Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About

Sh!t You Don’t Want to Talk About is back with Shit2TalkAbout for Season 3. In this solo episode host Jenn Junod talks about audacity, why there was a big gap between seasons two and three, and what to expect with the new season.

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Shit2TalkAbout: Healing in Parenting

Evie’s Shit2TalkAbout: I am a parent coach and positive discipline educator. So my passion is really to help families upcycle their dysfunction. So whatever we came into parenting with, I help them kind of shed all that shit and then learn new tools so they can transform their legacy, um, and not pass on dysfunction and, um, toxic behavior.

So rad, and so to recap, it's like getting rid of the inherited habits that we don't like about our parents or are not serving us now that so many are in parenthood themselves. Exactly, exactly. Like I think most people don't want to parent as their parents parented them, but they don't know how to do it differently.

So there's kind of this gap, this like no man's land of, okay, I don't wanna do that. And so sometimes parents swing to the other extreme and become super passive if their parents were really strict. And it doesn't solve the problem. It just creates difference. So I help parents navigate a really healthy, emotionally healthy, and stable connection with themselves and their kid's long term so they can build a foundation that is, um, healthy, emotionally healthy for future generations.

Gratitude: I am grateful for all of the people who came before me. To do this work that now I can build on what they've created and pass it on to more and more people out there. So, um, cause if there were, if there weren't people who were already doing this work for years and years, I wouldn't be where I am today because I've learned so much from the people I've read from, from mentors, from other trainers and coaches.

So I'm just very grateful. To for their journey and what they chose to do so that I can take it and take the next steps.

About Evie:

• creativeparentingsolutions.com

I became empowered when I focused on my own behavior instead of my child's behavior. When I realized my household was transforming by simply shifting how I responded rather than reacted to misbehavior, I felt on top of the world! I couldn’t believe how impactful my own mindset, communication style, and beliefs around parenting had negatively impacted my experience as a mom.

In essence, I chose to rebel against traditional parenting methods and instead created a revolutionary parenting model that brought organic connection, respect, trust, and peace into our home.

Today, I help parents and teachers embrace shame-free discipline to help children become resilient, confident and emotionally intelligent.

My specialties include:

Parents of strong-willed children seeking shame-free discipline tools. Blended families struggling to address misbehavior in their homes. Parents who want to break free from the shame-filled generational parenting patterns they grew up with. Educators and schools to help bring shame-free discipline into the classroom. Groups, organizations, and communities wanting to learn shame-free communication tools for staff and children.

Evie’s Words of Wisdom:

Empathy

Validation

Imagination

Encouragement

And it actually spells my name. I didn't mean for it to do that, but it, it just does. So it's e v I. and it's empathy, validation, imagination, and encouragement. So this is something, I mean, this is kind of at the core of everything that I teach, but until we show empathy to ourselves and to kids and put ourselves in our kids' shoes, like we're completely missing the boat and we won't be able to connect with them.

So empathy is so huge. It's the, it's. The starting point of creating connection. Um, and then the validation, that's, that's a huge part too, because so much of the time we just disregard a child's behavior or their, their feelings and think, oh, they're making way too bad. You know, they're making a big deal out of nothing.

They really want whatever the toy shark target, and they're just throwing a fit because they. Without realizing that child really wants that thing and there's nothing wrong with wanting. And so what you can do is just validate. You really want the toy shark, you're super excited about the toy shark. You wish you had that toy shark so you can like validate their experience.

And oftentimes kids just want to want to be seen and heard, and they'll be like, yeah, that's what I want. And then you can go into the imagination piece and that's where you kind of, um, tie in some playful parenting techniques and um, you know, ask them questions. Well, if you could have any shark in the world, how big would your shark be?

And would you wanna swim with your shark in the pool? Like, would it be nice and sweet? You know, and just kind of get into their imagination. And then encouragement, ending it with encouragement. It's a huge piece of positive discipline where we're encouraging from the inside out. Um, and it's different than praise.

Praise is all about, external encouragement is about internal. So encouraging kids to do better and to be better from the inside out, but not to do it to get the carrot to do it, because that's the kind of person they. Um, and so use encouragement, um, in a lot of positive ways to help them feel better because children will do better when they feel better.

