Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective
by Jay Dee - Marriage EducatorAnswering questions about married sexuality and intimacy
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SWM 132 – Breast implants and body image issues
9m · PublishedSWM 132 - Breast implants and body image issues. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
This episode I'm answer a question I received back in February that I forgot to answer. Here's the question:
Hi! To start, I just wanted to say thank you so much for what you do! Your podcast has been immensely eye-opening and helpful! Now, to my question.
I am in my 30s, and my husband and I have been together for 15 years. There was porn use by my husband that nearly tore us apart, but after therapy, support groups and endless prayer, I am so thankful to say we are stronger than ever, and he has been porn free for over a year now. It has made a profound difference in our sex life, we feel more connected than ever.
That being said, internally, I am still struggling with body image issues. It is not all-consuming but it’s enough to bring me to this point. I have been considering breast augmentation for years now but kept putting it on the back burner due to pregnancy and breastfeeding (we have 3 children). I thought I was completely over the idea and just decided to fully accept my body as is until the porn addiction reared its ugly head. As I said, we are past that, and he has made amazing changes for himself and us, but knowing what he watched and the women he chose to view online has made the idea of breast augmentation appealing again.
I am not happy with what 6 years of breastfeeding has left me with. My husband says he loves my body the way it is, but I know I would love it MORE if I got the breast augmentation, and undoubtedly, I know he would too, even if he won’t admit it so as not to hurt my feelings.
My question is, do you think seeking a breast augmentation for selfish reasons would be sinful? Would God find that to be an abomination of sorts, a sinful act based on my lack of love towards my body? I know I would feel so much more confident. I truly would. And that would enhance our sex life due to my confidence alone. So, would it be a bad thing to do? I have flip-flopped on this for months now. Some days, I am certain it’s a sinful thing to desire and do, and other days, I’m certain that it does not fall in the category of actual sin. An outside perspective would be so helpful, and I’d appreciate it immensely.
I know I need to love the body I have, and I do. It’s the slight pains of the past and the desire to feel confident that entices me. Knowing there are verses in the Bible directly telling the man to love his woman’s beautiful breasts makes my heart drop because mine are anything but beautiful. They are used, tired, and barely there after years of sacrificing my body for our children. So, would making them more appealing really be a bad thing? Or would it be no different than purchasing a new sex toy and having fun in the bedroom as husband and wife? Thank you for your time.
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SWM 131 – Tips to fight more effectively
8m · PublishedSWM 131 - Tips to fight more effectively in your marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Last week, I shared a list of ideas our Couple’s Night group had that helped build a resilient marriage. At the end of the call, we still had some time and started discussing fighting more effectively. Again, the group came up with some excellent ideas I want to share today.
Because fights will happen, I might even say they should happen. When I come across a couple that doesn’t fight in any way - that’s a red flag. It means one or both don’t feel safe in the marriage. They aren’t able to express their views and opinions.
Because if you put two people together for long enough, they will eventually find something to disagree about.
Ideally, a fight won’t involve yelling, screaming, hitting, throwing, or anything else like that, but it’s okay to quarrel.
So, today, we will discuss how to fight more effectively in your marriage so that your arguments can be a source of growth instead of damage.
For more posts about dealing with conflict effectively check out:
- SWM 020 - 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage
- How to use conflict to create intimacy
- Active Listening
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SWM 130 – Building resiliency in marriage
9m · PublishedSWM 129 – AQ – Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more
15m · PublishedSWM 128 – Relationships require recalibration
13m · PublishedSWM 127 – AQ – Not interested in sex, are menu infatuated with ejaculate and many more questions
18m · PublishedSWM 126 – Unspoken Nuances of Understanding
7m · PublishedSWM 125 – Rethinking “Duty Sex”
15m · PublishedSWM 124 – My daughter’s speech – A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism
9m · PublishedSWM 123 – AQ – Enjoying anal sex, periods and vacation, aging and orgasms, fantasizing, and condoms for handjobs
15m · PublishedSex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective has 210 episodes in total of non- explicit content. Total playtime is 41:59:54. The language of the podcast is English. This podcast has been added on December 24th 2022. It might contain more episodes than the ones shown here. It was last updated on June 9th, 2024 09:46.