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Did you know that your physical space can help you with your mental health journey? Today we are speaking with Anita Yokota, former mental health therapist turned interior designer. Anita shares her story of how practicing as a marriage and family therapist for over 20 years before pivoting her career into interior design allowed her to realize the importance of how your space feels. She is also the author of the best selling book Home Therapy.

Do you feel insecure about your home? Are you nervous to do any improvements because you’re afraid you might ruin it? Or you want to do all the things because you're hosting this upcoming holiday season? Anita teaches you how to be somewhere in the middle. She also explains what the four domains are from her book and how we should be using them to find more peace and joy in our homes.

Anita walks us through how we can feel good in our homes during the little kid years without breaking the budget. She recommends things like changing the paint color in a room to help a space feel more calm and less chaotic. She also touches on how you can compromise if you share a space with someone who has a different vision than yours when it comes to decorating.

If this episode inspires you to make some changes in your home, we want to see! Be sure to tag both @herselfpodcast and @anitayokota in your Instagram stories so we can share in the joy of your home makeover.

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Do you lack confidence from time to time? Let us introduce you to Lydia Fenet. She is the world’s leading charity auctioneer and has single handedly raised over one billion dollars for over 800 different organizations and broken down countless barriers for women in our industry. In this episode Lydia teaches us how to step into our own confidence by focusing on the present.

As moms we are forced to make so many decisions and with all of the options we have, we can struggle with the choices we make. Lydia explains how things influence us, both in positive and negative ways, and how we can start to tune out the outside world and trust our own instincts. She shares what the “strike method” is and how we can start using it today. Lydia also states that she has learned way more from her failures than her successes and how this has made an important impact on the lives of her three children as well.

A lot of women in this community struggle with working mom guilt. Many of you have thought about leaving your careers completely because the stress of managing a household and kids gets to be too much. Lydia has some words of wisdom for you if you are stuck in this mindset right now. She also stresses the importance of understanding money, whether or not you’re the one bringing it in for your household.

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Did you know that there are more tools to measure your health progress than just a scale? Today, Jessica Kuchnia, from DexaFit Madison is here to explain to us what a DEXA scan is and what all it measures. We first met Jess when we walked into her business for our own scans. We all share the same passion for all things health, fitness, nutrition, and longevity.

It can be so hard not to compare ourselves to other women. Especially in this social media era we are living in. Jess explains why it is important to focus on progress on ourselves and how focusing inward can be our best bet when it comes to living our healthiest lives. We also know that progress can be slow. Especially as we age and after we have babies. Jess explains what can help with this and why playing the long game when it comes to your health is best.

One of our favorite pieces of advice that Jess shares is to beware of the “BLTs” of life - and they aren’t what you think they are!

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DexaFit Madison Fall Challenge Info: The challenge starts on October 16th, 2023 and ends on January 6th, 2024. It includes two DXA scans (baseline and follow up) and then 6, 3D scans to help stay on track throughout. Participants can also include an optional RMR for a discounted rate.

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Topics like fertility and menstrual cycles usually have a serious tone to them but our guest today, Dr. Danielle Lane has a way of bringing humor into these often stressful situations. Dr. Danielle is a board certified fertility specialist and you’ll learn why she has more information related to fertility issues than your Ob-Gyn might.

This episode covers everything from defining what a normal and abnormal menstrual cycle is to the difference between endometriosis and endometrial cancer. We hear the acronym PCOS, or polycystic ovarian syndrome a lot these days and Dr. Danielle explains what this is and what you can do if you suspect you might have it?

Unfortunately, many of our listeners are currently struggling with infertility. Whether it be you are trying to conceive for the first time, or maybe you are having issues a second or third time around. Dr. Danielle explains when you should seek out a fertility specialist and what to do if you don’t feel like you’re being heard from your current provider.

We want so many women in this community to hear Dr. Danielle’s message. Even if you haven’t struggled with fertility issues, you can benefit from listening to this conversation. We cannot wait to hear what you have to say about this one. It’s definitely a must listen!

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Our conversation with Julie Menanno, therapist and mom of six, centers around secure and insecure relationships based on attachment styles. She educates us on what attachment theory is and what the different types of attachment styles are. Julie breaks down what happens when a couple has an argument and how to help get you back to the ultimate goal in any relationship: feeling safe.

Do you wonder what attachment style you and your partner are? Julie walks us through how we can tell and what it means if you don’t identify with one attachment style over the other. She talks about why avoidant and anxious partners are often attracted to each other. Julie also explains why different attachment styles react differently when their partner is disappointed in them.

To conclude our talk with Julie, she gives us an example of what we can start doing today to create a home that has an attachment friendly environment. Doing this type of work is hard but it’s fulfilling. Remember, it’s not linear but it will be worthwhile. If you want to be in your partnership for life, you must figure out how to sustain it and nurture it. When you get to go through something like this with someone you love, you come out the other side feeling like a rockstar!

