YMMV: The Non-Woke Sex Podcast

The release date of this episode will make it hard for listeners, as they'll have to tear themselves away from the new Taylor Swift album to give us their full attention. Her emotions regarding her most recent failed relationship are notable, if only because they don't really sound like those I would expect from a 35-year-old woman.

But we'll soldier on, even in the face of the Tortured Poets Department. Because, honestly, what could be more tortured than a man trying to provide his woman a little anal fingering, only to wind up with more than he bargained for?

Or, equivalently, a woman who might tip the scales beyond just "overweight" who is propositioned for an MFF threesome by her partner with someone who's ... pretty thin. Should she go along with it, or recognize that the other lady is likely to get the better of the situation?

And, are men supposed to do more work during sex than women?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/164/anal

https://ymmv.me/164/threesome

https://ymmv.me/164/work

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If one were to try to assign "blame" for men's difficulty in ascertaining whether a female partner has orgasmed, who bears the most responsibility? Traditionally, I would view it as the man's fault. Given our interest in that part of the female body, you'd think more men would conduct significant online research.

But what if women are actively trying to prevent men from understanding how to "get them there"? It doesn't even have to be all purposeful. Some combination of women confused about their own bodies and others trying to make men feel better about themselves might unwittingly be misleading whole generations of men about what they "should" be doing.

Another game-theoretical situation arises around STI tests. In the somewhat unusual case that tests are even exchanged by new partners, is there a good way to know if someone is sharing fabricated test results? And, what would even be the point of doing that, given that most STIs are treatable?

And, are there really any women out there who would be pleased to find out their new male partner has a bunch of sex toys?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/163/orgasm

https://ymmv.me/163/hours

https://ymmv.me/163/clean

https://ymmv.me/163/toys

https://ymmv.me/163/sti

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Keith wanted to discuss where to place his semen in an early sexual encounter. It's not as simple a problem as it sounds. It requires forethought for each position. And, since the woman may often simply express the desire that he "put it inside," it's a lonely road the man must travel to find a proper exterior setting.

As I sit here in my bed in Dublin, Ireland, contemplating Keith's semen situation, I can't help wondering if this is the same kind of dilemma faced by such writers as James Joyce when trying to frame his life in terms comprehensible to others. The expulsion of semen is a momentary event, but it can be seminal. And, where it's put can set the tone for years to come with a partner.

Speaking of literary masterpieces, we discuss a Reddit user's comment which encapsulates well the feeling of a hard penis, described for the benefit of a young woman who has never touched one. And, we explain why the 69 position usually places the man on the bottom, not the top.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/162/69

https://ymmv.me/162/hardness

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There's no way to know the full extent to which people claiming to use multiple forms of birth control are virtue signaling. Sure, it's believable that in early sexual encounters people might use a condom as well as the pill, to protect against STIs. But there's definitely some sort of limit here, and later in a relationship the benefit derived is pretty unclear.

MFF threesomes are pretty commonplace in men's fantasy arsenals. But it's less common for men to think through the mechanics and the consequences. For example, what will the second woman do while he's interacting with the first? And, of course, this is all assuming that the threesome isn't really because the two women want to pursue a lesbian experience.

And, to what lengths might a man go to avoid giving oral sex to his female partner? Should oral sex be considered "table stakes" in intimate relationships?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/161/threesome

https://ymmv.me/161/plug

https://ymmv.me/161/smell

https://ymmv.me/161/pill

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Like the peninsular docks that jut out from the islands of the Maldives, a dildo a man purchased for his wife seemed to touch just the right spots, giving her the first "penetration-only" orgasm he's ever witnessed. Now, heartbroken, he's unsure whether this will permanently alter their relationship.

Another man is upset that his wife allowed another man to shoot "boudoir" photos of her. What's the actual reason for someone to want such photos? And, does he have any reason to be upset?

And, what inhibits men from giving oral more often in relationships? Is it because they're not big fans of the act in general, or is it just something to do with timing and what's asked for directly?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/160/boudoir

https://ymmv.me/160/shape

https://ymmv.me/160/going-down

https://ymmv.me/160/worst-sex

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It's always a difficult situation for a woman when she's pleasuring a man orally and he starts to get a bit too pushy. But here we discuss a young lady who was surprised by the act and unable to control the depth of penetration at all. What are some techniques for managing this? If she bites him, will she really get punched?

What's the best way for a woman to "freshen up" before welcoming a man between her legs? Obviously a shower is likely to be the gold-standard solution. But let's say that's not available. What are the best substitutes?

