three siblings: surviving loss and finding hope

michele’s point of view

this episode is about michele's individual point of view as one of the three siblings. michele begins by sharing a quote, which has taught her how to process grief. seven years after the loss of her parents, michele has gained a more compassionate view of her younger self and the grief she experienced. she reflects on how she was not taught how to grieve properly and instead tried to appear unaffected. her attempt to mask her pain ultimately led her to a place of self-destruction, from which she had to rebuild. the conversation is a reminder of the importance of expressing grief in order to honor the ones we have lost. in the end, michele reflects on the importance of learning to love deeply and cherish every moment, despite the pain of death. she credits her siblings, tina and sunny, for understanding her and not judging her for her past. this has allowed her to appreciate the privilege of having conflict with someone living, as it is a gift in life.

trigger warning: this show discusses sensitive mental health topics.

episode timestamps

0:00:10 - loss and healing

0:01:19 - the passing of grandpa and dad

0:03:39 - escaping to paris

0:07:01 - grief, guilt, and forgiveness

0:08:40 - healing through vulnerable conversations with loved ones

0:10:12 - healing and self-love

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tina’s point of view

this episode is about tina's individual point of view as one of the three siblings. tina talks about the moments leading up to her parents' divorce. when the divorce was finalized, her father kept the company and her mother kept the house. tina expresses how difficult this was for her and her family. she reflects on the impact it had on her, her parents and her siblings. their mother had become increasingly lonely. she had a boyfriend, but due to the stigma of divorce in the chinese community, she was unable to discuss her mental health. her first suicide attempt was stopped by a cop, and she was hospitalized for a few days. however, her second suicide attempt occurred when the tina had left to go to work. they noticed her light was dimming and that she often didn't want to get out of bed. despite their efforts to get her help, their mother ultimately passed away.

trigger warning: this show discusses sensitive mental health topics.

episode timestamps

0:00:10 - the divorce of my parents

0:01:29 - their mother's mental health struggles and suicide attempts

0:03:31 - experiencing a loved one's depression

0:07:47 - final moments with a loved one

0:09:06 - the loss of a parent to suicide

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sunny’s point of view

this episode is about sunny's individual point of view as one of the three siblings. the divorce of their parents was very messy with a lot of fighting, arguments & infidelity. during high school, sunny would barely talk to his father during lunch and dinner when they got together which causes regret today. sunny grew up with a strong and loving mother, but when their parents divorced, their mother's mental health deteriorated. sunny had his own struggles with anxiety but didn't realize what it was, only noticing the physical symptoms like tensing up, freezing up, and sweating. sunmy recounts the story of his mother's battle with depression and anxiety, which ultimately led to her attempting suicide twice. he recalls the emotional drives to the hospital and his regret that he didn't take a semester or year off of school to be there for his mom then the rehab process that followed. the episode is about sunny's mental health journey.

trigger warning: this show discusses sensitive mental health topics.

episode timestamps

0:00:10 - divorce and resentment towards his stepmother

0:02:44 - mental health struggles and the impact of divorce

0:04:40 - coping strategies after a parent's suicide attempt

0:09:50 - mending relationships: a mental health story

0:11:23 - the last time i told my dad i love him

0:15:02 - witnessing the passing of a loved one

0:17:24 - grief and appreciation

0:21:14 - the last conversation with my mom before her suicide

0:27:52 - mental health takeaways from intensive outpatient therapy program

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in this emotional and powerful episode, the three siblings share their personal stories of loss and grief after the passing of their parents. they explore their parents' background as chinese immigrants, their successful journey in the united states, and the struggles they faced during their parents' divorce. they also address the challenges they faced in navigating mental health within the chinese community and the importance of forgiveness and understanding in their journey towards healing. join the three siblings as they share their stories, insights, and hopes for the future, in an effort to help others navigate their own experiences with grief and loss. from discussing their mother's multiple suicide attempts to reflecting on their father's passing due to a heart attack, the three siblings delve deep into the impact of depression on individuals and their families. learn how they have come together as siblings, overcoming grief and supporting each other through the most challenging times in our lives. don't miss this heartfelt and insightful episode that sheds light on the importance of mental health and support systems in the face of adversity.

trigger warning: this show discusses sensitive mental health topics.

