the right relationships – may this be colleagues, friends, family, peers, etc. Click below to download your copy of the Community Wheel.

Find out what to do when we establish that someone is toxic or no longer worth the time and effort of a relationship.

And what to do to when we want to invest in building closer relationships.

Questions In A Bag – Find out Emilia’s answers to these random questions:

“What’s your superpower?”

“Describe yourself in three words.”

“Tea, coffee, or hot chocolate?”

Make sure you check out the show notes to download your template of the Community Wheel.

Book a free initial coaching session with Laks Kutty now at CoachMeVancouver.com/book

Quote: “Make sure we are valued and empowered, and have a supportive network.”

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In addition to our amazing Featured CoachMe Coaches, we also have guests on the show this season who are experts and topic enthusiasts on specific areas of personal and professional development that will support your growth journey even more.

In today’s episode I’m talking with Ariana Fotinakis about the ‘Best Meditation Tips To Calm Your Mind’.

Ariana is a Business Consultant for Wellness Professionals, Breathwork Practitioner, and Community Facilitator. After struggling with addiction for over 10 years, she turned her life around by first focusing on her health, and then by focusing on serving others. She now works with women in a variety of capacities from fitness to business, helping them strengthen their connections to their inner guidance systems so they can confidently take action towards big scary goals.

Meditation or aspects of it, like visualisations and breathing, are often used for or in-between coaching sessions to calm and centre the mind, and to deepen and focus on a particular experience.

I was curious to find out more about the benefits of meditation, best practices, how to get started, and even how to up my meditation game.

I’m very grateful Ariana shared all her expertise, experience, and enthusiasm for the topic and even talked us through a meditation.

Resources mentioned during the podcast:

Headspace App

Calm App

Loving-Kindness (Meta) Meditation - University of California, Berkeley

Mantra - 3ho.org Article

Kundalini - huffpost.com Article

Vipassana Meditation - theguardian.com Article

Body Scan/Mindfulness Meditation - University of California, Berkeley

The Honest Guys on YouTube

Book: One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way by Robert Maurer

Chakra Clearing Meditation by The Honest Guys on YouTube

Spirit Guide - huffpost.com Article

Quotes: “When we can actually start to remove ourselves from that state of stress it allows the body to come back into balance.”

“What I am passionate about is the ability that we have to gain compassionate control over of our internal landscapes.”

“Meditation is the practice of noticing your thoughts, …it’s not necessarily the goal of achieving this quiet mind or achieving complete stillness inside your head, it is, …learning to focus your attention on something, noticing when your attention wanders, and then bringing it back to whatever you were focussing on, without any judgement.”

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Today, you’ll get to experience the 2nd of 2 live podcast episodes we recorded as part of our live event “Goal Setting, Feedback, Performance Reviews – How to Succeed in 2020!”.

The event featured a total of 5 coaches on 2 panels and a room filled with engaged attendees during 1 afternoon.

While we covered Performance Reviews and Feedback in our previous week, in today’s episode you’ll hear from our 2nd panel as we’re talking about “Goal Setting: Take Charge of Your 2020 Success” with our Featured Coaches:

Life “Makeover” Coach Betty Lam (CPCC, ACC)

Co-Active Life Coach Ingrid Timmermans

Personal Transformation Coach Emilia D’Aversa (CPCC)

As well as several audience members of the live event who participated in the interactive Q&A session.

Here are some of the things you’ll learn:

Why it is important to have a goal in the first place?

When goals and New Year’s resolutions don’t work.

If goal setting is a seasonal thing.

What needs to happen before goal setting?

What makes a great goal and what are different approaches?

How you know if you are actually ready to take on a particular goal.

Several ways to lock in the commitment to achieve your goals, to stay accountable, and get support throughout.

Together with Betty, Emilia, and Ingrid, we’ve created a resource document with different Goal Setting approaches for you to try out.

The content was part of the Event Playbook available to attendees of the live event. And we refer to it during the recording.

Click below to download your complimentary copy of the resource document.

Goal Setting Document

Let’s listen to this week’s episode of the CoachMe Podcast!

CoachMe. Listen. Connect. Thrive.

Today, you’ll get to experience the 1st of 2 live podcast episodes we recorded as part of our live event “Goal Setting, Feedback, Performance Reviews – How to Succeed in 2020!” The event featured a total of 5 coaches on 2 panels and a room filled with engaged attendees during 1 afternoon.

In today’s episode you’ll hear from our 1st panel as we’re talking all about “Performance Reviews: Coaching to Give & Get Feedback” with our Featured Coaches:

Certified Life, Career & Executive Coach Laks Kutty (CEC)

Certified Career and Leadership Coach Debbie Jones (CPCC)

Both have longstanding, successful careers as HR Professionals.

As well as several audience members of the live event who participated in the interactive Q&A session.

Here are some of the things you’ll learn:

Why are performance reviews important and what is their purpose?

What are some best practices and expectations for performance reviews?

What role does the employee and the leader play in this process?

How you can prepare for a performance review meeting?

What you can do when you hardly see your manager or they don’t seem to care…

What to do when you don’t agree with the review?

How you can approach your manager to get the feedback that actually helps you.

What happens after a performance review?

Together with Laks and Debbie, we’ve created a resource document to help you prepare for your reviews and give tips on how to get the most of it.

The content was part of the Event Playbook available to attendees of the live event. And we refer to it during the recording.

