How To Be Awesome At Everything

Polls show that over half of people walking around are unhappy and I think it’s because they are stuck in mediocre. A mediocre job, what they would consider as a mediocre relationship, mediocre health, mediocre version of whatever success means to them. And likely they probably have a story why they are stuck in mediocre. But the real story is, you can get unstuck anytime. Now, of course, some of us were still dealt a more difficult card than others. So it’s going to take more work to get out of mediocre but it’s possible because people who have had it harder than us have done it so we can too. It comes down to being honest with yourself about how you feel about different buckets of your life, realizing and believing that you’re incomplete control of all of it, and then establishing daily habits that support the exceptional version of you, not the mediocre version. I’m very positive and optimistic about the world we live in but I also think it’s so easy to win right now because most people settle for mediocre. They simply aren’t willing to do the hard work, or they are stuck in habits and routines that support their mediocre life, or they accepted that they are not good at something without actually putting in the hours required to become good at it. We’ve got one shot on this planet and mediocre is not the plan. Here’s the trickiest part - when you are honest with yourself and assess what in your life is mediocre - it feels painful like you should have done something differently. But when you lose the ego behind it and take it with the approach of - well I can’t do anything about what’s happened before now but I can for sure take all the lessons learned and make the best decisions going forward. It’s not a fail on me - it’s forward focusing with a growth mindset. WHY do we sit in mediocre sometimes? Fear of failure Easier to stay in your comfort zone Lack of ambition Conforming to social norms Limiting beliefs Not willing to work hard Perceived lack of resources HOW do we get out of it? Get around a new crew/ have different influences Outwork your self doubt - Alex Hormozi Focus on learning and improvement always Have high standards for yourself Take massive action Learn from failures and embrace them Stop getting distracted and doing the wrong things Consistency and discipline! Set-up systems and processes so it all seems more do-able Have a clear vision of your long term goals and set-up habits to do each day that support those goals. We have to be willing to have discomfort now - and resist immediate satisfaction, for the long-term satisfaction that is so much sweeter!

I do quite a few podcast topics around living in the most positive headspace possible.

This one takes it to the next level. I’m sharing specific action steps for completely deleting something negative from your life.

I’ve been trying to get to this point for years and something happened recently that made me realize. I’m there.

Quick story… another mom friend and I were working on a project for a group with our kids and another mom came in blazing with all this negativity and opinions and it was just ridiculous. My friend and I were the ones doing all the work and she came in hot and I had all these opinions about how we were doing it wrong and was offended. It didn’t involve her. The whole thing just made no sense. But it was jarring at the time because she sent emails and CCed other people, on and on .

OK, so fast-forward to last week my friend and I are talking and the other mom who had tried to make our life miserable joined in and we all had a nice chat. Afterwards, my friend reminded me who she was and I was like oh my gosh, you know it’s so crazy. I had physically deleted that experience from my mind. I had no idea, that was the woman because it just didn’t exist anymore.

A big part of this is focusing on what you can control. I can’t control her crazy so I deleted it. Today we’re going to go through exactly how to do that.

Let’s define some terms - what are we deleting?
Negativity, judgment, drama, anything that makes you feel crappy or bad about yourself or upset or stressed or insecure. We don’t need it. So we aren’t just going to try to ignore it, we are going to completely erase it from our headspace so it’s not taking up our precious bandwidth.


ACTION STEPS

-Realize what it is

-Take the fire out of it

-Focus on what you can control

-Journal am and pm to clear your mind

-Think of something SO important to you and realize that time you spend thinking/talking/stressing about the thing- is time away from that something important. Like bike riding or playing with your toddler or calling your mom.

-Control your thoughts

-Control your words- if you don’t let it grow, it can’t get bigger!

-Don’t respond to crazy! Tell yourself - I don't negotiate with terrorists!!!


I’m telling you, the clarity you will feel from not carrying around all this weight that isn’t needed is crazy!!!

Focus on what you can control - let go of the rest.

When you think about protecting your happy headspace at all costs - when thats an actual priority of yours, all of this gets easier.

CHEERS to hitting the DELETE button on anything that doesn’t bring you JOY!

I am recording this on our 15 year wedding anniversary! On this day 15 years ago Craig and I got married in Cabo, and we started dating 5 years before that. So 20 years in, what have we learned… what have we done awesome and where did we struggle… I’m sharing a bit of our journey and what we know now that been awesome to know from the start.

I hesitate on doing podcast episodes on marriage and also raising kids because it’s all so evolving and just when you think you have part of it totally figured out, there’s a curve ball.

But, I do have some awesome take-aways that I think will be valuable for anyone in a relationship or looking to be, plus some funny (and painful) stories about how we got here.

