Manage Self, Lead Others: Emotional Intelligence and Leadership for Managers

Most startups fail not because of a bad product, poor timing, or mismanaged cash, but because ofpeople problems: conflicts over strategy, decision-making, and team culture. Martin Gonzalez co-authored ''The Bonfire Moment'' with Josh Yellin; the book launches today. Get it here: https://www.bonfiremoment.com/ View the video version on Spotify or HERE: https://youtu.be/C3wWCPEKNA0 Even the smartest entrepreneurs have been derailed by softproblems: How do you fire a loyal friend who’s not up to par? How do you motivate your team to give their all? What happens when egos and emotions overpower facts and reason? === 7 key strategies are cornerstones of The Bonfire Moment feedback structure: 1 Treat people like volunteers 2 Protect the team from distractions 3 Invite disagreement 4 Minimize unnecessary micromanagement 5 Preserve interpersonal equity 6 Keep pace with expertise 7 Overcome discouragement === 4 TRAPS – The trap of Speed The trap of the Inner Circle The trap of the Maverick Mindset The trap of Confidence Why maverick ideas can lead startups into trouble? What are the 6 most common maverick beliefs? 1. The myth of equal equity: Co-founders should receive equal equity in return for equal commitment and equal contributions. 2. The myth of shared command: Power and decision-making should be shared equally among cofounders. 3. The myth of scaling without hierarchy: Layers of management should be avoided as the company grows, because they create bureaucracy and slow progress. 4. The myth of structural harmony: Disputes between functional roles represent a failure point that should be fixed. 5. The myth of conflict-free growth: A strong culture should be able to minimize or even prevent all interpersonal conflict, even as the team grows. 6. The myth of sustained heroics: Heroic extra effort is necessary for the long haul, not just during the startup’s earliest months. The Bonfire Momenthas proven effective with hundreds of teams of all sizes around the world—from the smallest startups to large organizations—significantly improving their cohesion, focus and effectiveness. Now this book teaches leaders the principles behindThe Bonfire Momentand how to run the workshop on their own. It’s ideal for anyone who needs a committed and resilient team to achieve big goals. LINKS: To access assessments: https://assessments.bonfiremoment.com/request-assessment Effective Founders Project report: https://blog.google/outreach-initiatives/entrepreneurs/effective-founders-project/ ABOUT MARTIN GONZALEZ Contact Martin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjosegonzalez/ Martin Gonzalez is co-founder with Josh Yellin of Google’s Effective Founders Project, a global research program using people analytics to uncover what makes the best startup ‘’founders’’? succeed. A frequent lecturer at Stanford, Wharton and INSEAD on organization design and people analytics, Martin has been at Google for 10 years and currently is a principal of organization and talent development, shaping team culture. Qualified in organizational psychology and behavioral science at Columbia University and London School of Economics, Martin co-authored with Joshua Yellin the brand new book, The Bonfire Moment. ABOUT PODCAST HOST, NINA SUNDAY Connect with Nina Sunday on LinkedIn HERE: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ninasunday/ You can suggest a guest, ask a question, make a comment, subscribe to Nina's newsletter, "Second Curve Thinking". To subscribe to Nina Sunday's personal blog go tohttps://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/ and scroll to bottom of the page to register. To learn more about face-to-face training programs with Nina Sunday or one of her experienced Facilitators from Brainpower Training Pty Ltd in Australia Pacific, visit: https://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/signature-programs/ To visit Nina Sunday's speaker site for global speaking bookings visit: https://www.ninasunday.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep131 - INC. magazine ranked our guest, Chris Dyer, as the number one leadership speaker on culture. Author of "The Power Power of Company Culture" - https://amzn.to/44wxa06 - and former founder CEO of People2G. His companies consistently were named a Best Place to Work. Implementing Chris Dyer's 7 Pillar strategy enables countless companies to unlock productivity, performance and profits. View the video version on Youtube: https://youtu.be/j8O6Jyr2Unc?si=BfZVqd_ZyrIvC9XA 1 Transparency 2 Positivity 3 Measurement 4 Acknowledgement 5 Uniqueness 6 Listening 7 Mistakes SUMMARY Chris Dyer highlights the importance of understanding personality profiles, such as the DISC profile, in improving team dynamics and resolving conflicts. Dyer emphasizes the significance of positivity, citing examples of personal experiences and lessons learned from authors like Shonda Rhimes. He also touches on the concept of appreciative inquiry focusing on