Mind the Dash

This is a fun and messy conversation. Hear a great reconnection from old friends and they share about their personal experience of the journey of parenting. This Family Pastor, Chris McCarthy, is a director of NextGen Ministries and serves at John Wesley Methodist Church in Houston, Texas. He shares some insight on the current trends that he sees in parenting. Many of the ideas discussed, like what our children think, how we encourage their growth, and a parental desire to be a role model in their life also mirror one of the High Performance Habits outlined in the book High Performance Habits from Brendon Burchard. To gain influence with others, (1) teach them how to think about themselves, others, and the world; (2) challenge them to develop their character, connections, and contributions; and (3) role model the val- ues you wish to see them embody. 

Some highlights:

1. The struggle makes the butterfly beautiful and strong.

2. Ask yourself, are you living on a fishing vessel, or a luxury cruise? Are you serving or do you expect to be served?

3. When we want to influence kids-Remember, we are raising them for something. We all have a purpose.

4. It's important to balance purpose with grace.

5. We are all different, treat each child and each other as their own individual.

6. We have a choice to parent in mindful mode vs. reaction mode.

7. There are ~936 weeks from birth to age 18 (graduation)

8. 3 questions that kids today are asking- Am I valuable?, Am I capable?, Do I belong?

We must define our terms! Sometimes it not only knowing what something is but identifying what it is not. This new definition was helpful in the reflection in the evolution of my parenting journey and will be helpful for our journey with mindfulness in our lives. 

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Living mindfully is a journey! There is no you  have "now arrived to the destination" because each new moment unfolds to the next opportunity to win that moment for mindfulness. You will hear Gabby and Brenda discuss regulating kids emotions and our emotions, using emotions as a guide to evaluate thoughts, and hear an inspiring story of coming back home to self.

• If it feels bad move away from it
• heal enough to empower other people
• put your self as the observer and observe from a value neutral space
• behavior is communication
• use emotions as a guide to find your thoughts
• the shift to feel good now does not have to be the fix of what set you off in the first place

Brenda Winkle is a mindset empowerment coach and an energy healer based in the Portland, Oregon area. Her mission is simple; to help people feel better!

Reducing stress, reclaiming time, increasing energy, and releasing guilt. Letting go of patterns that aren't helping you, and identifying and saying YES to the things that matter most to you. She helps people identify and shift thinking that holds them back.

She says, "You have something special that the world needs. The best way to heal the world is to help one person at a time find their purpose, their passion and peace."

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To register for S.H.A.L.O.M. Yoga Alignment Dance Party click here This is a great conversation about a personal journey to mindfulness, the struggle of depression, and learning the tools to help ourselves and children to process our emotions. We talk about the 4 "S" strategies: Be Still Scan State emotions Space Jo Dodd is an author and coach. In 2020, after a 6-month furlough, she took a bold leap, stepping away from a 25-year career in Corporate America, to launch Jotopia Productions, LLC, where she writes content that focuses on the power of positive thinking, embracing diversity and crushing fear! Jo had published three children's books in the past two years, and is currently launching a one-of-a-kind picture book for moms called 'Dear Mama Bear with the F*cked Up Hair.' This book that tells an authentic, poignant, dark, sometimes humorous story of motherhood which is based on Jo's journey of battling a decades-long depression. Jo is passionate about shining a light for any 'Mama Bears' struggling with the ever-increasing pressures of motherhood, and hopes that this book will touch their hearts and let them know that they are not alone. To find out more about Jo's work, visit www.livinginjotopia.com and follow her on Instagram @livinginjotopia The takeaway's  1. You are not alone. 2. When we talk abut the fact that we are not OK, we can normalize it and bring it into the light. 3.To see the light, you experience darkness, that duality exists. 4. Until we learn to receive love and love ourself, we can not give back in the way we should. 5.When we release something we make room for more to come in.

You will definitely want to take notes on several ways to help the mind focus and help shift into the high flying vibes in life you want.  Gabby Interviews Mesha McKittick, the founder and CEO of My Friend Mesha and fellow podcaster of Mindset Check! You will hear about creating a proof list of photos and complements to lift you up when you are down and so many more.

Takeaway's:

1.We have a responsibility of how we show up.

2.Mindfulness is creating space in your mind.

3.We have more power than we think we do, we just have to recognize it.

4. Pay attention to your source of "magic".

5. Dance with the dash

6.Give people the benefit of doubt and know that they probably have not gone through anything hard yet.

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This is a book review that highlights some of the take a ways from the D.E.A.R. Summer (drop everything and read) summer book club. This book outlines the gift of consciousness in our life. Consciousness = Choice. Gabby introduces you to Dr Edith Eva Egar and shares her thoughts on Dr. Egers story and triumph. There is a quick introduction to the therapy tools for choosing to transform painful past experiences into a powerful gift. Compassion, humor, optimism, intuition, curiosity, and self expression. It's a choice. 

This is a great conversation on what is the purpose of all the hard stuff anyway. It turns out YES! there is a reason, to develop our character. 

Gabby and Ryan discuss some of the experiences that have shaped their lives and share the process and lessons learned. Here is Dr. Adamczyk profile on Psychology today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/ryan-robert-adamczyk-charlotte-nc/439038#endorsements

Dr Adamczyk articles at the Jung Centre for applied studies

https://appliedjung.com/peter-pan-complex/

I'd like to dedicate this episode in honor of the memory of my mom, Ana Sanchez-Ramirez. Thank you for the life lessons you shared with me. The trials, tribulations, and trauma's we go through are not the only story. It is the lessons and transformations we learn from them.