Touchy Topics with Megan Lambert

How do you know when a decision is right for you? What does that vague restless feeling tell you about your current life path?

This mini episode is about a key concept I learned from my Orgasmic Meditation training - being on vs. off the spot - and how that concept has influenced the way I look at subtle energetics of life choices. It’s been one of the most life-changing concepts I’ve found. Hope you enjoy it!

Key Topics:

• Having an “off the spot” moment misaligned with a desire [1:05]
• What is “on the spot” and “off the spot”? [2:24]
• As in orgasmic meditation, as in life — listening to subtle signs within yourself [4:43]
• Trusting your instincts to bring you back on the spot [7:00]
• The difficult emotions that are sometimes coupled with being on the spot [8:10]

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How do you work with masculine and feminine energy when it comes to bringing dreams to life? What gifts do our inner masculine and feminine bring around dreams? How do you dream together as a couple, in a polarized and sexy way?

As we start 2024, may this mini-episode inspire you to bring your biggest and boldest dreams to life, either individually or as a couple.

Key Topics:

• Feminine is the vision, masculine is the execution [1:33]
• We all have masculine and feminine energies within us [4:20]
• Sometimes masculine practicality can squash feminine desire [5:13]
• Bringing forth feminine dreams and desires to a masculine partner [8:07]
• Trusting your partner to embody their chosen role for a particular dream [10:39]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com.

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How do you prepare for birth with the full reverence and devotion it deserves?

Birth is one of the biggest initiations of a woman’s life. It touches every aspect of who she is emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially…. As well as ripples out to her partner, family, friends, and community.

So - what can you do to prepare for an amazing birth? Here I share a few of my favorite resources and things that have helped me prepare for birth.

For my full pregnancy resource guide, check out - www.megandlambert.com/pregnancy

Key Topics:

• Birth is the biggest initiation of a woman’s life [1:09]
• Stripping away the layers of your being [2:51]
• Birth is also a rebirth for the mother [3:55]
• Preparing for the descent, death, and re-emergence as a new woman [4:19]
• Preparing your mind for birth and expelling fears from the experience [6:25]
• Getting creative in birth prep [8:05]
• Reaching out to loved ones for support [8:37]
• Preparing your relationship for new dynamics [9:37]
• Reconnecting with your higher power prior to birth [10:44]

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One of the least talked about — but most important — aspects of a relationship is how you structure your daily lives together. What are the rhythms and rituals you live by? What is the flow of your days?

Often couples fall into unconscious patterns, without having a clear conversation on the rhythms they want to create together. Nor do they talk about their implicit expectations and baseline standards - which can breed resentment and hurt feelings.

By having an open and honest conversation about these areas, you two can consciously design a more beautiful and fulfilling life together.

In this episode, I share with you two powerful sets of questions to talk about with your partner to help you set your baseline standards and design your daily rhythms. This is potent work! May it create more flow and harmony in your relationship.

Key Topics:

• What are rhythms and rituals in partnership? [1:06]
  • Why are they important?
• Rhythms and rituals questions [2:50]
  • What do you do in the morning and before going to bed together?
  • How often and when do you make love?
  • How often do you have date nights?
  • Traveling and taking trips together or separately
  • Relationship check-ins
  • How do you play and have fun together?
  • How do you receive relationship support?
• Baseline standards questions [8:29]
  • What behaviors are not acceptable in fights?
  • What will you do when a standard is broken?
  • What is the standard of loyalty and honesty?
  • How long do you go without having sex?
  • How long do you harbor resentments?
  • How do you deal with substances, addictions, and/or vices?

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

One baby vs. two babies — depending who you ask, you’ll get a different answer about what it’s like to shift from a family of 3 to a family of 4 or more.

This week, I’m talking with Jess Osie about the shifts in motherhood that come with a growing family.

In this episode, we discuss motherhood as a rite of passage, the family nervous system, and caring for your relationship with your partner throughout all stages of parenthood.

Jess gets real about what it’s like caring for two children and the struggles she and her partner have faced along the way. If you’re growing your family, or just curious to know what it’s like shifting into this new stage of life, this episode is for you.

Key Topics:

• Moving through the resentment tunnel of early parenthood [2:48]
• Practicing gratitude and appreciation of each other as parents [8:32]
• Navigating the family nervous system as a family of 4 [14:26]
• How to tend to the family nervous system [18:29]
• 1+1 does not = 2 in parenthood [22:00]
• Feeling a deeper inner confidence and intuition as a mother with baby #2 [26:30]
• Self-trust in maternal intuition is nourishing and reaffirming [29:54]
• Motherhood is a rite of passage — go slow, be gentle [35:32]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Find more from Jess:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessosie/

Website: https://www.jessosie.com/

Are you pregnant, postpartum, or a parent --- and are also trying to keep an intimate relationship alive? This episode is for you.

Here we cover one of the topics people ask me about the most - what changes in your intimacy once a little one arrives?

In short, everything.

In this episode, I break the conversation down into 3 phases - pregnancy, early postpartum days, and toddlerhood & beyond - and share the major challenges I hear from couples in each of these phases.

Then I share 5 powerful ways you can keep the spark alive with your partner, even as you navigate the turbulent and awe-inspiring waters of parenthood.

