Coffee with a Therapist

Let's be real. 2020 has been challenging, stressful, and eye-opening for us all. With all of the bad stuff, there is opportunity for growth and beautiful things. In the meantime, many of us our still in the thick of "all the feelings" and it's important we are connected to self-grace and resources. Here's an honest recap of compassion fatigue and how to give ourselves some grace during these uncertain and stressful times (although often the growth is necessary, we must be resourced to grow).

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In today's #coffewithatherapist, we are talking about 3 commonly misunderstood or demonized emotions that I see time-and-time again in the therapy room.

Tune in to learn more about the positives and usefulness of these emotions and why they are so important we don't simply "bury" them or pretend they don't exist.

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In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are discussing the boundary of no longer guessing if others are upset, annoyed, angry or disappointed with us. I discuss the importance of this boundary for our own emotional health/energy and the emotional health of the other person who struggles to express their anger in a healthy way.

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In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are delving into the topic of masculinity with Andrew Jamison, LPC. We discuss how masculinity shows up in therapy, it's historical context in American culture (and the "silent soldier"), and both the strengths and weaknesses of our current cultural views of masculinity.

Masculinity is present in and impacts both genders. Femininity has strengths and weaknesses as well. We also talk about WHY it's important that people are in touch with and able to talk about their own emotions.

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In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we talk about parentified children and how to heal the ways they are in relationships as a response to their early childhood (if unresolved).

You may have been parentified if a parental figure relied on you for their emotional, financial, or physical support. This may also be the case if a caregiver relied on you to take care of other siblings, or if you ended up being the emotional go-to or listener in your family.

As a result, in adulthood and romantic relationships you may overly function for others, seek partners who aren't emotionally mature/independent, and feel resentment that others ultimately don't give to you in the ways you give to others.

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9's can space out and forget to do things -- don't take it too personally. They enjoy slowing things down with their partners and simply "hanging out".

The best way to connect with 9's is to approach them with calm and meet them at their level of peace. 9's bring big picture perspective to their partners, are great listeners, and engage them in looking at "the simple things in life". However, it's also important that we listen TO them as well and honor the times they do look into their personal wants, needs, and emotions.

Nines are incredibly passionate about fairness. They do their best to avoid "conflict" and are more likely to withdraw or be passive-aggressive when they are angry. If you see this behavior, try to connect with them and let them know that you are there for them. See if you can find something that feels fair for both of you and that their opinion matters. .

Nines may have a hard time setting boundaries, and instead build up internal resentment (unintentionally) toward their partners. As their loved one, it helps to set boundaries with them and encourage them to do the same. Nines can also need help with feeling supported and encouraged with getting out of their comfort zone.

Those in relationship with a nine, often feel valued and supported by their partner, but can struggle with wanting their partner to speak up for themselves. As peacemakers, they add a lot of calm and grounding to the naturally more amped up types of the enneagram.
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Today on #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about Type 8 of the enneagram in relationships!

8's like to be in control and have high energy. They are easily goaded into competitions and a non-competitive partner might be annoying to the strong-willed 8. However, a partner who has enough of an edge to stand up to an 8, but enough agreeability to let the 8 have strong opinions without being offended will be an ideal partner.

8's can struggle with not wanting to show or admit any "weaknesses", which can lead to a lot of defensive arguing. 8's arguments can cut like knifes when they aren't acting in self-awareness. If your partner is an 8, it's best to understand their aggressiveness as their means of trying to maintain a sense of control and power vs. as a direct threat to the relationship.

When in a healthy space, 8's can be the fun, spicy, opinionated significant other who can also act as a great leader. When 8's have a strong purpose they believe in, they will do what it takes to support that purpose and can use their nature for movement and good in the world. Using their energy and zest for constructive projects and constructive relationship goals make them wonderful partners who provide energy, direction, and life to their relationships and the world around them.
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Yay for 7's -- I'm totally biased here as a type 7 and I will be vulnerable and state that I can relate to both the good and bad parts of being a 7 (even the embarrassing commitment part).

If you want any further clarification, don't hesitate to message me, and I'm happy to share what might be helpful.

Type 7's in love: You are high energy, spontaneous, and love to try new things and have experiences. When healthy, they bring positivity, joy, and gratitude to their relationships that permeates even the gloomiest of people. They bring good conversation and positivity to their romantic partners.
On the downside, they do not like being tied-down to routines, empty commitments, or rules that don't make sense. This can look like struggling with FOMO about other relationship partners or experiences and struggling with commitment to their partner. They hate to feel as if they are limiting their life in any way, and sometimes this leaks into how they feel about their relationship partners.

7's can also struggle with impatience, and wanting their relationship to be more complete and developed than it really is. Learning patience with life and relationships unfolding over time is CRUCIAL for the 7.

Lastly, 7's can be a bit impulsive with what they say which can be problematic in the heat of an argument. This can lead to their partner being hurt or not trusting their words if they come back to correct their original version with their more-thought out and often more truthful version.

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Today on #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about type 6 in relationships! And I share that you can see my funny short videos on the different types on my instagram @jennyannhelms -- check it out if you want something silly in your day.

Enneagram type 6 in love:
6's desire to feel secure and seek to gain that security through their loyalty in relationships. They are good at working toward building strong, lasting, and stable relationships and value trustworthiness, although they can often struggle to trust others and loved ones at first.
6's when not in a healthy state, may project their own feelings (both positive and negative) onto others. Clear statement of your position

They identify problem areas -- don't deny them.

In relationships they are known for making balanced, thought-out decisions, they are dedicated to working through the hard stuff, and unwavering loyalty. However, they can bother some types romantically because they can take a long time to make decisions and even avoid them (as they go back and forth in their heads), and they have a hard time letting go of unhealthy relationships,

They work best with those who show appreciation for them and their loyalty, who remain calm, who are positive focused, not afraid of owning the problems in the relationship, and trustworthy.

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In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about type 5's, the observer, in relationships.
Type 5 in love: Observers need a partner who won't try to force them to go out to places they hate: crowded parties, loud environments or basically anything requiring a lot of social interaction.


You will also prefer someone who is a good listener, as you'll get irritated with having to repeat yourself. It takes a LOT of effort for you to put your thoughts into words in the first place.


When you are feeling uncomfortable in social settings, others may perceive you as being "aloof" or as judging them, but really it's your anxiety that keeps you quiet.


You need time and space to process your emotions so you'll need a partner who respects that and allows you that time and space. Just make sure to communicate that need to them so they don't see it as rejection.


If you don't know what your number is, you can do the Rheti short version via http://www.9types.com/rheti/index.phpor the long version through the Enneagram institute.
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