This is how you don’t wake up one day with a marriage where you don’t communicate or connect. This is how you don’t wake up one day unable to easily walk up a flight of stairs.. It’s called course correcting and I think it’s the answer to how we focus on little things daily to support the big things that matter most to us. It’s adjusting as we go. Not letting things spiral until we hit rock bottom then need an extreme plan to get back on track. It’s being present and noticing things when they are off - in all buckets of your life. Health, finances, relationships… all of it. This is your plan for course correcting and compounding small habits that gradually lead the life you want. It’s our daily plan actually for designing a life that you love. The 1 in 60 rule! If a pilot takes off headed to their destination and they are just one degree off course, every 60 miles you fly with that error moves you one full mile off course. So you can see that even a slight variance from accuracy can create a real issue. This is all about small decisions that you make everyday. You don’t just wake-up one day with a bad marriage or a disconnected relationship with your child, it compounds over time. And on the flip, you don’t just wake up one day feeling like your healthiest and strongest self. It all compounds over time. But the best news is - this makes it feel manageable. It’s constant focus and attention everyday. It’s knowing your goals and priorities. In my Ultimate Master Course and also in the 2.0 Habits System, I focus SO much on figuring out what you love and don’t love because I think most people just don’t ask themselves the questions! Here’s that link if you’re interested: Course-https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse 2.0 Habits System & Weekly Books-https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/the-ultimate-mindset-master-course-1 I created a system to focus on daily habits because after reading every possible habits books and really studying the topic at a deep level, I realized that we just need to set ourselves up to do the daily things. To do the things that bring us closer to our goals or the person that we want to be and NOT do the things that take us further away from it.

This episode is all about sneaky procrastination! Because I think all of us in some ways trick ourselves intothinking we are doing the thing- that thing you want to do or need to do - the hard thing that willbringyou growth in the way you want - whatever that thing is for you right now. And instead ofactually doing the thing - we do awhole host of things like - make lists, we say we are planning, we talk about it, we do endlessresearch on it OR we avoid itcompletely and go refold drawers orsomething. I amgoing toread you the best shortarticle I’ve read on the topic and we’regoingto unpack it so youcan apply it to your life in real time. Why do we let ourselves get distracted orprocrastinate when something feels hard oruncomfortable? What are wedoing to trickourselves to think we are working on it when actually we justaren’t doing the thing? I read this article by Strangest Loop called things that aren't doing the thing Here it is:

Preparing to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Scheduling time to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Making a to-do list for the thing isn't doing the thing.

Telling people you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn't doing the thing.

Writing a banger tweet about how you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn't doing the thing.

Fantasizing about all of the adoration you'll receive once you do the thing isn't doing the thing.

Reading about how to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading this essay isn't doing the thing.

The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing.

------------------- You can dress it uphoweveryou want But the work just needs doing Ultimately - it’shitting play and recording the podcast or starting theblog or liftingtheweight ormaking the first healthy meal. We are motivated by the avoidance of discomfort. Figure out - what is the discomfort? Often times, have no idea what thediscomfort is - we are justavoiding it. If you have a hard email to write, you might refold andentire set of drawers to avoiddoing the thing. Or if you get to a hardpoint in writing a book - when itgets hard - we reach for our phone for distraction. WHY Because we are avoiding the discomfort. Ask- WHY amI avoiding this? Maybe you need more research. Don’t keep banging your head. When you become aware of the discomfort - you make a plan to attack it. I’ve heard Steven Bartlette say it in this way… What is thepsychological discomfort I amavoidingright now? Write down - what is the THING. Unpack it. WHY it’simportant to forceyourself to do the actual thing…because it’s the only thing that matters in becoming the person you want to be or reachingthe goal youwant to achieve. Thank you forlistening! Have an awesome day!

This concept is so freeing… ready? It’s good to feel sad, angry, stressed… because it’s part of being human. Those emotions that we tend to label as negative emotions and judge ourselves for feeling are not the problem. The actual problem is the label, not the emotion itself. And here’s the best part, the way you get through those emotions- the sadness or the stress is by not trying to feel the opposite but by simply not labeling these emotions as good or bad.
When we label our emotions, if often makes those emotions bigger. If you feel jealous and you feel badly about feeling jealous, it gets bigger. If we shift to this new emotional awareness and acceptance for our feelings, we recognize that all emotions serve a purpose. By having the non-judgements attitude toward emotions, we move through emotions faster and solve problems more efficiently. It makes us more emotionally resilient and have healthier coping strategies, which is so much more awesome than running yourself down about how you feel. Let’s unpack it! Here are the things we go through… -Your actions matter more than your feelings. We thinkthat we need to feel a certain way to be that type of person. BUT that’s where we get it twisted. It’s theactions you take. If you want to be honest -For a lot of these character traits wethink that we need to feel a certain way, but it’s theactions you choose despite how you feel. -Wethinkthat we need to feel a certain way to be apatient orhonest person. But it’s theactions you take, regardless of thesefeelings. -By labeling emotions, they get bigger. -Emotional awareness and acceptance makes you recognize that they all serve a purpose. -What is the lesson with this emotion? Have curiosity and compassion -This is so essential for navigating the challenges in life. To have resilience and self-awareness is key.