identifying strengths within teams rather than dwelling on weaknesses. Dyer underscores the need for organizations to measure what truly matters to their business and shares strategies for enhancing customer satisfaction scores. He stresses the value of acknowledging mistakes as learning opportunities and fostering a culture where employees feel empowered to innovate. Additionally, Dyer discusses the role of active listening in effective leadership and offers insights into managing change within organizations. He addresses the challenges of influencing senior leaders and highlights the importance of taking calculated risks to drive cultural transformation. Throughout the discussion, Dyer emphasizes the significance of aligning organizational culture with performance and profitability goals. ABOUT CHRIS DYER Chris Dyer was ranked #5 on the LeadersHum Power List, was named a Top 40 Change Management Guru and a Top 50 Global Thought Leader. His leadership podcast is among the top 50 globally. His speaking engagements are known for their transformative impact, blending insightful candor, humor, and effective strategies like his 7 Pillar Strategy. Contact: https://chrisdyer.com/ ABOUT PODCAST HOST, NINA SUNDAY Connect with Nina Sunday on LinkedIn HERE: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ninasunday/ You can suggest a guest, ask a question, make a comment, subscribe to Nina's newsletter, "Second Curve Thinking". To subscribe to Nina Sunday's personal blog go tohttps://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/ and scroll to bottom of the page to register. To learn more about face-to-face training programs with Nina Sunday or one of her experienced Facilitators from Brainpower Training Pty Ltd in Australia Pacific, visit: https://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/signature-programs/ To visit Nina Sunday's speaker site visit: https://www.ninasunday.com/ You can request a proposal for Nina Sunday to speak at your conference Australia Pacific and globally on either: Psychological Safety, and Psychosocial Hazards To Avoid Rookie Mistakes New Leaders Make Second Curve Thinking: Change Before You Have To About Nina Sunday’s SPEED READING ACADEMY Under pressure to get through tons of reading that just keeps pouring in? Are you a 'knowledge worker' having to read reports or keep up to date with changing information in your industry, (legislation changes, product knowledge); or a student with too much to read in the time available? Go to https://www.brainpowertraining.com/go Use promo code NINASUNDAY for 50% off. How To double or triple (or better) your reading rate or better WithOUT loss of comprehension. 6 x self-paced, step-by-step modules over 2 hours 30 minutes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 130 is with Mel Kettle, author of "The Social Association" and "Fully Connected'. TALKING POINTS Not only do you give feedback down, you give it across and you give it up as well. Giving feedback is one skill set, while how to receive feedback is just as important. When you hear the word feedback, how do you react? “Feedback” is one of those words that can be polarizing and cause panic. I encourage leaders to create a culture of conversation within their organization so that they never have to use the word feedback. How do I have a conversation with my manager who doesn't listen? If you don't have a trusted relationship with your manager, then that's going to be a difficult conversation. What do you do when you're on the receiving end of that difficult conversation? Mel Kettle has a five-step feedback framework. CONTACT MEL KETTLE https://www.melkettle.com/ hello @ melkettle.com (no spaces) LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/melkettle/ === SPEED READING ACADEMY with Speed Reading trailblazer, Nina Sunday. Under pressure to get through tons of reading that just keeps pouring in? Are you a 'knowledge worker' having to read reports or keep up to date with changing information in your industry? (Legislation changes, product knowledge). Or a student with too much to read in the time available? Go to https://www.brainpowertraining.com/go Use promo code NINASUNDAY for 50% off. How To double or triple (or better) your reading rate or better WithOUT loss of comprehension. 