episode keywords: grief and loss, mental health, depression, suicide, family support, forgiveness, healing, invisible illness, siblings, overcoming grief, parental divorce, emotional turmoil, cancer of perspective, workaholic, stress management, funeral planning, stepmom bonding, closure, memoir-style storytelling

chapters:

(0:00:01) - navigating difficult family situations after loss

(0:12:38) - depression and suicide

(0:20:59) - invisible illness perspective

(0:35:55) - overcoming grief as a family

(0:39:54) - mental health and support systems

chapter summaries:

(0:00:01) - navigating difficult family situations after loss (13 minutes)

in this episode, we delve into the personal stories of three siblings, sunny, tina, and michele, as they discuss their experiences with loss and grief after the passing of their parents. they explore their parents' background as chinese immigrants, their successful journey in the united states, and the struggles they faced during their parents' divorce. the siblings also address the challenges they faced in navigating mental health within the chinese community and the importance of forgiveness and understanding in their journey towards healing. join us as we share our stories, insights, and hopes for the future, in an effort to help others navigate their own experiences with grief and loss.

(0:12:38) - depression and suicide (8 minutes)

in this part of the conversation, we hear the siblings recount their mother's multiple suicide attempts and the emotional turmoil they experienced. they discuss their mother's first attempt and how it came as a shock to them, as well as the aftermath, including her stay in a mental hospital. they also share the impact of their mother's second attempt, which left her severely injured, and the guilt and regret they felt for not being able to prevent it. throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of understanding that depression is a sickness and acknowledging the limitations of their support'

(0:20:59) - invisible illness perspective (15 minutes)

we explore the impact of depression on individuals and their families, as the siblings describe it as a "cancer of perspective" that can be invisible and debilitating. they express gratitude for tina's support during their mother's recovery and discuss their own struggles with mental health. the conversation then shifts to their father, who passed away from a heart attack, and they reflect on the stress he endured as a workaholic. the siblings share their memories and emotions surrounding their father's passing, emphasizing the importance of managing stress and mental health. they also acknowledge the challenges their parents faced and the strength it took to persevere through difficult times.

(0:35:55) - overcoming grief as a family (4 minutes)

we continue the conversation with the siblings sharing their experiences surrounding their father's death and the immediate aftermath. they discuss the challenges of planning a funeral and the unexpected bonding with their stepmom, who they had previously resented. as life goes on, they each find ways to cope, whether through school, work, or focusing on other aspects of life. the siblings also emphasize the importance of family support and putting aside past resentments to come together during difficult times. however, they also face new challenges as their mother's mental health deteriorates, leading to her eventual suicide'

(0:39:54) - mental health and support systems (11 minutes)

we hear the siblings discuss the discovery of their mother's body, marking the end of her life, and the contrasting sense of closure they felt compared to their father's passing. they share how writing letters to their parents and expressing gratitude has helped them find healing. as the episode wraps up, sunny explains the motivation behind creating the show as a platform for sharing their story, helping others, and fostering deeper connections between the siblings. season one will focus on memoir-style storytelling, while season two will dive into mental health topics.

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prologue: this is the three siblings podcast

this is the three siblings podcast. the core theme is surviving loss & helping others is the purpose. the three siblings are michele, tina, and sunny, who have come together to share their stories and mental health journey. in 2016, their mother attempted suicide and fractured every limb in her body. eight months later, their father had a heart attack and passed away in the hospital. in the fall of 2017, their mother committed suicide. they hope that by sharing their story, they can help others who may be struggling. michele is a producer, singer and dj that lives in new york city. tina is a contemporary artist living in austin. sunny is a business professional working for google in austin. each of them have diverse backgrounds and experiences and are connected by their shared experience of surviving the loss of their parents. here is where they will be sharing their story for the first time.

trigger warning: this show discusses sensitive mental health topics.

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welcome to three siblings. join us as we share our journey through life after losing our parents.

in this podcast, we will discuss how we coped with loss and the lessons we’ve learned.

through honesty and vulnerability, we hope to help others feel less alone.

so, come along on this journey. we hope you enjoy listening to us! this is three siblings.

trigger warning: this show discusses sensitive mental health topics.

produced by dbpodcasts: http://www.dbpodcasts.com

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