1. -Emotions are neither good nor bad; they're simply messengers. It's our interpretation and response to them that shapes our experience.
2. -Instead of labeling emotions as positive or negative, view them as signals guiding you towards areas that need attention or growth. -Every emotion serves a purpose; it's about understanding what that purpose is and how you can use it to your advantage.”
3. -Don't judge your emotions; acknowledge them. They're a reflection of your inner state and can provide valuable insights into your thoughts and behaviors.”
4. -Embrace the full spectrum of your emotions. By accepting them without judgment, you empower yourself to navigate life's challenges with greater resilience and clarity.
6. -Your emotions are like the weather—they come and go. Rather than trying to control them, focus on cultivating a mindset that allows you to adapt and thrive in any emotional climate. CHEERS to allowing yourself to FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS without judgment so you can navigate life in the most awesome way possible.

I feel like most people would say they tired. Today, yesterday, most days.

I’m really interested in this.

Are we actually tired or are we sort of not excited by what we are doing most days?

And if we are tired, is it because the days are too full and we are doing too many things orrrr is it because we aren’t setting ourself up to feel rested and rejuvenated.

Either way, we need to solve it because we can’t complain that we are tired and not do anything to change it.

In this episode, let’s figure out what’s up. Are you actually tired or are you overwhelmed or underwhelmed with life right now?

The awesome news - I’m sharing strategies for tackling both.

Let’s get you un-tired so you can be where your feet are and live your days fully.



First, let’s figure out why you’re tired.

1. Actually tired

Strategies- get more sleep, get better sleep, hydrate with electrolytes, no screen before bed, no food just before bed, create best sleep environment, stick to a schedule.

2. Not excited with life / overwhelmed / underwhelmed

Strategies- ask yourself the hard questions
Make the changes you need to, have the conversations you need to, do the things you know you should.


3. In this lazy habit pattern
Just like momentum brings momentum, non-momentum brings non-momentum

Strategies- small steps to move more - get going - exhaust yourself


CHEERS to getting un-tired and living your most full life.

Today we are taking the complicated out of eating mostly whole foods and high protein at home in a way that makes you feel full and energized. It’s taken me so many years of learning and spending money on experts to help me figure it all out. Now every persons body is different of course but I’m sharing lots of ideas of you to chose from to eat in a way that reduces inflammation in your body and helps you be your healthiest and can help you lose weight, all while feeling satisfied. I’m giving you a grocery list to follow to make it all simple and not so complicated. Because this is what I know… most people aren’t eating enough protein and are eating too much processed foods. Most people say they are tired and often times we want to healthier but it’s hard to know where to start. I also know that we must have a strong plan in order to stick to our goals. So this is our plan for eating to feel our best in the short term and long term. Eating for energy and longevity and the part I think that most people miss with this - buying organic and grass fed items are always more expensive than the regular but if you prep it the right way, it is absolutely less expensive than ordering in. And if you know me you know there are some awesome healthy treats in the plan too, because that’s what makes it sustainable in the long term. We are full and satisfied and know it’s not at all a diet, but rather a lifestyle to feel our best. Let’s go! Here is your grocery list *Grassfed ground beef or steaks *Organic ground chicken or turkey *Organic pasture raised eggs *1 organic butter lettuce *1 organic head of iceberg lettuce *1 organic rotisserie chicken *Veggies like zucchini, onions, peppers *Avocados (1 per day) *Berries *2 large organic greek yogurts Then some throw ins to make all of this sustainable *Siete toritilla chips *Grain free tortillas *Grass fed organic cheese, raw if possible *Organic dark chocolate *Raw honey *Bananas & peanut butter And to cook it in… *Avocado oil *Coconut oil *Olive oil How to make the money go the furthest! Protein amounts... An egg has 6g of protein A chicken breast as about 40g of protein One pound of ground beef has 65g of protein Some seeds can be great too like hemp seeds and pumpkin seeds So if your goal is 1g of protein per pound of body weight- you can divide out how much protein you need per meal. My goal is 120g per day so I plan for about 40-50g per meal and I have 3 meals. I think the KEY to all of this is to base your meals around protein and mostly whole foods. Get some veggies and some carbs and you’re nice and full and happy! Other options based on preferences! *Halibut or salmon -always wild caught *Canned tuna or chicken *Flax seeds and chia seeds *Protein powders! Take this list with you to the grocery store! XO Lindsay

I have my favorite little due on the podcast with me today.