And we work the same way. When we feel better, when we feel our best, we're usually doing pretty well. When we're discouraged, we're usually really grumpy. And it's the same thing with kids. So, um, that's just a simple four step formula that hopefully your, your listeners can take and use it with themselves and with their own kids.

Um, it's been a really powerful tool in my own life with my kids. I use it all the time.

Shit2TalkAbout: How tech relates to intersectionality between race and neurodiversity

Gratitude: I'm grateful to you, Jenn, for giving me the space to talk about this and to, sharing your own story about like the impact that my words had on you and your journey that makes it feel very worth it to kind of, expose myself on a regular basis.

About Wesley:

Wesley Faulkner is a first-generation American, public speaker, and podcaster. He is a founding member of the government transparency group Open Austin and a staunch supporter of racial justice, workplace equity, and neurodiversity. His professional experience spans technology from AMD, Atlassian, Dell, IBM, and MongoDB. Wesley co-hosts the developer relations-focused podcast Community Pulse and serves on the board for SXSW.

• Office Hours: https://ko-fi.com/wesley83/
• Mastodon: https://hachyderm.io/@wesley83
• Polywork: https://www.polywork.com/wesley83

I am sure you will join me in thanking Matt for sharing after listening to his motivating and enlightening interview. Matt speaks from a humble and transparent place as he walks us through his regrets, challenges and relationships that have helped shaped his recovery. You won't want to miss his story about his girlfriend and the "cider schedule." He talks us through what it took to get past that and to win the argument against his "addict brain." Matt tackles having to ask himself that familiar question most all of us have faced at some point, "Do I have to change my friends now?" If you have ever known someone who has struggled with alcohol, you can understand how some alcohol is "less dangerous." The struggle was so real, Matt wants to inspire others through his story and encourage them to get help and claim freedom from addiction. Maybe you don't struggle with addiction, but you know someone who does, and they may need for you to "call them out."

Matt Gardiner is a passionate and empathetic Recovery Coach & Life Coach who has helped numerous people get out of their 'stuck stories' and move towards the life of their dreams.He focuses on changing the language & words, and the stories you've been attaching to the events in your life. Better words + better breathing = better life. Matt's vision of Recovery includes an active and healthy lifestyle, that also includes planning for some very deliberate, relaxing downtime for self-care and healing. Matt is also a gifted musician and Sound Therapist, which compliments his work as a Coach.'Beyond Recovery' is a podcast hosted by Matt, where guests come on to share their journeys to, and through, recovery.

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After listening to Season 1 Ep 35 Shit2TalkAbout: Exploring Mental Health, you may want to dig deeper into anxiety, ocd, and related conditions. This is where you can do that!

Brianna takes us through that deeper dive, the gold standard, evidence based treatment for ocd and anxiety which is exposure and response prevention.

Brianna’s work has included a diverse range of populations starting with community mental health and residential treatment. Her current goal is to continue treating people living with OCD and to help educate the communities that she comes from and have experience working with in the importance of attending to your mental health. Brianna is a native New Yorker from the Bronx. She loves the community that she comes from as it has largely shaped who she is today. As someone who has personally struggled on a journey with her own mental health, it is important to her to break the generational and cultural stigma of going to therapy and just generally focusing on one's mental health. Educating and normalizing the necessity of taking care of your mental health is a driving force in Brianna’s everyday practice.

So, hello beautiful humans. What is Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About ? And that means I am reading this off the website cuz I worked really, really hard up for this. So this is what I'm reading together.

We turn Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About into Shit2TalkAbout. We stand to use the privilege we inherited to break the bullshit society has created to limit those who don't fit into a preconceived. We have witnessed discrimination and systemic issues. We stand to give a platform for those who have been silenced.

We stand to bring clarity to topics that scare us. We use our curiosity to lean into discomfort, bring light to the darkness of shame that so many of us hide behind. We create a space for each human to show up as they are. We embrace that. Your story is your story, and my story is my story. We create boundaries.