6 x self-paced, step-by-step modules over 2 hours 30 minutes. ABOUT PODCAST HOST, NINA SUNDAY Connect with Nina Sunday on LinkedIn HERE: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ninasunday/ You can suggest a guest, ask a question, make a comment, subscribe to Nina's newsletter, "Second Curve Thinking". To subscribe to Nina Sunday's personal blog go tohttps://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/ and scroll to bottom of the page to register. To learn more about face-to-face training programs with Nina Sunday or one of her experienced Facilitators from Brainpower Training Pty Ltd in Australia Pacific, visit: https://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/signature-programs/ To visit Nina Sunday's speaker site visit: https://www.ninasunday.com/ You can request a proposal for Nina Sunday to speak at your conference Australia Pacific and globally on either: Psychological Safety, and Psychosocial Hazards To Avoid Rookie Mistakes New Leaders Make Second Curve Thinking: Change Before You Have To Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep129 we speak with Lynne Cazaly and her book, "Sync Async" < https://amzn.to/43Q3QkO > making a distinction between synchronous and asynchronous work. The author urges people to consider more asynchronous ways of working. There will always be too much to do and not enough time to do it. Putting practical sync async techniques to work can make your work easier . . . and the rest of life better. Consider: ·Do we really need everyone at the same meeting at the same time? (synchronous work) ·Could some people contribute prior to, or after the meeting or begin working on tasks outside of a meeting? (asynchronous work). A growing number of teams and businesses are learning and experiencing the value of deliberately working in sync / async ways. That is, some work is completed synchronously - at the same time with other people; and other elements of work completed asynchronously - at a time and in a way that suits them. In this conversation with author Lynne Cazaly, we discuss how, why and when to work in sync and async ways ·tools for making great async progress ·ways to identify the type of work you prefer ·how to make daily progress easier - get started on things that have stopped and accelerate things that have slowed. You don't need to wait for a culture change or for someone to give you the go-ahead on this. You can start working better in both sync and async ways from today. ABOUT LYNNE CAZALY Lynne Cazaly from Melbourne, Australia, is an international keynote speaker, award-winning author and master facilitator. Lynne is author of 10 books including: "Sync Async: Making progress easier in the changing world of work." https://amzn.to/43Q3QkO Listen to Episode 31 of this podcast with Lynne Cazaly talking about Perfectionism and her book: "Ish: The Problem with our Pursuit for Perfection and the Life-Changing Practice of Good Enough.’" https://amzn.to/3vLCTlG An experienced radio broadcaster, presenter and producer, Lynne has presented 10,000+ hours on-air. As a communication specialist she’s lectured in Australian Universities and consulted to industry on change and transformation. Contact: https://www.lynnecazaly.com.au/ ABOUT PODCAST HOST, NINA SUNDAY Connect with Nina Sunday on LinkedIn HERE: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ninasunday/ You can suggest a guest, ask a question, make a comment. To subscribe to Nina Sunday's personal blog go tohttps://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/ and scroll to bottom of the page to register. To learn more about face-to-face training programs with Nina Sunday or one of her experienced Facilitators from Brainpower Training Pty Ltd in Australia Pacific, visit: https://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/signature-programs/ To visit Nina Sunday's speaker site visit: https://www.ninasunday.com/ You can request a proposal for Nina Sunday to speak at your conference Australia Pacific and globally on either: Psychological Safety, and Psychosocial Hazards To Avoid Rookie Mistakes New Leaders Make Second Curve Thinking: Change Before You Have To Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Links for the Core Work of Paul Vittles, The Jordan Legacy, the #ZeroSuicideSociety Transformation Programme and the #JoinTheDots Tour/Conference/Festival, 12-23 June 2024 Let's Talk About Suicide! https://paulvittles.medium.com/lets-talk-about-suicide-35e4706f6bf7 Groundbreaking Report - Moving Towards a Zero Suicide Society - and the Way Forward https://thejordanlegacy.com/moving-towards-a-zero-suicide-society-edition-2-of-the-report/ The Jordan Legacy's (Critical) Response to the National Suicide Prevention Strategy for England, 2023-2028 https://thejordanlegacy.com/the-jordan-legacys-response-to-the-governments-national-suicide-prevention-strategy-2023-2028/ Paul Vittles' Detailed Critique of the National Suicide Prevention Strategy for England, 2023-2028 https://paulvittles.medium.com/are-we-in-the-suicide-prevention-business-or-is-it-suicide-maintenance-40a4e4129496 The #ZeroSuicideSociety #JoinTheDots Humber to Mersey Tour, 12-23 June 2024 https://thejordanlegacy.com/jointhedots/ The Pioneering 'All Pieces in the Puzzle' Launch Conference, Baths Hall, Scunthorpe, 12 June 2024 https://thejordanlegacy.com/conference-line-up/ The Big Finish 'Merseyside Festival with Lived Experience Voices' in a 5,000 Capacity Venue, 22-23 June 2024 https://thejordanlegacy.com/merseyside-festival/ Jordan's Space - the World's Only Fortnightly Radio Show Focused on Suicide Prevention: All Recordings https://thejordanlegacy.com/jordans-space/ 'What We Actually Do' - a Snapshot Month (Jan 2024) Working in Transformational Change in Suicide Prevention