Two Bi Guys

We’re changing things up a bit today and bringing you a preview of a new podcast we’re enjoying and think you will, too. Where There’s a Will searches for the surprising places Shakespeare shows up outside the theater. Host Barry Edelstein, artistic director at one of the country’s leading Shakespeare theaters, and co-host writer and director Em Weinstein, ask what is it about Shakespeare that’s given him a continuous afterlife in all sorts of unexpected ways? You’ll hear Shakespeare doing rehabilitative work in a maximum security prison, helping autistic kids to communicate, shaping religious observances, in the mouths of U.S. presidents, and even at the center of a deadly riot in New York City. Join Barry and Em as they uncover the ways Shakespeare endures in our modern society, and what that says about us. In this preview, they look at how Shakespeare bent gender on the stage and in his writing and how that inspired Em—and others—to step into their own truth. Hear the full episode and more from Where There’s a Will: Finding Shakespeare at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/wtaw?sid=guys.

This week we’re talking bisexual play parties with the founder and “Chief Conspirator” of the New Society For Wellness (aka NSFW), Daniel Saynt! We chatted about Daniel’s early awareness of his bisexuality, keeping it hidden throughout his conservative religious upbringing, and how entering the world of fashion both exposed him to more sexual fluidity but also convinced him that more openness and transparency was needed. We then focused on the club he founded, NSFW, and how & why it’s specifically geared toward the bisexual community. We discussed play party etiquette and enthusiastic consent, how to overcome anxiety about attending sex parties (and performance anxiety during them), the differences between play parties and kink parties, how norms in sexual spaces can change depending on the gender identity of those involved, why bisexual men seem to love NSFW’s “Frat”-themed party so much (which includes consensual “forced” hazing and bi play), and how queer parties can set themselves apart from “swinger” events. We also talked about weed! Don’t miss it.

The New Society For Wellness: https://www.ns-fw.com/

Follow Daniel on IG: https://www.instagram.com/danielsaynt/

Follow Daniel on Twitter: https://twitter.com/danielsaynt

Follow NS-FW on IG: https://www.instagram.com/wearethensfw/

Follow NS-FW on Twitter: https://twitter.com/wearensfw

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Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

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Continuing our UK-themed season, this week we sat down with Lois Shearing, a bi activist, freelance journalist and writer based in London. We chatted about their journey along the sexuality and gender spectrums, the many Bi+ groups they’ve been part of and helped organize (including the Bisexual Survivors’ Network, the London Bi Pandas, and an LGBT+ knitting club), and their popular writing about bisexuality that’s been published by The Independent, The Advocate, INTO, Openly, and more.

We then chatted about Lois’ book, “Bi The Way: The Bisexual Guide to Life”, which was published in 2021, highlighting topics such as being “really bi”, bisexuality as freedom, the bi v. pan “debate”, the challenges of coming out, how to find Bi+ community (and why it’s so important), and how sexuality and gender can be interrelated and interdependent. We also covered quite a few next-level Bi 2.0 topics, as I like to call them – check out the episode for some spicy takes!

Buy “Bi The Way: The Bisexual Guide to Life”: https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/lois-shearing/bi-the-way/9781787752900/

Follow Lois on Twitter: https://twitter.com/LoShearing
Follow Lois in Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loisfaith95/

Follow Lois on Medium: https://medium.com/@lois.shearing

Lois' Website: https://faithfullwords.wordpress.com/

“Why Bisexuality is a Threat to Terf Politics”: https://medium.com/@lois.shearing/why-bisexuality-is-a-threat-to-terf-politics-5f2b40563e11

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Use my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastr

Try MagicMind and get 20% off your order or 40% off a subscription with promo code BIGUYS20: www.magicmind.co/biguys

This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.