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We are excited to have Dr. Whitney Casares back on the show today. She was first on the show back in episode 87; HERself Expert: Dr. Whitney Casares Talks Working Motherhood and Silencing Your Inner Critic. Dr. Whitney is a maternal child health expert, a pediatrician, a mom of two; one child has ADHD and the other has autism. She’s also the author of the soon-to-be released book - Doing It All.

Today we are talking about how we can make working motherhood better for ourselves. Dr. Whitney explains how when she was doing it all, in the end, she was the one who was suffering the most. She shares her hot take on the word balance and offers a suggestion on what we could be seeking instead.

We cover everything from how to advocate for yourself and others in incremental ways at the workplace, what the term sandwich generation means, and what you can do if you fall into this category. Dr. Whitney shares how her and her husband split the household and parenting load & you’ll find her honest, personal answer refreshing.

In Dr. Whitney’s upcoming book, Doing It All, she talks about the centered life. In this episode she walks us through this concept, gives her own personal examples, and shares what you can do when your top priorities conflict with one another.

We appreciate Dr. Whitney’s honest, realistic approach to working motherhood. We all want you to know that you deserve to feel good in this role and that even if you feel like you don’t have five minutes to reflect on your own needs, doing so will have a foundational impact on the rest of your life.

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We are discussing a topic we’ve never really talked about before. And that is how to have the really hard conversations with our kids. In this episode we cover topics like death, funerals, losing a pet, and what to do when our child has completely lost it at an appointment.

Our guest, Katie Taylor, is a certified child life specialist with over 12 years of experience. She supports kids and their families as they navigate challenging life events. Today, Katie explains to us that having hard talks with our kiddos is a learned skill and why it is one that is so important to develop.

In this conversation Katie gives us her tips on whether or not we should tell our kids the truth about what to expect in an upcoming appointment. She also walks us through what age appropriate conversations around the death of a pet or a close family member sound like and gives suggestions on the appropriate language to use to help explain these events to our kids. We both took so much away from our chat with Katie and know you will too!

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It is a well known fact that ⅔ of couples report decreases in their marital satisfaction in the first three years after having a child. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is back on the show with us today to talk about what happens after those first three years. How do we reconnect with our partner?

Dr. Tracy is a mom to two kids, a wife, and has over 15 years of practice as a clinical psychologist. She gives us advice on how we can find the passion in our relationship again when we are in the thick of raising littles. And it doesn’t have to be these big extravagant date nights. It’s more about the little things like a text in the middle of the day to let your partner know that you’re thinking about them.

Do you feel like your relationship with your partner is transactional? Or when you do get a chance to sneak in a date night - do you only talk about your kids? Dr. Tracy explains how we can go from the mundane conversation of, “how was your day” to the four “C’s”; curiosity, compassion, connection, and collaboration.

What we love about Dr. Tracy is that she shares her own, personal experiences with us as well. Which is one of the touch points in her upcoming book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This. In her book Dr. Tracy writes about the importance of sharing the stories of other couples, and her own, to help her clients relate and feel less alone.

Episode 93; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 1

Episode 94; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 2

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If you’re like us, we are celebrating Labor Day today! We are at the cabin, our kids are going back to school, and we’re getting together with friends. With everything we have going on we thought we would bring back one of our most listened to episodes with Nedra Tawwab all on boundaries.

Nedra does such a good job of explaining boundaries, the need for them, and how to implement them into your life. Every time we listen to this episode we find ourselves saying “no” so much more often because it makes our “yeses” feel that much better!

We read Nedra Tawwab’s book “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” as a group in our Patreon Book Club and in this episode, we dive into the details of her book and boundaries in general. We have answers to the family member who gives you the guilt trip, the friend who keeps testing the limits, and also with finding the power within yourself to make the changes with boundaries needed in the first place.

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The whole idea of this episode is that, as women, we have to ask for what we need. And this takes practice. We were raised by a generation of women who did not speak up when it came to getting their needs met which is leading us to a lot of resentment and burnout. But today we talk through a few situations that have happened in our lives recently where we have stood up and asked for what we need.

We cover what getting our needs met from our partners looks like. We think they can read our minds and this just isn’t true. If you are feeling resentful towards your partner, you have an unmet need. We both share some things that work for us with Drew and Colin and hope they might help you as well.

The other two areas we cover are work and kids. You have to set boundaries with both. Whether you work inside or outside of the home, setting boundaries around these areas of your life will help you get what you need. We’ve recently implemented some changes with the role our kids play inside of our homes that will hopefully help aid them in becoming a more collaborative part of the family unit.

With all the things we cover in today’s episode, make sure you do what feels right for you. But also, in the moment, when something doesn’t feel right, speak up. We’re sensing a shift for our generation. We are starting to get our needs met. We are starting to ask for what we need. And that is a really great thing!

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