And, what's the right response by a man to a truly unusual fetish revealed by his female partner? Can a fetish be so extreme that it must have been invented purely to end the relationship?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/159/sex-ed

https://ymmv.me/159/kink

https://ymmv.me/159/pushy

https://ymmv.me/159/roulette

https://ymmv.me/159/first

https://ymmv.me/159/clit

https://ymmv.me/159/perfume

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Which countries have the largest and the smallest penis sizes? Would it surprise you to find out that the smallest nation is just a bit more than half the size of the largest one?

It's a complicated topic, though, because if a guy wants to get into the Three Sevens Club, he's going to need to be extremely tall, have a large penis and make a lot of money. I guess there are some well-known folks who definitely qualify on the first and third axes, but the middle one is still a question mark.

If a woman makes it clear to a friend that her husband's penis is "small" and he overhears the conversation, is there any coming back from that? Obviously she cares about it, and obviously she's aware. And, there's not much he can do to "fix" the problem.

We offer more information and discussion of male masturbation toys, this time in the context of a man who seems to prefer them to his partner. And, is there anything a woman can do to get a man to delete nude pictures of her? Or is it just up to his personality and innate desire to keep them?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/158/small

https://ymmv.me/158/filming

https://ymmv.me/158/toys

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That glow I have is the good feeling from being told by Ally, in no uncertain terms, that my orgasms are surely stronger than hers, and perhaps stronger than all women's. "Why else would men pursue sex so much more than women," she says. "It must be better for you guys."

Amen to that, and thanks to Ally we also learned that the products of teenage masturbation also may be more memorable for men than for women.

Next, we take a look at some reviews of male pleasure devices from Amazon, and wondered how long it would be before, paired with the metaverse, men could live in a sexual holodeck.

And, do women really want a man to "suck" on their clit? This seems like something that might be too aggressive for the typical lady.

Which reminds me, what explains the relative popularity of sex podcasts which just reinforce the standard cultural narratives? I know, you're probably thinking that the standard narrative is something out of the 1950s, complete with tradwives and obligation sex. But that's not the modern world. Today, humans without discernible gender are normalized. There's nothing wrong with treating people well, but it's a shame when the net result is to muddle life for those of us (the vast majority) who do fit into the traditional paradigm. Little surprise, then, that so many would rather play Fortnite or scroll Instagram Reels than sex one another.

What a world it would be if men and women alike listened to Your Mileage May Vary, to learn how their sex parts are supposed to work, and to discern an orgasm from hyperventilation. Do you really want to leave such important matters to Alex Cooper and her minions? Presumably not. So, if you're reading this, like and subscribe and share YMMV. It's one of the few things you can do that genuinely might save humanity from itself.

Here's the male masturbator product we discussed early in the episode:

https://ymmv.me/157/masturbator

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/157/teacher

https://ymmv.me/157/nipples

https://ymmv.me/157/elizabethan

https://ymmv.me/157/orgasm

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In spite of the vigorous efforts of men to post detailed feedback on porn and sex toys, few take this part of men's lives seriously. It's a shame, because for most men it's an important enough part of their lives that one wonders whether someone can really know a man without understanding his porn preferences.

This episode, Mike wanted to discuss a couple of porn tropes that he doesn't enjoy and wishes would change. Namely, men insisting that women have orgasms on cue (triggering fakery) and either party being too effusive in praising the other, especially when nearing climax.

Keith wants to discuss ways in which women could better vet potential partners on dating apps, something that is sorely lacking given the sheer amount of choice available to them (assuming they're attractive enough).

And, how do the mechanics of pelvic thrusting differ between men and women? Does this impact the experience in, say, the cowgirl position?

To follow along with the video discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/156/cumforme

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/156/dating

https://ymmv.me/156/thrusting

https://ymmv.me/156/cowgirl

https://ymmv.me/156/masturbation

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A woman reports experiencing an extraordinary number of orgasms experienced during a bondage session. So many so, in fact, that she passes out from the experience, and she claims that each orgasm became painful, starting about halfway through the session.

What is she experiencing? Is in analogous to the male experience or something completely different? Is passing out indicative of some other phenomenon like hyperventilating or even a medical issue of some kind?

Which men seriously comment on videos posted on porn sites, and what's the goal? And, if your partner is watching porn containing content that differs markedly from what they claim to enjoy in everyday life, is this indicative of anything?

And, what's the right way to handle the "aftermath" of anal?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/155/orgasmsporn,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1ahoqjd/bfs_comments_on_reddit_porn_should_i_be_concerned/https://ymmv.me/155/

anal,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1aj5jby/bf_got_mad_cuz_i_farted_during_anal/https://ymmv.me/155/

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