Enjoying Your Blended Family
by Randall & Scarlett TandyWelcome to Enjoying Your Blended Family! We bring new episodes every Monday and Friday. Mondays are on hot topics in blended families and Fridays are all about fun ideas you can do with your blended family. This podcast is all about strengthening your blended family relationships and having more fun, giving you hope and encouragement so everyone is enjoying the journey together.
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Episodes
231. How to Enjoy Your Blended Family (Prep Work)
29m · PublishedWe want you to have your best Summer yet with your blended family this year, whether that be with your whole family or strengthening the relationships you have access to. We know how it feels to be cut off from those you love.
Over the next 5 weeks, we will post the videos that come straight from the E.N.J.O.Y the Journey Ultimate Guide which goes along with our book How to Enjoy Your Blended Family.
This first video is just an introduction and breaks down what you will need. So take a moment to listen in and check out the resources available so you’ll have them when needed.
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Private Facebook Group
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Enjoy the Journey Resource Workbook
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E.N.J.O.Y. Prayers and Script
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5 Family Games
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Fridge Calendar
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Family Scripture
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230. Your Thoughts Can Destroy Your Stepfamily
1h 12m · PublishedI found some old videos from a challenge I did with a group of ladies in 2020 about taking our thoughts captive. This concept changed my life. The information is so valuable, that I wanted to share it with you. It’s set up as a 5-day challenge so feel free to listen to it day-by-day or all at once. The key is putting these things to use.
Day 1: Take Your Thoughts Captive Challenge
Let's get started with Day 1. Some of these things may take you out of your comfort zone or seem insignificant, trust me, do them anyway. If you are ready for a change, it's time to do something different. If you missed last night's email, go back and read it and watch that video before this one. It lays the groundwork for today. If it takes you longer to complete, take your time and work at your own pace.
1. Find 10-20 minutes to brain dump.
2. Spend 20-30 minutes quietly listening to God's direction.
3. Journal any thoughts from your quiet time.
Day 2: Learn to sit and listen.
1. Find a place in your house that is quiet and where you will have privacy.
2. Sit and listen to the meditation video. Do your very best to follow the breaths and clear your mind. But if you find your mind wandering, mentally take note of what your thoughts are focusing on.
3. Journal your experience, good and bad. Things you noticed.
4. Pay attention to what you listen to today and how much time you spend filling your head with this stuff (Music, TV, Social media, other people) Write it down when you can.
Day 3: Discover your weaknesses. Own your mistakes. Recognize Triggers.
1. Write down areas of your life you feel like a failure.
2. Ask God to show you where you have made mistakes so that you can take ownership of them. Ask God to show you why you feel this way and what triggers you.
3. I want to introduce you to my favorite meditation podcast, it combines meditation, scripture, and prayer. You can find it on your podcast app under Cultivate Connections or use this link,
4. Take a mental note of anything that comes to mind.
5. Journal your experience, good and bad. Did God reveal anything to you?
Have you noticed what your triggers are?
6. Look at your list and ask yourself why you think you feel like a failure in these areas. This won't be solved in a day, but keep asking.
Day 4: Find truth. Stop taking yourself so seriously. Have Fun!
1. Write down areas in which you feel like you have succeeded.
2. Find a quiet place in your house where you will have privacy. Do the first 14ish minutes of "Recognize" Yoga with Adriene. Then pause and be quiet. (If you prefer Cultivate Connection, do that)
3. Journal your experience. Did God reveal anything new today?
4. Take at least 15 minutes to replace some of the negative thoughts you have with truth from scripture. Place these truths where you can see them.
5. Today might seem like a silly exercise, but I think it is very important. Find time to have fun today. Make time to laugh with your family. Do something silly with them. Turn on music and dance around the house. Go outside and play tag or hide-n-seek.
6. When you make a mistake today, laugh at yourself, and move on.
Day 5: Recognize that this is not an emergency. Take it to God.
Discover your "Go-To" activity.
1. Continue the meditation practice, either the yoga video or Cultivate Connection meditation.
2. Journal your experience.
3. Practice gratitude. Name 1 thing from the day before that brought you joy. Write it down or say it out loud.
4. Learn to ask yourself "Is this an emergency?" Even when it feels like it is, it usually isn't. We can't practice this until a situation arises. Watch today's video so I can explain it better.