https://paulvittles.medium.com/so-what-is-it-you-actually-do-32bbd4d27c9d Paul Vittles - 40 Years in Community Engagement: Memoir with Life & Work Lessons https://paulvittles.medium.com/40-years-of-community-engagement-7-global-community-engagement-days-8dbddeca79bc Other Key Content Referenced in the Show World Health Organisation (WHO) and United Nations SDGs https://www.who.int/health-topics/suicide#tab=tab_1 International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) inc World Suicide Prevention Day 10 September https://www.iasp.info/ Lifeline International https://lifeline-international.com/ The Global Zero Suicide (in Healthcare) Movement (which began in Detroit) https://youtu.be/tyfdN-4nJZQ Zero Suicide Institute of Australasia https://www.zerosuicide.com.au/ UK NCISH: National Confidential Inquiry into Suicide and Safety in Mental Health https://sites.manchester.ac.uk/ncish/ Podcast: Suicide is a Means of Death Not a Cause of Death https://open.spotify.com/episode/2rtecRiS23JtW2aNnN7D0p Zero Suicide Alliance (ZSA) Online Suicide Awareness Training https://www.zerosuicidealliance.com/training Alfie's Squad (Pioneering Peer Support for Kids Bereaved by Suicide) https://alfiessquad.org/ SuperFriend (Not-for-Profit Foundation funded by the Australian Superannuation and Insurance Sector) https://www.superfriend.com.au/ CONTACT PAUL VITTLES LinkedIn: Paul Vittles - https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulvittles/ Medium: @PaulVittles - https://paulvittles.medium.com/ X/Twitter: @PaulVittles - https://twitter.com/PaulVittles Bio on The Jordan Legacy Website: https://thejordanlegacy.com/member/paul-vittles-fmrs-fami-frsa-facilitating-transformational-change-to-move-towards-zero-suicide/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Episode 127, I speak again with Thought Leader and Visionary Dan Silberberg around the evolving role of leadership in a world of disruption. There’s a shift from focusing solely on productivity to valuing intelligence as the key competitive advantage. Multiple areas of disruption can be described with the VUCA framework. A leader’s full time job is global volatility. Another full time job is global uncertainty and unpredictability. Another full time job is unraveling complexity. And then the last one, just in case you didn't have enough to deal with, is ambiguity. The traditional hierarchical model is insufficient for dealing with such complexities. Dan advocates for an ecosystem approach where leaders become facilitators rather than top-down decision-makers. To be a great leader requires critical thinking, emotional intelligence, and lifelong learning. We need authentic organizational values, hiring based on cultural fit, personal authenticity in interviews. Leaders need to adapt to the rapidly changing landscape by fostering innovation, embracing ndiversity, and building trust within their organizations. TO CONTACT DAN SILBERBERG Tell Dan you heard him through Nina Sunday on the Manage Self, Lead Others podcast. https://entelechy.ai/product/leader-council/ https://entelechy.ai/contact/ https://pages.c-suitenetwork.com/the-leader-council ABOUT PODCAST HOST, NINA SUNDAY Connect with Nina Sunday on LinkedIn HERE: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ninasunday/ You can suggest a guest, ask a question, make a comment. To subscribe to Nina Sunday's personal blog go tohttps://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/ and scroll to bottom of the page to register. To visit Nina Sunday's speaker site visit: https://www.ninasunday.com/ You can request a proposal for Nina Sunday to speak at your conference Australia Pacific and globally on either: Psychological Safety, and Psychosocial Hazards To Avoid Rookie Mistakes New Leaders Make Second Curve Thinking: Change Before You Have To To learn more about face-to-face training programs in Australia Pacific, visit: https://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/signature-programs/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yamini Naidu is the world's only Economist and Bollywood dancing business storyteller who works with leaders helping them craft and share stories that connect, engage and inspire. Yamini Naidu's expertise is inspiring individuals to identify their X factor statement, to amplify and elevate their personal presence. TIMESTAMPS [4:42] The unique selling proposition was good, but no one wants to be sold to. And then we created the elevator pitch. And again, that's the problem with the elevator pitch. It's like you're pitching to someone. It sounds hustle-based. Contact Yamini Naidu https://yamininaidu.com.au/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is with Peter Cappelli DPhil, George W. Taylor Professor of Management; Director, Center for Human Resources, The Wharton School; author of “Our Least Important Asset: Why the Relentless Focus on Finance and Accounting is Bad for Business and Employees" https://amzn.to/3P5WTGd Recently named byHR Magazineas one of the top 5 most influential management thinkers, we