Click below to download your complimentary copy of the resource document.

Performance Reviews Document

Without further ado, enjoy this episode of the CoachMe Podcast!

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In addition to our amazing Featured CoachMe Coaches, we also have guests on the show this season who are experts and topic enthusiasts on specific areas of personal and professional development that will support your growth journey even more.

In this episode, we warmly welcome our guest Caroline MacGillivray, Local Writer and Wellness Entrepreneur, as we talk about ‘Journaling to Connect to Your Soul, Body, and Spirit’.

Caroline MacGillivray is a 5th generation Vancouverite! Curious about her hometown, Caroline has written for local publications about restaurants, spas, tourism, and dating. She produced and hosted Sexy in Vancity at CITR 101.9FM and Save On Radio. Other hats she wears include medical Qi Gong therapist, aerial yoga teacher, and barre and yoga instructor. She has led yoga and journaling work for people who are healing from trauma. She is best known as founder of Beauty Night Society and Co-founder of Qi Day.

Journaling is frequently used as a tool between coaching sessions to give the coachee a deeper understanding and learning, and we hope you find the insights and tips about journaling as valuable as we have.

Amongst many other points, in this podcast we’ll learn:

What journaling is and what's it's used for.

What the benefits are of journaling, the different journaling styles, and if you definitely need a pen and paper to journal.

How to start journaling if you're a newbie, or to up your game if you've long subscribed to the value of journaling.

How to journal to connect with soul, body, and spirit.

Resources mentioned during the podcast:

Contact details:

carolinemacgillivray.com | Instagram @caroline_macgillivray | Twitter @talktocaroline | Facebook carolinemacgillivraywellness

beautynight.org | Instagram @beautynightsociety | Twitter @beautynight | Facebook BeautyNightSociety

Stream of Consciousness Journaling

My Fitness Pal App

Trust within one tenth of a second - psychologicalscience.org

Book - Journaling on Money: The Latte Factor: Why You Don't Have to Be Rich to Live Rich by David Bach & John David Mann

Psychology of Gender at UBC

Master's (M.A.) in Counselling Psychology - adler.edu

10 Yoga 'Commandments', Yamas + Niyamas - yogajournal.com

Oprah on gratitude journaling - oprah.com

Bullet Journaling - bulletjournal.com

Book: Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved by Harville Hendrix Ph.D. & Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D.

Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix Ph.D. & Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D.

Book: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Book: Writing Down the Bones: Freeing the Writer Within by Natalie Goldberg & Julia Cameron

Book: Write Yourself Happy: The Art of Positive Journalling by Megan C Hayes

Opus Art Supplies for scrap books - opusartsupplies.com

Dollarama for note books - dollarama.com

Book: Eat Pray Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia by Elizabeth Gilbert

Book: The Five Minute Journal: A Happier You in 5 Minutes a Day by Intelligent Change

Quote: "Your values and what's important to you is going to show up on those pages."

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You may remember in my introduction to our CoachMe Podcast Season 2, I mentioned that, in addition to our amazing Featured CoachMe Coaches, we’ll also have guests this season who are experts and topic enthusiasts on specific areas of personal and professional development that will support your growth journey even more.

This is the 1st episode where we welcome an expert guest and I’m very pleased to have recorded an interview with David Cory about ‘How to Use Emotional Intelligence to Become a Better Leader’.

David Cory is a leadership development trainer, consultant, and Key Note Speaker known for his expertise in applying the concept of emotional intelligence to individual and organizational performance improvement.

David founded one of the first companies in North America to focus on the development of leadership based on emotional intelligence. The Emotional Intelligence Training Company celebrated its 20th anniversary in 2018 and certifies more people to use the EQ-i in North America than any other company.

In the course of his work, David has been an invited guest of the Sultan of Brunei, worked under armed guard in Nigeria, been kicked out of a restricted area in Saudi Arabia, chased by an elephant in Zambia, and sang for royalty in Malaysia. David’s company completed the design of an emotional intelligence skills development course for an entire nation. This was a first in the world. The course is currently being delivered through a train-the-trainer model to the citizens of Botswana.

Amongst many other points, in this podcast we’ll learn:

What is Emotional Intelligence and EQ.

What 'good' EI looks like in everyday life.

Why EI matters and how we can learn to be better at it.

How to know how 'good' you are at EI and the EQ-i model.

Resources mentioned during the podcast:

Contact details: David Cory and The Emotional Intelligence Training Company

Top 10 Skills needed in the workplace for 2020 according to the World Economic Forum

EQ-i 2.0 model of Emotional Intelligence

Book: The Marshmallow Test – Mastering Self-Control by Walter Mischel

Stress performance curve as per the Yerkes-Dodson Law

The Serenity Prayer

Book: Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life by Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D.

Positive Psychology by Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D.

Book: Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment by Martin E.P. Seligman Ph.D.

Book: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.

TED Talk (video) Developing a Growth Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.

Harvard Longevity Study

Book: The Leadership Challenge: How to Make Extraordinary Things Happen in Organizations by James M. Kouzes and Barry Z. Posner

Book: The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success by Steven J. Stein and Howard E. Book

Emotional Quotient Inventory

Book: Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David

Book: Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy

Self-Regard Challenge

Co-Active Leadership Program

Quote: “The goal is to be a better leader or to be a more effective parent or to be better at whatever it is that you wanna do. EQ can help you do that.”

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