5. Today we find a new positive activity that you can turn to instead of reacting the same way you always have. You should have filled out your favorite activity in the survey before we started. How can you turn that into your new coping skill?
Take Your Thoughts Captive Recap
I know 5 days doesn't seem long enough to break a cycle you've been trapped in for a long time, but with God anything is possible. For me, it took a whole Summer to break this down. If during this process you find some issues go deeper than what you can handle on your own, I recommend finding a licensed therapist. There is no shame in talking to a professional and allowing their unbiased opinion to guide you in helping you heal.
Thank you for sticking with me over the last 5 Days. Check out this recap and let me know if this Take Your Thoughts Captive Challenge benefited you in any way by emailing me and letting me know. Love you! Scarlett Tandy
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HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
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229. Best Advice to a Single or Alienated Mom
1h 0m · PublishedIn this episode, I am sharing my best advice to a single mom or an alienated mom (someone who doesn't have contact with their children).
If you are in this season of life you are not alone.
Honestly, if you are an empty nester or struggling mom, this could help you too.
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HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love! OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8XZp8GxAJQaoqLygx (or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
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228. Jumpstart Your Relationship With Your Stepchild | Stepdaughter Chronicles
59m · PublishedDo you desire a relationship with your stepchild but don't know how or where to start? Maybe you have been rejected in the past and stopped trying. Even if your stepchild has nothing to do with you, check this out. Who knows maybe it's just what you need to turn things around.
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HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love! OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8X...
(or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
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227. Manipulation and Misunderstanding With Your Stepchild| Stepdaughter Chronicles
1h 9m · PublishedIs your stepchild being manipulative causing drama and division in your stepfamily, is it a misunderstanding, or is your child just hurting? In this episode, I will talk with my stepdaughter about her perspective.
EPISODE RESOURCES:
If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this…
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https://bfam.enjoyingyourblendedfamily.com/opt-in
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HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love!
OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family
https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8XZp8GxAJQaoqLygx
(or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
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226. Inside the Mind of Our Children on Transition Day | Stepdaughter Chronicles
54m · PublishedTransition Day is rough in a stepfamily. Many different factors cause that. Today I'm talking with my stepdaughter who is now 25 about her thoughts and feelings when she was transitioning from house to house as a child. We might not have all the "right" answers, but we hope it stirs up conversations in your house.
If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this…
STEPFAMILY JUMPSTART: WAYS TO CONNECT INSTANTLY
https://bfam.enjoyingyourblendedfamily.com/opt-in
EPISODE RESOURCES:
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HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love!
OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family
https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8XZp8GxAJQaoqLygx
(or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
Follow us on INSTAGRAM
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225: How Our Mood Swings Affect Our (Step) Mother/Daughter Relationships
1h 19m · PublishedToday Ryleigh (stepdaughter) and Scarlett (Stepmom) talk about menstrual cycles and how they affect mood, which puts a strain on their relationships. This was a hard conversation to have, because PMDD has taken Ryleigh down some dark roads, but we have seen God show up every time.
Follow Ryleigh and her musical journey on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTU0-Nd7DQXh_Bp4VEDEQXQ
Her newest album is filled with stories of growing up in a blended family.
If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this…
STEPFAMILY JUMPSTART: WAYS TO CONNECT INSTANTLY
https://bfam.enjoyingyourblendedfamily.com/opt-in
EPISODE RESOURCES:
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HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love!
OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family
https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8XZp8GxAJQaoqLygx
(or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
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224: Ways to Help Your Stepdaughter During Different Seasons of Blending | Stepdaughter Chronicles
51m · PublishedI have been getting messages lately from stepmoms asking how they can better support their stepdaughter during different seasons of life. Ironically Ryleigh (my stepdaughter) wrote a song about our stepmother/stepdaughter journey. I immediately asked her if we could discuss it on a podcast and if she would sing the song for you.
In this episode we discuss her feelings when her dad told her he was going to ask me to marry him, the dark season of her teen years, and our reconciliation period. She also shared what she wished we would have done differently.
Follow Ryleigh and her musical journey on youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTU0-Nd7DQXh_Bp4VEDEQXQ
Her newest album is filled with stories about growing up in a blended family.
