Healing through Pain

It's personal, yet it's clinical. As a therapist, I sit inside of so many family systems and other relationships where one or two voices are trying to be agents of change in their family stories, in their friendships, in their workplaces, in their churches and beyond. Perhaps leaving isn't the most ideal option. What if getting well and influencing change might be the better move? Take a quick listen.

Often, we want to undo years of unhealth in a few short months. Being realistic about change can help us commit to the process and persevere - it is hard; but managing expectations helps.

This is not about victim blaming. This is about pushing back against the troubling statistics of revictimization. Take a listen. Share with someone who needs to hear this!

This one question can help disrupt a lot of self rejection. It may take some time, it will definitely that some intentionality, but it can be a great launching point for health and healing. Take a quick listen. Share with a friend who might need to hear this too.

One of the most painful pieces that can show up is being let down by the adults in our lives. Yet, while our pain makes sense because of our stories, perhaps their pain and perceived shortcomings also makes sense when we dive into their history but also our collective history. Take a listen for an encouraging word about cultural and generational humility.

It is easy to create story and over-personalization is a common cognitive distortion. But, how do we disrupt it? And how can we invite others to speak accurately.

Unresolved issues can show up with intensity in times grief. Perhaps we can proactively sort through things so grief can be just grief.

It starts with one word. Life can pivot in monumental ways when we begin to commit. Take a listen

This strategy is key to adopting best practices in our own lives, fostering healthy relationships, and allowing us to influence our worlds in positive and healthful ways. Begin with a post-mortem.

Can you weep with those who weep? How about weeping with those who have "brought it on themselves"? How about with those who are on the receiving end of unrecognized losses? This is an area many of us could probably grow in. Take a listen.