Episode 28- Breaking free from the darkness of sexual assault (Aliza Latta)
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Take These Ashes
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"When we’re in the pit of shame, when we’re in that darkness, we may not believe there’s a way to get to healing. And sometimes it takes people who love us well to fight for us, carry us, take us to the Healer."
tw: sexual assault and abuse
Sometimes when we walk through fire, it takes space and time to realize just how high the flames reach and how deep the pain runs. Aliza had no context or comparison for her first relationship (with a Christian), and when things went wrong it took her a while to wrap words around what she experienced. On this episode of Take These Ashes, join Aliza Latta and Heather Lobe Johnson for:
- Aliza’s experience with sharing her story of sexual assault and abuse with others
- The metaphors and images God gave to both Aliza and Heather in their healing
- How to navigate safe people, where to share our stories, how much to share and when
- The story of the paralyzed man whose friends carried him to Jesus for healing (Luke 5) and how that relates to our own need for healing in community
- (28:45) Aliza’s encouraging word to anyone who is walking through this particular type of pain
- (32:40) Aliza and Heather pray together over listeners for healing and encouragement
About this week's guest, Aliza Latta:
Aliza Latta is a Canadian writer, artist, and author, who is a huge fan of telling stories. Her artwork and writing has been featured in publications for LifeWay, Dayspring, and (in)courage. She is always searching for the goodness of God, even when she has to squint to see it.
Connect with Aliza:
- Subscribe to her monthly newsletter on spiritual direction: https://alizalatta.com/subscribe
- On Instagram: instagram.com/alizalatta
- Read Aliza's article on (in)courage: Step into the Light: A Story of Healing After Sexual Assault
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This episode is brought to you by RE-ROOTED: A 6-week growth journey for women (offered by Heather Lobe Johnson, Spring 2021). Sign up here for more info: heatherlobe.com/course
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*Listener note: This episode is part of our 6-week BREAKING FREE series where we’ll be talking all about healing from sexual brokenness. While we’re mindful in these episodes to not discuss the graphic nature of these topics, they’re still mature conversations. Please be mindful of sensitive listeners nearby and your own needs as you enter into these discussions with us. Ultimately we want what’s best for your healing, and we hope these episodes will be a part of that path for you.
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