If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this…
STEPFAMILY JUMPSTART: WAYS TO CONNECT INSTANTLY
https://bfam.enjoyingyourblendedfamily.com/opt-in
EPISODE RESOURCES:
GET OUT PASS Use code BFAM for 30% off
HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love!
OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family
https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8XZp8GxAJQaoqLygx
(or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
Follow us on INSTAGRAM
Join Our FACEBOOK GROUP
Check out our WEBSITE
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Contact: [email protected]
223: How it Makes You Feel When Your Parents Talk Crap About Each Other, Stepdaughter Chronicles
40m · PublishedMy stepdaughter has been in my life for 16 years. In the very beginning, our relationship was sweet. Then she quickly realized she wanted a life with just her and her dad and that didn't involve me. I tried my best to be who and what I thought she needed but it wasn't ever enough. It actually had the opposite effect.
Today our relationship is great. It didn't happen by chance though. I had to be willing to grow and she had to come to her own realization.
In this podcast, we will discuss how it makes the child feel when your parents talk crap about each other to you.
Follow Ryleigh and her musical journey on youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTU0-Nd7DQXh_Bp4VEDEQXQ
Her newest album is filled with stories growing up in a blended family.
If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this…
STEPFAMILY JUMPSTART: WAYS TO CONNECT INSTANTLY
https://bfam.enjoyingyourblendedfamily.com/opt-in
EPISODE RESOURCES:
GET OUT PASS Use code BFAM for 30% off
HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love!
OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family
https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8XZp8GxAJQaoqLygx
(or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
Follow us on INSTAGRAM
Join Our FACEBOOK GROUP
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Contact: [email protected]
222: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting With Jyl Barlow
1h 3m · Published222: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting With Jyl Barlow
One of my least favorite stepfamily comments is, “Well you knew what you were signing up for.” That’s like telling a new mom or dad, well you knew parenting was going to be hard so I don’t want to hear you complain about it.
In both situations, you do not know what to expect until you are living it out in real-time. Mostly because every situation is so unique just like every child is unique.
Now of course there are some common situations most stepfamilies face and this episode is full of them. I talked to Jyl Barlow from “What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting”. We discussed unrealistic expectations, chores, unsupportive grandparents, enjoying your time when your kids are gone, and the moments that make it all worth it.
In the episode, we discussed Jyl’s family's favorite activity and she mentioned, Universal Yums. Click the link to check it out with your family.
I also mentioned conversation cards from Make It a Date, grab them here.
Follow Jyl Barlow on Instagram
Grab your copy of What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting.
If you're tired of waiting for your "STEP" family to "BLEND" try this…
STEPFAMILY JUMPSTART: WAYS TO CONNECT INSTANTLY
EPISODE RESOURCES:
GET OUT PASS Use code BFAM for 30% off
HOW TO ENJOY YOUR BLENDED FAMILY: 5 Dates To Discover Fun In Your Step-Family, by the end of these 5 dates you will have a great plan and see more fun in your home, helping build stronger family connections and relationships, all while having more laughs and enjoyment as you make lasting memories together.
JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST, and get our FREE BLENDED FAMILY HANGOUT GUIDE today! We send out a weekly email on Friday mornings that is blended family specific; full of encouragement, support, and all of our latest information before anyone else hears about it. Join our B.Fam today!!!
If you would, SUBSCRIBE to this podcast, and also leave us a RATING & REVIEW so we can keep spreading the love!
OTHER PLACES YOU CAN FIND US!
PODCAST: Enjoying Your Blended Family
https://open.spotify.com/show/1f1Xx8XZp8GxAJQaoqLygx
(or you can find it wherever you listen to your podcast at)
Follow us on INSTAGRAM
Join Our FACEBOOK GROUP
Check out our WEBSITE
Subscribe to our YOUTUBE Channel
Follow us on PINTEREST
Contact: [email protected]
Enjoying Your Blended Family has 250 episodes in total of non- explicit content. Total playtime is 161:13:23. The language of the podcast is English. This podcast has been added on November 28th 2022. It might contain more episodes than the ones shown here. It was last updated on May 13th, 2024 15:42.
