Three questions to create assertiveness

State it like you mean it

This is the fourth episode of the six-part series, “Demystifying Assertiveness.”

Series. 2: Episode 4
 

In this episode, Dr. Dee Discusses:

• What is mental ascendency of State
• What steps do we take to create this state?

Key Takeaways:

1. First you start with this question. What do I notice about my ability to navigate conversations authentically? Am I authentic? What is working? What is not?
2. Our thoughts create our interactions and situations
3. Conditioned consciousness plays a part.
4. Learning to listen at level 3

Resources:

U.S. Anderson. (2012). The Magice of Your Mind.

Connect with Dr. Dee:

Website: BlueEggLeadership.com

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Three questions to create assertiveness

This is the third episode of the six-part series, “Demystifying Assertiveness.”

Series. 2: Episode 3

In this episode, Dr. Dee Discusses:

• Stress induced communication
• How you can preframe with the three questions
• What are the three questions?
• Postframe to improve the process
   

Key Takeaways:

• Statistics show American’s are stressed: 83% of US workers suffer from work-related stress.US businesses lose up to $300 billion yearly as a result of workplace stress. During 2019, 80% of workers in the US were stressed as a result of ineffective company communication.
• What are the three questions?
• There are three post frame questions to practice also.

“By practicing using the three pre-frame and post frame questions you can navigate conversations more effectively. Practice this consistently to improve your assertiveness”. Dr. Dee

Resources:

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Website: BlueEggLeadership.com

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Why assertiveness is important?

This is the second episode of the six-part series, “Demystifying Assertiveness.”

Series. 2: Episode 2

In this episode, Dr. Dee Discusses:

• Assertiveness and stress
• Why is it important
• The inner and outer world of assertiveness

Key Takeaways:

Not being assertiveness denies us of productivity, clarity of direction, good conversations, decision making efficacy and causes stress.

1. Self-defeating believes about self or other
2. Lack of skill of practicing self-management and communication
3. Not challenging thoughts about the situation

“Assertiveness is the balance of mastery between skillful communication, effective listening, and curious learning. It’s a powerful practice that separates originators apart.” –Dr. Dee

Resources:

Back, R & Back, K. (1986). Assertiveness at Work – A Practical guide to Handling Awkward Situations. McGraw Hill, London.
 

Connect with Dr. Dee:

Website: BlueEggLeadership.com

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drtrudeau

Dispelling the Myth of What Assertiveness Is

This is the first episode of the six part series, “Demystifying Assertiveness.”

     Series. 2: Episode 1

In this episode, Dr. Dee Discusses:

• The “continuum” of assertiveness
• What is the difference between passive, aggressive and assertive communication
• Determining where you stand on the continuum so you can change it
• What keeps us from being assertive?

Key Takeaways:

• Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. In the field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is a skill that can be learned and a mode of communication.
• The continuum really separates from coping communication techniques and effective assertive techniques!
• Assertive: Assertive is actually the natural style you were born with. Your wise self as a child would ask questions, share ideas, stories, narratives and tell others what you wanted or thought.
• Assertiveness is the practice of talking with concise, clear, compassionate language and listening at level three. It is influential, powerful and empowering.

“Assertiveness is the balance of mastery between skillful communication, effective listening, and curious learning. It’s a powerful practice that separates originators apart.” –Dr. Dee

Recommended Resources: 

Back, R & Back, K. (1986). Assertiveness at Work –A Practical guide to Handling Awkward Situations. McGraw Hill, London.

Connect with Dr. Dee:

 Website: BlueEggLeadership.com

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drtrudeau

Owning Your Space

This is the final episode of the six part series, "Making Headway with Your Inner Dialogue: 6 Ways to Take Charge of Your Inner Critic."

     Series 1: Episode 6

In this episode, Dr. Dee discusses:

• How is it defined?
• What is personal agency theory?
• How does having personal agency benefit you
• What is the difference between hypo and hyperagency?
• The ten steps to achieve

Key Takeaways:

• Personal agency helps people choose their own paths and influence short-term outcomes plus longer-term destinies. Bandura's social cognitive theory identifies the core belief in personal agency as self-efficacy—confidence in our ability to perform a task or achieve a goal
• You are responsible for your thoughts which create your feelings and emotions
• There are key steps to achieve Owning Your Space:

1. Find your avatar values
2. Use your voice assertively
3. Control Stimuli
4. Associate Selectively
5. Get Active
6. Position Yourself as a Learner
7. Manage Your Emotions and Beliefs
8. Deliberate, Then Act
9. Connect to Resources
10. Practice mindfulness

“Owning your space is building an empowering consistent inner dialogue that inspires you to be bold, practice compassion and lean into mastering your awareness of your journey”-Dr. Dee

Recommended Resources:

• Alper S. (2020) Personal Agency. In: Zeigler-Hill V., Shackelford T.K. (eds) Encyclopedia of Personality and Individual Differences. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-24612-3_1871
• Bandura, A. Self-efficacy mechanism in human agency. Am. Psychol.37, 122–147 (1982).
• Bandura, A. (2000). Exercise of human agency through collective efficacy. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 9, 75–78.  https://doi.org/10.1111/1467-8721.00064.CrossRefGoogle Scholar
• Bandura, A. (2006). Toward a psychology of human agency. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 1, 164–180.  https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1745-6916.2006.00011.x.
• Haggard, P. Sense of agency in the human brain. Nat Rev Neurosci 18, 196–207 (2017). https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn.2017.14
• Napper and Rao, et. Al. (2019).The Power of Agency: The 7 Principles to Conquer Obstacles, Make Effective Decisions, and Create a Life on Your Own Terms. Macmillan Audio

Connect with Dr. Dee: 

Website: BlueEggLeadership.com

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drtrudeau