Today Parker is going to tell us the story of when he got bit in the head by a scorpion on vacation and we’re going to talk about being kind and being brave and probably soccer.

Ok so life as a 6 year old and so many stories.

Listen in for some fun insight into the life of a little guy and his plan for convincing Dad to have one more baby, a brother named Hot Dog.

Thanks for listening!!

You want to know the craziest thing about worrying what other people think of you? With the amount of time and energy you spend worrying about what people might think if you do this or that, you could actually DO the thing. You take control back of your life and your choices when you’re making them based on what you really want and what feels best to you. You’ll take more risks, try new things and put yourself out there. Because we know that one day we will be 90 and we won’t have the opportunities that we have today, we just won’t. Thinking about it that way makes it a lot less scary to let it go and go for it. And another awesome thing that happens when you go for it and people do talk about you, it makes it easy… those aren’t your people. Thank you for saving me the time. And also thank you for making it clear where we’re at because I know that nobody ahead of me is taking the time to criticize me. This concept of, stop caring about what other people think is easier said than done. Today I’m giving you two awesome hacks to start today, to work towards the ultimate feeling of freedom- not caring what other people think of you. A few notes from this episode… -You only have so much energy - you could have actually done the thing!! Started the business, tried the new thing…. In the same effort it took to worry what would happen if you did. -The upside of never trying is that you never have to feel the feeling of failure. -I will ensure my failure in private so I never have to risk failing in public. They take the long failure rather than the short one. -We aren’t afraid of failing! We are afraid of what other people think of us failing. Imagine what other people are thinking if you aren’t doing anything, oh that’s right, they’re not. -If you could fail in isolation, you wouldn’t care. -If you’re insecure, you might as well use it to get something out of it. -The perfect condition is wherever you are at right now. If you feel like you have nothing, then you have nothing to lose. There is always an advantage and disadvantage from every position. -They won’t think of you at all if you aren’t doing anything and don't you want to be thought of? -You’re going to be 90. And it’s going to be too late to do anything. -You know I love thinking about my 90 year old self. If you’ve spent time with old people, they don’t give an F- in the best way. They are wearing socks with sandals in the way they want, they are -Seeing someone old and no time to do the things is the only motivation I need. -You know how you get good? You just start doing what you want without the fear of judgment. Like one tiny thing. Like if music comes on at an outdoor restaurant and you think about dancing with your little kid because how sweet but you don’t because nobody else is and people might think you are weird. But doing things that other people aren’t doing - usually means it’s actually a good idea but 66% of people say they are unhappy. -So not doing it because other people aren’t isn’t the right plan!! -Here’s the hacks!! 1.ONE. TINY. THING. And then you see that you don’t die. And you had fun dancing and just doing what you wanted. Or wearing something different than everyone else because it’s comfortable and you love how it feels… and then it’s just fine. You build momentum!! 2. You make it a clear priority and remind yourself often. Journal it, calendar it, write it down. The more you make it a priority to work towards, the faster you will get there. -Here’s another thing - call out your fails. Now what can they say. -AGREE when someone says something you didn’t do right. Takes the fire out of it. -OR agree just to end it. Who cares!? -Their response to you just doesn’t involve you honestly. It’s their own perspective based on their experiences and opinions and it just doesn’t have to affect yours. -What’s the worst that can happen? You don’t actually die of embarrassment it’s actually ok. We move on. -And I’ve really learned that leaning into vulnerably is such a strong thing. Ya, that thing totally flopped. But it’s cool I know so much more now and I’m so pumped on my next adventure. We accept it and move on, NEXT PLAY! A few other tips!

1. -Identify your values: Clarify what truly matters to you and what you stand for. When you live in alignment with your values, you'll be less swayed by others' opinions.
2. -Focus on your strengths: Recognize your talents, skills, and accomplishments. Embrace them and use them to boost your confidence.
3. -Practice self-acceptance: Acknowledge and accept your flaws and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and embracing your humanity can help you be less concerned about others' judgments.
4. -Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your own needs.
5. -Challenge negative beliefs: Examine any negative beliefs you have about yourself that may be fueling your concern for others' opinions. Replace them with more empowering beliefs.
6. -Develop a strong self-image: Visualize yourself as confident, capable, and resilient. Act as if you already possess these qualities, and eventually, they will become part of your reality.
7. -Surround yourself with supportive people: Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and encourage you. Their positive reinforcement can help counteract any negativity from others.
8. -Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that nurture your body and soul, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones.
9. -Focus on your goals: Stay focused on your goals and aspirations. When you have a clear sense of purpose, the opinions of others become less significant in comparison to your pursuit of fulfillment.

This is not an overnight thing!! Building resilience against others' opinions is a gradual process that requires consistent effort and self-reflection. By using these strategies, you can gradually reduce the impact of external judgments on your self-esteem and live more authentically.