We're going on a Bi+ trip to Maine in June 2023! Join the email list to get all the info: https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

It’s almost election day, so we sat down with a civil rights attorney, recent candidate for Justice of the Peace in Texas, writer, activist, proud bisexual man of faith, and mega-fan of this podcast, Andrew Reginald Hairston! We chatted about voting and why it’s so important for queer people to get out the vote and protect our communities (GO VOTE PLEASE!), the freedom Andrew has experienced since coming out, how this podcast appeared at the right moment to help him on his bisexual journey, how his sexuality has impacted his work as a civil rights lawyer and prison abolitionist, and also how it has intersected with his faith community, and his newfound “limitless capacity for love” since embracing his whole identity.

We also talked about the highs and lows of dating, how our bisexuality has come into play in negative and abusive relationships we’ve had, and how to cultivate self-worth not just despite a complicated, sometimes-confusing identity but BECAUSE of it – and why we should not just ask for but demand the recognition and respect we deserve. Andrew eloquently reminds us that no matter what happens in the 2022 mid-terms, hope is a discipline, this is just one moment in a long struggle, we are building on the efforts of those who came before, and the future is bright if we work together to take the next step.

Follow Andrew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewrhairston/

Follow Andrew on Twitter: https://twitter.com/AndrewRHairston

Visit Andrew’s Website: https://andrewrhairston.com/

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Try MagicMind and get 20% off your order or 40% off a subscription with promo code BIGUYS20: www.magicmind.co/biguys

Buy the FirmTech Tech Ring or Performance Ring: https://myfirmtech.com/collections/firmtech

We're going on a Bi+ trip to Maine in June 2023! Join the email list to get all the info: https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

We're all aware of the unfortunate statistics showing that the bisexual community receives a tiny minority of LGBT+ charity resources despite making up a majority of the community itself. But how does that play out and what does it actually mean for Bi+ people?

We chatted about that and more with Dominic Arnall, CEO of “Just Like Us” (an LGBT+ young people’s charity) and the only out bisexual man running a queer charity in the UK. He explained what happens when the “B” is neglected in the non-profit space, why we need resources that are dedicated specifically to the Bi+/fluid community (and for kids especially), and what those programs might look like if they were properly funded and prioritized.

We also discussed the current political climate and the targeting of trans kids, why the “B” & “T” communities are intertwined and benefit by standing up for each other, and how queerness and gender are evolving and being viewed by young people today. We also touched on Dominic’s own bisexual journey, how his marriage and child have intersected with his queerness, and things to consider when coming out as Bi+ in the workplace.

Follow Dominic on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dominicarnall

Follow Just Like Us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/justlikeusUK

Support Just Like Us: www.justlikeus.org

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Use my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastr

This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.

We're going on a Bi+ trip to Maine in June 2023! Join the email list to get all the info: https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

This week we chatted with author, illustrator, and activist Florence Given, aka “Floss”, about her new (very bisexual!) novel, GIRLCRUSH. Floss gained an online following leading up to her first book, “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty”, a non-fiction feminist primer, before transitioning to fiction and highlighting sexual fluidity in “Girlcrush”.

We talked about Floss’s bisexual journey, the biphobia and bi-erasure she’s experienced since coming out, the differences she’s encountered dating men v. women, how not wanting to play into toxic and gendered power dynamics in relationships can lead to being overly cautious, why she wanted to create a “messy” bisexual character who gets confused and makes mistakes, and the unexpected joys that have come with a queer identity. We also discussed what it’s like to be a social media influencer today, the difference between our digital self and our reality, parasocial relationships between creators and their fans, how to deal with online trolls and negativity, and the pleasant surprises that come with a public persona. Finally, we touched on consent, how to recognize and get out of an abusive relationship, and how to reclaim your own power and authenticity.

Follow Floss on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/florencegiven/

Visit Floss's website: https://www.florencegiven.com/

Buy GIRLCRUSH: https://bookshop.org/books/girlcrush/9781914240522

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Use my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastr

Rob is hosting a Bi+ trip to coastal Maine in June 2023! First 10 to book get $200 off: https://trips.trovatrip.com/trips/united-states-with-rob-cohen-jun-2023

Happy Bi+ Visibility Day and Awareness Week! There's no better way to celebrate than an interview with another true BI-CON, Dr. Mimi Hoang!