Key Topics:

• The changes and challenges to sex and intimacy in pregnancy [2:18]
• The pleasant (sexy!) surprises about intimacy during pregnancy [6:05]
• Rediscovering each other after the baby is born [6:47]
• Allowing space for your partner’s erotic needs after giving birth [8:47]
• Keeping the spark alive as new parents [10:03]
• Resentment is a wet blanket for intimacy [11:37]
• Parenthood as an initiation to deepening and expanding your intimacy [12:26]
• 5 tangible shifts you can make to keep the spark alive [14:52]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Have you heard the news? We’re expecting baby #2! 

James & I are planning to welcome a little boy to our family in February 2024. We’re so excited. 

In this life update episode I share all - how I knew it was time to conceive, our intimate conception story, finding out I was pregnant, and the way we surprised our family with the news. 

I also open up about fears and desires for this second journey through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum - as well as the challenges I’m anticipating. 

Lastly, I share how James and I are preparing our relationship to weather the storms of having more children - and how we’re continuing to deepen into parenthood together. 

If you’re interested in hearing about my first birth story, you can listen to that episode here: 

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/my-birth-story-of-lila/id1498731180?i=1000569846244

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/57NraRCfBZQFtSlu8z2ymH?si=8d11a34372f14fb3 

Key Topics:

• How I knew it was time for baby #2 [1:32]
• Navigating my complex feelings around a new pregnancy [4:05]
• Sharing the news with family in-person as a highlight of our wedding  [7:27]
• The differences in the first trimester between baby #1 and baby #2 [8:14]
• Breaking ground on The Sanctuary right after conceiving [13:09]
• Expectations vs. Reality of the second pregnancy [15:11]
• Hopes and fears for the portal of pregnancy, birth, and rebirth [16:40]
• Planning for another post-birth family cocoon [19:00]
• Anticipating new needs for structure and support in our relationship post-birth [19:00]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

Have you ever struggled with a “low libido”? It can feel so isolating, especially in a relationship, where your partner may be looking to you for their erotic satisfaction. 

In this episode, with renowned French sexologist Camille Bataillon, we unravel what “low libido” really means - and what to do about it. 

We often talk about “low libido” as if it is an individual problem - but the truth is, when you’re in a partnership, “low libido” is a relational challenge of mismatched desire.

So how do you address conflicting desires and needs, sexually? 

How do you uncover what you really want and nourish your erotic self?

How do you take responsibility for your own erotic satisfaction and then share it with a partner?

We cover all of these juicy topics in this episode. We hope it serves you in your journey towards more fulfilling sex, juicy desires, and closer partnership! 

Key Topics:

• Taking the shame out of libido mismatches [1:15]
• Finding a balance and setting expectations without judgment [6:08]
• Communication comes first [11:25]
• How to avoid therapy as a last-resort relationship saver [12:32]
• Your libido isn’t broken — Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire [14:23]
• Nourishing your erotic self through learning about your libido [17:48]
• How parenthood shifts libido, desires, and the way we communicate about them [27:39]
• Making love makes love — 240 different reasons to have sex [33:22]

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Learn more about Camille at https://www.camillebataillon.com/ or connect with her on Instagram @camilleparlesexe.  

If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What leads to the spark dying down? How can you stoke the fire and bring back the flame - in a fun and playful way? 

In this episode, I share a sample story of a couple who’s passion and romance faded over time… and the specific ways James & I helped them revive the spark. 

One of the main ways we help couples is by bringing the play back into intimacy, predominantly through games. Intimacy games help couples feel on the same team, be open minded to discover each other, and communicate what they like. 

Here I share 3 of my favorite games for couples who want to reignite and rediscover each other intimately. Each game takes 10 min or less - but can radically shift your erotic life. 

Let me know how the games go afterwards via email ([email protected]) or via Instagram (@megandlambert). Wishing you a fun and playful exploration with your partner!

Key Topics:

• Acknowledging relationship loops that stand in the way of intimacy [1:09]
• The unspoken void of intimacy disconnect - and how to shift it [6:18]
• Game #1 - Kiss Me Like This [8:55]
• Game #2 - A/B Testing [11:52]
• Game #3 - The Desire Game [15:46]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

What actually happens at a couples retreat?! Who goes to a retreat? What do people learn?

In this episode, my husband James Mattingley and I share about our most recent couples’ retreat in Bali. This was the third couples retreat we’ve hosted together, and like each one so far, it was full of lessons for ourselves and for the couples. 

We talk about the type of people who attend couples’ retreats, what these couples were looking for, and some of the surprising twists and turns this retreat took. 

We shared our favorite topics and a-ha moments from the retreat, from the myth of low libido to a body-based approach to navigating conflict in relationships, as well as one of the key skills we teach - how to spark the passion in long-term love. 

I hope you find this episode useful! If you’d like to join us on a future retreat, our next one is Dec 1-4th, 2023 in Bali. You can find more info on it here: www.integratedintimacy.co/retreat. 

Key Topics:

• The type of people that attend couples retreats (hint: it’s not what you think!) [1:07]
• Learning to have healthy conflict and embrace big truths [3:17]
• Increasing attraction and sensuality in partnership [7:06]
• How to create polarity on demand [9:21]
• Busting the myth of low libido [11:29]
• Having grace for our humanity [12:27]
• What James & I learn by teaching together [16:43]

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!