Take risk. Forgive ourselves, forgive others. Live with gratitude and choose to live outside our comfort zone. We all have trauma, but we, we work together. We can be the best versions of ourselves. We vow to be kind to you, to hear you, to see you to be present. For I finally read it. Yay. Expression will be like, Well, cool, Like that tells us a lot.

But Jenn, why are you doing this? So yes, again, reading off the website because it has my bio of, um, Jenn has a story of her own as a child. She suffered solitary confinement, physical abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse, rape, divorce, abortion, cutting in suicide. Her turbulent background has forged a path to help those who are suffering ignored and silenced.

Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About is a place people can come to find hope and healing, to know they're not alone, and finally be heard. Clearly, Jenns been through plenty of shit. Most people don't even want to acknowledge, let alone talk about. She thought she'd been dealt with her [00:03:00] past, but brain surgery in November, 2020 unleashed a tsunami of memories that couldn't be.

Working through trauma, depression, anxiety, bipolar type to you and adhd will be a lifelong journey. Will be a lifelong journey. Jenn strives to break the stigma of Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About and turn it into Shit2TalkAbout. Yay. Done with tablet. Yes. . I know there haven't been many episodes. Oh gosh.

And since June, and this is coming out on November or, Yeah, so four months. Uh, couple things happened is I realized how difficult it is to do this project by. A lot of it has to do with, I no longer have a marketing team that I'm working with. It has a lot to do with the fact that I started a different show.

Um, it's very weird to me because [00:04:00] they, these two shows are very, um, symbiotic. I'm not sure what the word is, but where they work together in unison. The new show is called Teach Gentech and it's where I have people come onto the show and teach me all about all this tech stuff and it's so intriguing and tech really helps create human connection.

And at the same time, I started that show. Not having a marketing team or a team in general for Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About , it became very, very overwhelming. The podcast, I like to call it, I have a podcast and then I have a stream. So the podcast was, is very, very emotional. It can be very traumatic.

It is very, Emotionally draining and invigorating at the same time, and I have a very, very difficult time going and listening to something and being like, This is [00:05:00] the title of it, or this is the description of it when it comes to these. Difficult conversations where with Teach Gentech, it's a very logical conversation.

It is black and white. It is, you know, I'm gonna be talking about computer things and computer people will understand it, and non-computer people will ask me none computery questions about it, where there's. It's like the podcast is like all the shit in between. And while I've been on break, I guess you could say, uh, of Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About .

I started a. Twitter space, uh, which is, um, about mental health and neurodiversity in tech for those who have never, um, who don't use the Twitters or been on a Twitter space. It's basically a chat room where [00:06:00] only x amount of people can, uh, be on stage to talk and everyone else has to listen. So it, it really is like an audio version of being on stage and.

I've been able to help grow a community there. And so the podcast has still been living, and yet it's not because I have episodes to post yet, I've been, But Jenn, all of the social media and the titles and everything, what are you doing? And I've gotten so overwhelmed that I'm just like, I'll just do the stuff I know I'm doing and that is why the podcast has been on pause for so long.

The reason I'm wanting to share an update now after it's been four months is it has been two years since my craniotomy. Which for those who don't know a craniotomy is brain surgery. I [00:07:00] had multiple or oid cys on my brain. I still do. They're kind of like, you can think of them as like little balls of fluid.

And in 2020, November, 2020. My surgeon, I like to say he created a river in my brain. So my cyst was a lake and there's where bla brain fluid naturally is, I consider the ocean. And my surgeon created a scar tunnel, and that's what I call a river. And that happened two years ago, which led up to me starting the podcast in November, 2021, which that's been a year.

Little over a year because I'm meant to have this go out last week, but I got sick so it's coming out this week instead. And there's been a lot of learning and changes and growth and life that has just come up, [00:08:00] uh, in the fact of almost the until June of. 22. It was a lot of like helping my father-in-law out.

It was a lot of finding my own voice. It was, I had surgery that year. I've been looking for a job. It's been like all these little things that, this passion project of mine, I'm just like, Oh, I can't do it. And a lot of it was because it felt like I didn't have the support, even though people were wondering where it was.