Dr. Mimi a psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the LGBTQ+ and Asian Pacific Islander communities -- and she was named “one of the most significant women in the bisexual movement”! In this special episode, we chatted about her family history and bisexual journey, the multiple organizations she co-founded in Los Angeles for Bi+ individuals (including LA Bi+ Task Force and AmBi), how to cultivate resilience, when and how to speak to a psychologist or therapist about your sexuality or gender identity, the cognitive dissonance caused by our actions not matching our words and how coming out can lead to more internal congruence, and the particular challenges of being married and bisexual. Though we do mention the negative mental and physical health outcomes we know are prevalent in our community, we focused our chat on the joys, surprises, and positive aspects of fluid sexuality and the value of building Bi+ community.

Visit Dr. Mimi's website: https://www.drmimihoang.com/index.html

Follow Dr. Mimi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmimihoang/?hl=en

Dr. Mimi's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/drmimihoang

Join AmBi! https://www.ambi.org/

Dr. Mimi's amazing list of queer and Bi+ resources: https://www.drmimihoang.com/resourcescontact.html

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Use my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastr

This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.

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We're going on a Bi+ trip to Maine in June 2023! Join the email list to get all the info: https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

We chatted with NYC-based entrepreneur Stephen Quaderer, who identifies as gay and pansexual. Stephen is the creator of Headero, the connection app for people who love oral pleasure ;) We talked about the queer future of dating apps; the potential pleasure of meeting people based on shared interests or desires rather than gender identity or sexuality; how to navigate the online dating scene safely and consensually, and the important of being honest and direct about preferences, kinks, and expectations. We also discussed Stephen's gay and pansexual identities and the growing number of gay men who are exploring sexual fluidity.

Download Headero: https://www.headero.com/

Thot Experiment: https://www.thotexperiment.co/

Follow Header on IG: https://www.instagram.com/headeroapp/?hl=en

Follow Stephen on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ItsQuads

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Use my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastr

Check out Hinge's "Not-so Frequently Asked Questions: hinge.NFAQ.co

This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.

Visit tracysdog.com/ and use promo code “twobiguys” to get 15% off, and don’t forget to check out the OG Pro 2.

Interested in group travel with the bisexual community? Take this survey! https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

We're back with part two of our interview with content creator, activist, and all-around bi-con RJ Aguiar! In this episode we chatted about using sex appeal as a marketing tool (for example, the title of this episode...), RJ's modeling work and how it's affected his own body image, how RJ blends sexuality and mental health with other pop culture and political topics on his show "Quick Question", RJ's bisexual activism with the LA Bi+ Task Force and other organizations, why his hair is a different color every summer, and much more! Do you think RJ should return as one of the two bi guys more often? Let us know!

Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrj

Follow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJ

Follow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj

"Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion

"Quick Question on Snapchat: https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true

"TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadam

LA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.org

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

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What's it like to go viral with your Bi+ coming out story? We asked that and more to RJ Aguiar, the OG bi YouTube sensation. in our 2-part season 5 premiere! In this episode, RJ discuss his personal bisexual journey, reactions to his coming out (both privately and on social media), the experience of being a very public bi guy years before the more recent (modest) increase in representation, how to balance and integrate Bi+ content with other important issues, the ways that social media shapes how we see ourselves, and much more. Stay tuned for part 2 where we discuss more about RJ's modeling, activism, and his work with the LA Bi+ Task Force!

Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrj

Follow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJ

Follow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj

"Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion

"Quick Question on Snapchat: https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true

"TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadam

LA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.org

Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen

Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd

Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman

Music by Ross Mintzer

We are supported by The Gotham

Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr

Get $5 off a variety pack of Magic Spoon cereal!

http://magicspoon.com/twobiguys

CODE: TWOBIGUYS

You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!