Thoughts on Thoughts

In this episode, KJ reads the story, "What Bobby McIlvaine Left Behind" which was written by Jennifer Senior for The Atlantic. This is a true story about the McIlvaine family who lost Bobby McIlvaine (beloved son, brother and soon to be fiance) when he was killed the morning of 9/11/2001. This story illustrates how grief can be processed so differently for each individual. Bobby's mother shut out Bobby's girlfriend, Jen, when Jen refused to let her see Bobby's last diary. Jen became a shell of a person and refused to give up the diary- what was in the diary that made it so difficult for her to part with? Bobby's father became well known in some circles for his ideas about 9/11 being an "inside job" and Bobby's brother was wracked with survivor's guilt. So where are they now after processing their grief for two decades? Listen in to see how one event can be processed so differently by individuals and how grief can take on many forms. 

Original story can be found here: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2021/09/twenty-years-gone-911-bobby-mcilvaine/619490/

In this episode we talk about secondary trauma- what is it, how can you know if you are experiencing it and what you can do to heal it. We packed this short episode full of information and we hope you find it helpful! 

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Why has Jessica been living in the hospital for two months? She tells us all about it in this episode! Dealing with unexpected, difficult news and dealing with things she can't control has been a huge part of Jessica's infertility journey. In this episode you will hear her discuss how she is dealing with some big unknowns currently. We hope you love hearing her story and be sure to ask her any questions you may have on our social media or our e-mail! 

Infertility Journey Part 1 Episode- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thoughts-on-thoughts/id1437728376?i=1000429371502

Part 2 Episode- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thoughts-on-thoughts/id1437728376?i=1000531525777

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In this episode, we hear from Jessica about how her infertility journey is going. We talked to her for the first time about this back in 2019 (episode is linked below if you want to start there) and it is very evident that Jessica has worked hard on healing emotionally through this process. She breaks down for us how she has processed the reality of being sterile, how she has navigated her grief and how she deals with secondary emotions. Let's hope Jessica records a part 3 because I don't want to spill the tea yet but...things have continued to be a rollercoaster for her! 

Infertility Journey Part 1 Episode- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thoughts-on-thoughts/id1437728376?i=1000429371502

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In this episode we are answering some listener questions! The focus is mainly on navigating relationships through breakups, setting boundaries, non-traditional addictions and social media. Enjoy! 

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If you are feeling overwhelmed by clutter or wanting to change something in your living space to feel better, listen to this episode for a motivation boost! We chatted with Lisa, professional organizer/minimalist/KonMari Consultant about how decluttering can act like therapy. She shared with us how tidying can lower stress and anxiety levels and gave us some helpful tips on how to go about the tidying process in a way that will have a ripple effect on your whole life. We love this episode and hope you will too!

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KonMari category checklist: http://bit.ly/konmari-checklist-free

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We'll be the first to say that setting healthy boundaries can be really hard and it takes practice! In this episode we discuss how to know when boundaries are needed in a relationship, how to set them, and what to do if the reaction to a boundary being set is not what you were hoping for. Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries so it is important to learn how to do this and we hope our discussion gives you some tips!

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Here it is, the episode full of our best advice for parenting teens. So much physical and emotional development happens in the teen years which can lead to mood swings, unpredictable behavior and major boundary pushing. This is normal but can be a strain on the parent-child relationship so we are here to help! If you have additional questions please drop us an e-mail or send us a DM! 

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Here it is, the episode full of our best advice for parenting teens. So much physical and emotional development happens in the teen years which can lead to mood swings, unpredictable behavior and major boundary pushing. This is normal but can be a strain on the parent-child relationship so we are here to help! If you have additional questions please drop us an e-mail or send us a DM! 

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Jessica takes over hosting this week's episode and teaches us all about how to make healthy, meaningful friendships as an adult. As you listen to this episode you may think, "Wow, Jessica seems to have a lot of friends." Well she does and it's because she truly implements all of the things she is going to teach you in this episode in her own life. If you have been feeling alone and friendless, tune in and take some action steps from this episode and change that!

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