It was like, I didn. I wasn't asking for the help that I needed in my little love box. A lot of it had to do with because I didn't know what help to ask for. It's the social media. It's the podcast going out. It's paying attention to numbers and YouTube and Patreon and gear, and. [00:09:00] It just got also overwhelming that I am finally saying my favorite thing to say, which is, Fuck it.

Uh, I don't care if there's social media for it. We're just gonna be putting out the podcast. And if you're on Twitter, you might get an alert that it came out because these stories are worth being told. And if others are out there and want to share it, it at least is there and eventually one day. I will get to a place where I can focus on social media as well.

We being me, being all the listeners, being those who have been a guest on the show, we could really, really use your help. You can contribute and Patreon, you can also contribute on our PayPal. It's definitely something. If you have spare time and you like social media, you know, come be our social media person.

Uh, if you want to get access to the podcast a little early [00:10:00] and write up descriptions and title the episode, let me know. It's something that I also am totally open to a cohost or somebody else doing the behind the scenes. Like this isn't just my journey. Yes, this is right now I'm doing. Mostly solo, yet I'm not doing it for myself.

I want others to have access and hear these stories that are being silenced, so that way we are.

We're not just stuck in our little bubbles. We, we have access to those who don't look like us or may not be like us, that have, don't have stories like us, because our shame tells us there's no one going through this like we are. Yet. Our stories show that there are, whether or not we're the same color, size, shape, sex, gender, whatever you [00:11:00] wanna call it.

We all have dealt with that shame in some part, and that's when I'm asking for support, is to help share those stories. Not to specifically help me, but help the podcast. Two ways to get in touch with the podcast is on all social medias. It is shit, the number two. Talk about and it is that way because we need to all work on changing things from Sh!t You Don't Want to Talk About into Shit2TalkAbout.

And we are that on LinkedIn, Twitter, not Twitch, cuz it doesn't have a twist. Um, Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, it's, we're on all the platforms. Twitch, but you know, if we ever wanna do some live stuff, hit me up. Let's do it. And we can be on Twitch too.[00:12:00]

Hello beautiful Human! I am alive, thank you all for your love and support. There will not be an episode airing September 7 and September 14. I look forward to being with all of you again on September 21 byyyyye 😘😘😘

As a world-record-holding strongwoman, personal growth expert Kathryn Bennett is an 40 under 40 award winner, celebrated speaker and advocate for developing mental toughness. With a background in change management and Lean Six Sigma process improvement, Kathryn's professional career spans industries including tech, healthcare, and engineering/construction. Kathryn used the mental fortitude and tenacity she learned in the gym to more than quintuple her income in a five-year span, working from an entry-level process improvement role into a director position. Kathryn is a Certified Professional Services Marketer and is nationally ranked as a strongwoman competitor. She is passionate about helping her clients develop the mental tenacity and internal strength they need to succeed, no matter the adversity they're facing.

Chenoa Murray Daniels is a Performance Poet, Author, and the Founder of Daniels Day Publishing & Consulting. While serving in the U.S. Peace Corps as an HIV/AIDS Health Volunteer in South Africa, Chenoa wrote her inaugural poetry book “Whites Only”. Her book was recently accepted by the Gauteng Department of Education to distribute in public school libraries in South Africa. A portion of the book proceeds benefit Limehill village, where she lived and worked for two years with the Zulu people. Chenoa has performed her poetry in-person and in virtual venues including the Fringe Benefits Theatre (Los Angeles, California), the International Centre for Women Playwrights, the "I Am Free Music Festival" (Sandy Springs, Georgia), the Social Security Administration (Atlanta, Georgia), Bushfire Festival of Swaziland, and Mama's Jus' Jazzin' of Durban, South Africa. Chenoa is a member of the American Writers & Artists Institute and she is the Director of the African American Teen Authors Book Program. Chenoa believes that you can BREAK THE SKY with the purpose God gave you for your life!

Our differences and our similarities converging together develops our unique blueprint. That right there is our superpower that no one else can replicate or duplicate. We should all be aware of it, talk about it and celebrate it. This is the premise of the work that I do. Children are the future of the world and with having conversations about our world, its diversity, and their role in it helps us all build a world that is truly inclusive and equitable.