speak about wrong thinking when it comes to employee cost and value. TIMESTAMPS [2:02] Why do leaders see employees as liabilities instead of assets? [3:47] Is that a failure of the imagination? [5:50 ] Replacing my employees with contractors and with leased employees [6:24] What's the problem with managers coming from engineering or finance backgrounds? [11:19 ] But what they don't track is, are we hiring good people? [12:20] What money you're going to give me to make me want to move? And they're not necessarily more successful than an active candidate. In fact, they're less successful. That's an interesting paradox. [13:15 ] We know that active candidates are people who want to advance. [13:37 ] For any line manager, middle manager, c-suite manager, your advice would be always advertise for a role? [14:20] A study compared people who were promoted from within to a job, to those who were hired from the outside into the identical job. People hired from outside took 3 years to get up to speed compared to people promoted from within.And it took people promoted from within 7 years to catch up to the pay of people who were hired from outside. So you pay a salary premium and you suffer a performance hit when you fill those jobs from outside. [16:31] The other paradox you describe how at the start of the recent pandemic when 70% of office workers were sent home to work, because the feeling was, “We're all in this together”, employees were trusted to get the job done. And they did because they were trusted. Then came a shift to monitoring software on the assumption that left to their own devices, people would goof off. So, what's the situation now? About Peter Cappelli, DPhil https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-cappelli-14936a3/ With expertise in industrial relations and labor economics, Peter is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal and writes for HR Executive Magazine and Harvard Business Review. Tune into his show, In the Workplace, on Sirius XM 111, Business Radio Powered by The Wharton School, on Thursdays at 5:00 pm EST, and read his monthly column in HR Executive magazine online. Author of: "Why Good People Can’t Get Jobs" (Wharton Digital Press, 2012) "Managing the Older Worker" (with Bill Novelli, Harvard Business Press, 2010) "The India Way: How India’s Top Business Leaders Are Revolutionizing Management" (with colleagues, Harvard Business Press, 2010) "Talent on Demand: Managing Talent in an Age of Uncertainty" (Harvard Business Press, 2008) "The New Deal at Work: Managing the Market-Driven Workforce" (Harvard Business Press, 1999). ABOUT PODCAST HOST, NINA SUNDAY Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@manageselfleadotherspodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Connect with Nina Sunday on LinkedIn HERE: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ninasunday/ You can suggest a guest, ask a question, make a comment. To subscribe to Nina Sunday's personal blog go tohttps://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/ and scroll to bottom of the page to register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

CONTACT DAN SILBERBERG You can view Dan Silberberg's programs, the 12-month Leader Council or 13-week Leader Program to 2-day workshops, 1-on-1 coaching at https://entelechy.ai/ Go to the Programs tab. (Mention Nina Sunday and the Manage Self, Lead Others podcast referred you.) Or contact Dan via LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dansilberberg/ ABOUT PODCAST HOST, NINA SUNDAY Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@manageselfleadotherspodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Connect with Nina Sunday on LinkedIn HERE: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ninasunday/ You can suggest a guest, ask a question, make a comment. To subscribe to Nina Sunday's personal blog go tohttps://www.brainpowertraining.com.au/ and scroll to bottom of the page to register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In episode 123 my guest is Randy Mayeux who summarizes 2 bestseller business books each month into a synopsis PDF available at www.15minutebusinessbooks.com FREE GIFT To access your free gift of 5 synopses go to: https://www.brainpowertraining.com/podcast-manage-self-lead-others-123 === The 6 business books we discuss in this episode are: 1. “Elon Musk” by Walter Isaacson AMAZON: https://amzn.to/3umPBGQ 2. “Hidden Potential” by Adam Grant AMAZON: https://amzn.to/42wZyOO 3. “Atomic Habits” by James Clear AMAZON: https://amzn.to/3Uy7MUH 4. “Right Kind Of Wrong” by Amy Edmondson AMAZON: https://amzn.to/48ZYV2H 5. “Impact Players” by Liz Wiseman AMAZON: https://amzn.to/42JHNMl 6. “Mindset” by Carol Dweck AMAZON: https://amzn.to/3udC0ln === Listen to audio episodes of Manage Self, Lead Others on your favourite app HERE: https://link.chtbl.com/-MXiwEWK View video episodes of Manage Self, Lead Others on Youtube HERE: https://www.youtube.com/@manageselfleadotherspodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices