Self Growth Is Hard

This episode gives tips and tricks on how to cope with the coronavirus pandemic in a way that protects your mental health. The episode discusses how we are absorbing information from misleading sources. It looks at the typical unhealthy thinking styles that we address this inaccurate data with and how they work to exacerbate our distress. We also look at how this unhelpful thinking results in problematic coping styles that are making the coronavirus situation worse. Additionally, we try and look at this situation from a more positive perspective and give some resources on how to find peace despite all the chaos. If you have any other topics you want me to cover feel free to send me a message on Instagram to @meg_carole.

This episode gives tips and tricks on how to cope with the coronavirus pandemic in a way that protects your mental health. The episode discusses how we are absorbing information from misleading sources. It looks at the typical unhealthy thinking styles that we address this inaccurate data with and how they work to exacerbate our distress. We also look at how this unhelpful thinking results in problematic coping styles that are making the coronavirus situation worse. Additionally, we try and look at this situation from a more positive perspective and give some resources on how to find peace despite all the chaos. If you have any other topics you want me to cover feel free to send me a message on Instagram to @meg_carole.

This is part 2 of a two part episode on how to maintain a more consistent level of motivation: 

Outline of the show-

1. Once we have accepted that we can’t keep chasing the highs of positive feedback without enduring the withdraws of no feedback or negative feedback, a void is left in how we motivate ourselves… and outside of negative feedback life is still hard and slows us down on the way to our goals.
   
2. So how do we motivate ourselves and endure the pain of hard moments that seems to be inevitable?
   
3. Go for your goal for the sake of your dharma.
   
4. What is dharma? Dharma is your higher calling, your purpose, your responsibility. It is the why that helps you endure  the difficulties of life and persist anyways.
   
5. How do I figure out my why?
   

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How to Find your Dharma Youtube:

https://youtu.be/CZupgyibMqo

Resources mentioned in this video:

Dr. K's YouTube Video about Dharma

If you want to have consistent motivation when trying to achieve a goal know these things:

1. Winners like Gary Vee and Tiger Woods are deaf to external feedback, positive or negative. Feedback can be affirmations from others or a birdy.
   
2. This makes sense because to our brain, feedback is a singular concept. It doesn’t distinguish between good or bad. Whatever weight  (e.g. emotional response) you put on the good you will therefore,  experience with the bad.
   
3. That means if you want to stop riding the motivation rollercoaster, you have to let go of getting excited about positive external feedback that indicates progression towards your goal when you are working towards that goal. You only get to get excited once you war is won, but not when you win a battle.
   
4. I know this sounds depressing, because it kind of is. But this is the goal for the week. When you notice you are getting emotionally engaged/excited about some positive feedback, stop yourself.  I made you a How To Kill Your Buzz infographic to keep is short. You can also look at the How to episode Podcast for this week or the How to episode Youtube as well. Let me know how it goes in the comments and subscribe to whatever you want.
   

Check back next week for the less depressing part 2 of this post.

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HOW TO: Kill Your Buzz, podcast episode

HOW TO: Kill Your Buzz, YOUTUBE episode

ALTERNATIVE VERSION OF THIS EPISODE

YouTube Version: 

Blog version/notes:

Self Growth Is Hard, The Blog

Here are a few of the resources I mentioned in the episode:

Gary Vee Stuff:

Book: The Thank You Economy.

Podcast Episode:  Overcoming Your Social Media Vulnerabilities (at 21:20)

If you do them right, relationships can act as mirrors that facilitate your growth. Listen to learn how. 

Self Growth is Hard is a podcast that is intended to challenge your thinking in a way that promotes your self growth. This self help podcast will help you grow professionally, personally, and in your relationships. It is hosted by Meg Carole, who is a Clinical Psychology Ph.D. Student. She specializes in intra-personal and inter-personal relationships and how they can impact your goal achievement and health.